Topic : 12/27 Runaway Dramas

Kim's Mother is smoking dope!? She doesn't know how to deal with her daughter?  She needs to quit smoking dope and get herself straight before she can truly be a good parent.  She needs treatment for her addiction.  When the mother gets clean she will see things more clearly.   Introducing her fifteen year old daughter to a twenty year old man is not something a sober, clean mother would do!

You are one in a MILLION (or more)! As another poster wrote, "there by the Grace of God go I." Hopefully you realize that MOST adult, young person relationships are NOT about love, respect, committment and marriages that last long at all.

 

I have friends who are married to MUCH older men (much like your situation), but they were not teens when they met these men and they are independent women (as you say you are). They were mature for their age and they have very good marriages. So, yes, an age difference doesn't necessarily mean the older person is more mature or more dangerous than the younger person, but in MOST CASES it is a horrible match and often it's against the law!

You are as wrong as the original poster!

 

Why do you think there are laws on the books about adults having sex with young teens? It's called RAPE and it's illegal!

 

Children, even if they BEG for a sexual relationship, are still emotionally and LEGALLY children. It's up to adults to act responsibly (and LEGALLY) and stay clear of young people who are easily swayed and manipulated. Sadly, so many young girls aren't getting affection and care at home that they believe everything these older, scummier men have to say!

 

Sorry, but that's not acceptable...and it's not LEGAL. PERSONAL RESPONSIBLITY has to do with ADULTS, not kids. Kids will always be dumber, easily swayed and gullible; that's why they're called CHILDREN!!!!!

Dr. Phi and Staff,

 

Please, please, please put a notice on this website advising your fans that they should NEVER post pictures of their babies/children.

 

As a former felony probation officer (married to a federal officer for the last 17 years), I have had enough training and heard enough true stories to know where SOME OF THOSE PHOTOS end up!!!

 

Some are morphed in disgusting ways (objects put in the child's mouth, etc) and sent all over the Internet.

 

Please, Dr. Phil & Staff, put a warning on this site to remind viewers of the dangers of posting pictures of babies and children!!!

In America there is a common misconception that children runaway from home because they are societal delinquents who want to be free of authority. The media depicts homeless and street kids as "rebels without a cause", as children who have no regard for society, who have no dreams and no aspiration for life but to get high.  

 

We know this portrayal of homeless and street kids to be false. In fact we know that 90% of children who run away have encountered mental, physical, emotional, and/ or sexual abuse. No child wants to live on the streets. No child want to have to beg, steal, sell drugs, and/ or themselves just to survive.

 

More than half of the children on the streets are still under the age of 15.  Unable to legally work, these kids get involved in ciminal activity just to survive.  Based on current estimates, there are more than one and a half million children, teenagers and young adults trying to survice on the U.S. streets today.  Children now make up 27 percent of the fastest growing segment of the U.S. homeless population.

 

For more info:   www.turnpurple.org       

 

The Turn Purple Campaign is the nations' first campaign against child abuse and the resulting problem of youth homelessness. 

 

It takes two consenting adults to tango. Other wise it's called rape.

i am sorry i might of missed a few things.. i was only able to catch the end of the show, with that 15 year old runaway... and i completly saw me when i watched it...   i am 23 now.. and i have changed my ways.. i have changed so much, more so since i had my baby.. but things havent changed with me and my mom...   dont get me wrong, my mom wasnt into drugs like her mom is.. my mom is a very respected women in the town we live in.. she has a respectable job, and is so well known... i on the other hand, even tho i helped everyone with everything i could, even tho i would go to our seniorsitizen complecks to visit and play games with everyone... even tho i have tried to make myself as respectable as her, i never was able to.. i made mistakes, even got into drugs myself... drinkin at a younge age and dated guys who were a lot older then me.. never had sex till i was 16, my choice, and still to younge for me!
  anyways my mom and i have the same relationship this girl and her mom have.. even still.. my mom told me the same things, such as her heart had a shell around it b/c i have hurt her to much... but do you know what? it was always her fault for it.. my mom always wanted me gone, one of the times she kicked me out she stopped talkin to me for a year and a half, except once a week she would show up at my house to take me to councilling with her... the only condition i could see her an hour a week.. nothing before or after that.. just that hour.. with very little talkin...
i am gonna stop.. my point is.. everyone always makes it seem like its b/c she is 15, a child.. but from what i seen with her mom and dad.. no i think its the parents.. 15 year old "children" and younger do everything for a reason.. its not always b/c they are just being stupid.. its the parents.. it was in my case and many others i knew of too!
  i  just think that there could of been more then what meets the eyes or then what was said.. and instead of fully helping her, she is now gonna feel like everyone abandoned her.. being sent away without getting help with her and her mom together..  that just makes me feel sick.. she didnt wanna go, but her parents signed the papers, probably thinking they were doin her a favor.. i hope it was and it could of been.. if not she'll have so much more to work out!!! trust me

I think it's wrong. Sorry, but I think your relationship started under horrible circumstances.  A 16 year old doesn't have the capacity to understand those kinds of long term decisions and any 42 year old man who wants to have sex with a 16 year old girl is a pervert IMO.

Am I glad it worked out for you? I guess. I think there is a child part of you that is probably still a victim of sexual abuse.

I totally agree with you about controlling teen-agers.  My Mother and Father were both raised on the "Spare the rod spoil the child" moto and they raised my sisters and I the same way.  We are now 34, 31, and 25 and we live very productive lives because we not only had both parents in the home but they always agreed on our discipline. They forever told us "If one of us says no then you better not ask the other."  We respected that because we knew the consequences. Never were we abused nor did we fear it.  We just always had a mutual respect for our parents and they did with us.  Our parents have been married 35 years.  I wish more people would realize that if they want people to respect them, they first have to respect others.  Same goes for parents and their teenage kids.  It's a two way street. 

 

Unfortunately we live in a very different day and time.  Young parents are clueless when it comes to raising kids. Ninety percent of the time the kids are raising the parents. If you so much as spat your child on the hand or leg in the grocery store for whatever reason and someone witnesses, they're ready to turn you in to CPS.  The thought sickens me because most CPS workers neglect and abuse their own children.  Kind of a double standard if you ask me.  Then, if you take drastic measures to control your teens it's considered absue or assault. 

no i am 23 right now.. and i can remember 15.. you look at yourself like you have rights.. like you are able to make a desicion on your own without books saying you cant.. so i agree, as long as there are teenagers , it will always be there..
not saying at 15 i think  its alright to have sex with older ppl is right by all means.. my first was 21 and i was 16...   which is no better! but i dated him for 2 years prior.. which now i see is not so good..
anyways she is most likly like me, looking for love, in any form.. by the looks of it.. mom and dad never showed her how much they loved her, or not in the ways that would of benifited her.. that was my problem too