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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:07:56 pm
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November 25, 2007, 12:05 pm PST

single is best

 I can gladly say I am very happily single and plan on keeping it that way

for the rest of my life. ''Men'' are tooooooo much work and wayyyyyyy too

stressful to handle. I've delt with way too much in my life. And I so hate sex.

I'd rather marry myself then ever marry any kind of arrogent jerk who thinks

hes got to have sex 24/7/365 days of the yr. Yea, I dont think so. And half

these stupid guys who call themselves ''men'' dont even know half the

meaning of what a true man really is. Cause all these guys on your show

ether wanna be a bunch of ''mamas boys'', abusers of all kinds, cheat,

or whatever they can do to have as much sex or control as possible,

so they can be the ''man'' in the relationship or whatever they wanna call it.

They all make me sick. And this is why I stay single. I hate most guys because

of who they are and thinking they can get away with all they can before they

get caught. I have no kids ether. Thank god!!!!!!!! They may be good for some

people but not for all. Ive been raped, molested, abused, hit, ect.

They all make me sick and another thing I cant handle hugs anymore.

Most guys all they like to do when they hug is hump ya. Eeewwwwwwwww!!!! 

I havent talked to this guy after the crap he tried on me. I hate everything abt

the whole male population (good or bad). I know, sad, but its exactly how I feel.

 

-Whatever-

 
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December 13, 2007, 9:23 am PST

Loving IT

I love being Single....After never being alone my entire life. I went straight from my parents to living with my boyfriend, who I eventually married and was married to for 13years. I finally dont have to answer to anyone. Ok except my children but you get the picture. I can buy what I want when I want to and go out or stay in if I am in one of those moods with out some one b*tchn at me for not being social. When i go out I can act anyway I want because there is no one telling me stop or getting mad because I was talking to a guy that I know or just being friendly. Those are just a few things I love about being single.

 
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December 13, 2007, 4:04 pm PST

Love Being Single

Quote From: minndakota

I love being Single....After never being alone my entire life. I went straight from my parents to living with my boyfriend, who I eventually married and was married to for 13years. I finally dont have to answer to anyone. Ok except my children but you get the picture. I can buy what I want when I want to and go out or stay in if I am in one of those moods with out some one b*tchn at me for not being social. When i go out I can act anyway I want because there is no one telling me stop or getting mad because I was talking to a guy that I know or just being friendly. Those are just a few things I love about being single.

 Being single rocks!  I finally met a cool guy I can live with but I lived single up until age 43!! I loved it but now that I'm older I'm ready to live with someone. I'm glad I had all those years to myself, though. Enjoy it as long as you can!!
 
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December 17, 2007, 1:14 pm PST

yeah love being single to

 After spending time with a really neat women, and sharing time together she ended our relationship.  She said she could not live like we had been, and that I was not doing things right. I guess  my not letting her mold me into the man she wanted had made her give up. So this has made me think that remaining single is better then being hurt again. She says one thing, and then ask me to do another, and she is really confusing to me. I have never been in a relationship that I had done everything wrong. Sure I have not done things right always, but I have not done things all wrong either. I understand that I am a man, and we men have our ways. Not all are great, but we are who we are. I respect a women for who she is, and not to try to mold her to be the perfect one. I take things as if I have feelings for her, and she is making my heart warm inside then I have to except her as she is. SHe like men will do or say things to make me upset just like we men do, but the thing is we have to except each other as we are not who they want us to be.. When we talk she seems to not hear things I say, and continues to say things like yes but your still doing this or what were you thinking when you did that. I know she does not take into account my feelings as much by the way she say these things. I have come to the conclusion that its her feelings that matter, and not mine. She tells me this all the time. SHe will say what do you think about this, and after I answer she says no you can't do it that way your supposed to do it like this. Then when I disagree she tells me I am not listening to her. Anyways yes I feel it's better being single. This way I do not feel shaky at times when we talk thinking I did something wrong again, and get my butt chewed out. Ah the single life. No more dating for me maybe not even friends for a while. Any ones help or to talk is welcome.     Robert
 
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January 7, 2008, 7:12 pm PST

Getting to know who me is

 I was married 13 years and my husband past away in 2003 with heart attack. I was left to raise my son, at the time age 11 alone. He is now 16 and lives with his fathers parents since April 2007. I have found myself to be alone since April and for the first time I am enjoying being single. Don't get me wrong, I have gone out on a couple of dates here and there but I am not looking to settle down. This is the first time I have had time to myself. I can sleep late, not cook, do less laundry, go any where I want to after work and not have to come straight home and most of all I am learning who I am. After  my husband past away I had so much on my mind to have to get done right then and then taking care of my son and others around me. I was alway putting others first. Now it is my turn. I get lto learn things about myself that I never really thought about.  Like for example what kind of guy do I want? What will I put up with and what will I not put up with? Do I want a Godly man? You can not love someone until you learn to love yourself and I am learning to LOVE ME.
 
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January 22, 2008, 10:45 am PST

disrespect is an obstacle

I have been on the side lines for a long time because anxiety and what ever else had me worry alot. Well i'm ready to begin but i'm afraid about people disrespecting the girls i am with because they disrespect me. I deal with alot of harrasement because of being a virgin and the only reason that is an obstacle is because of peoples hurtful words.My counselor says i need to give myself more credit and not worry about what people think. How can i stop caring what people think? and i want to meet nice girls who respect me but should i tell them i am a virgin or does that matter?
 
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January 23, 2008, 1:49 pm PST

Don't matter

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I have been on the side lines for a long time because anxiety and what ever else had me worry alot. Well i'm ready to begin but i'm afraid about people disrespecting the girls i am with because they disrespect me. I deal with alot of harrasement because of being a virgin and the only reason that is an obstacle is because of peoples hurtful words.My counselor says i need to give myself more credit and not worry about what people think. How can i stop caring what people think? and i want to meet nice girls who respect me but should i tell them i am a virgin or does that matter?
 The thing is it's your life, and should be happy where your at. If I was you I would just enjoy the relationship, and not worry about being a virgin. In todays world thats a big thing I feel you need to be proud about, and just not worry about what people say. When they say things about it or you it is there feelings, and thats where it should be. Your doing what you feel is your life, and live it how your wanting to. I have never let others opinions get mixed up with mine. It's my life, and I can incorparate in mine or not. Just me yourself, and wait tell the time is right to say those things. There is nothing wrong with you for being a virgin ok. Hope this helps out.       Robert
 
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January 25, 2008, 4:18 pm PST

single is great

YES, I HAVE FOUND THAT BEING SINGLE IS GOOD.  AS I GET OLDER I AM LESS AND LESS WILLING TO "SHARE" OR FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO FULFILL THE MOTHER/HOUSEWIFE ROLE. 

IT WAS HIGHER EDUCATION THAT FINALLY CONVINCED ME TO DIVORCE MY HUSBAND.  I LEARNED THINGS THAT LEAD ME TO REALIZE THAT MY MARRIAGE WAS OVER--I DID NOT LOVE HIM ANYMORE.  I HAD BEEN "FAKING IT" FOR YEARS.  HE DID NOT RESPECT ME, NOR I HIM, WHICH I BELIEVE IS AN AXIOM OF A UNION. 

I HAVE NOT MET ANYONE ELSE THAT I WOULD EVEN CONSIDER DATING, LET ALONE SHARING MY LIFE WITH.  I KNOW THAT I AM MISSING SOME OF THOSE LOVELY MOMENTS THAT CAN HAPPEN BETWEEN A COUPLE BUT THAT RIGHT PERSON IS ESSENTIAL.  AS THE DOCTOR SAYS, "I'D RATHER BE HEALTHY ON MY OWN THAN SICK WITH SOMEONE ELSE."

THANKS FOR LISTENING

 
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January 26, 2008, 2:13 pm PST

same here

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YES, I HAVE FOUND THAT BEING SINGLE IS GOOD.  AS I GET OLDER I AM LESS AND LESS WILLING TO "SHARE" OR FEEL LIKE I HAVE TO FULFILL THE MOTHER/HOUSEWIFE ROLE. 

IT WAS HIGHER EDUCATION THAT FINALLY CONVINCED ME TO DIVORCE MY HUSBAND.  I LEARNED THINGS THAT LEAD ME TO REALIZE THAT MY MARRIAGE WAS OVER--I DID NOT LOVE HIM ANYMORE.  I HAD BEEN "FAKING IT" FOR YEARS.  HE DID NOT RESPECT ME, NOR I HIM, WHICH I BELIEVE IS AN AXIOM OF A UNION. 

I HAVE NOT MET ANYONE ELSE THAT I WOULD EVEN CONSIDER DATING, LET ALONE SHARING MY LIFE WITH.  I KNOW THAT I AM MISSING SOME OF THOSE LOVELY MOMENTS THAT CAN HAPPEN BETWEEN A COUPLE BUT THAT RIGHT PERSON IS ESSENTIAL.  AS THE DOCTOR SAYS, "I'D RATHER BE HEALTHY ON MY OWN THAN SICK WITH SOMEONE ELSE."

THANKS FOR LISTENING

 I ahve found it good to be single also, but I to miss the closness of another. Just the talking or the walks. I am sure some day I will have that again. right now I am having to leran about myself, and just try to get out so I don't go crazy. I have found that we as people in my opinion just give up on things to soon. I also feel that some times we feel changing people to what we want from then rather then enjoying who they are. I feel that to see the persons ways, and there individual things they are made up. I have tried to learn them, and except them for who they are. I have had some tough relationships that seemed they tried to change me to there liking rather then to except me as me, and to love me as me only. Well maybe there is a special person out there that will need me like I am, and not think os ways to change me. I think this is the biggest problem with todays relationships. I also feel it's lack of respect for the other to. I feel it's a shame that it's this way. I long for a life long relationship with her someday. thanks for listening.
 
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May 18, 2008, 8:13 pm PDT

Seeking Intellectual Stimulation

When I was in college I used to read so much. now I feel like I spend my whole mind trying to be productive, but miss that stimulation that I would get. anyone have any tips for how to incorporate more intellectual activity into your life?
 
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