Topic : 04/02 In-Law Threats

I use to post here often over my ex- inlaws. I left my husband. Leaving the marriage isn't for everyone but it was the right thing for me. It all boils down to what your husband does. If you have support from your man then you can get through anything. But when you don't you are all alone. I love how Dr. Phil tells the man that he needs to lead HIS FAMILY out of this.  A woman gets broken down and depressed when her man isn't taking care of things or ignores the hurt she is going through. Men think woman love to fight and be drama queens but if your own family is hurting your wife the man needs to protect her. No one gets married to go through this hell.

I am divorced because my husband didn't stand by me. He was part of the problem. He lied to his family about me. Made things up to make me look bad. I couldn't figure out why one day they liked me then the next they hated me. His kids also lied about me. I was hated again. My sister in law tried to break my marriage apart 3 times. She would call in the middle of the night because she would get the nerve after getting toasted. She would call me to tell me my husband is in love with his ex who is her best friend.  The drama from my husband and his family was so extreme. If his family didn't hate me they hated the other SIL. Talk about walking on eggshells. My husband would leave me on the holidays. I could go on and on with the stories of constant judgement and hate from this family.

This is how I handled it. I have the gift of forgiveness. Everytime they hated me I talked to my husband. He was no help. He would say, I don't know, they just don't like you anymore. That was a lie. So I approached MIL and she told me her son was saying this and that. I told her the REAL Story of what her son did and his kids. She got confirmation and we made up. I forgave. I asked her to please call me when she hears things. She agreed. Well she didn't. Of course my respect for my husband also was going down the toilet. Then it happend again. And these people don't just get upset, they will dis own you and hate you and not even call you up and tell you off. You are just written off. So I asked MIL again what is up. She told me the lie she believed. It was set straight again and FIL told me he don't apologize to anyone but I deserve one. I forgave instantly. Respect for husband still dwindeling away.  So from this point one would think that the family would get wise to kids stories and there son. NOPE! It happend a 3rd time.   Along with all this hubby didn't stand up to SIL calling in the middle of the night. I tried to talk to SIL many times. I sent her an invite to Thanksgiving. I tried to make ammends. She stays away from the family. I always sought forgiveness. My other SIL upset my daughter one night and my daughter went home and I followed her. I got confirmation from hubbys two other kids what SIL said to my daughter.  Once again hubby didn't follow me out the door. He didn't even come home for a few hours. It was Xmas. Hubby would never follow me out the door.

So i decided that xmas night I was done with this freakin family and my husband. The family always hurt me. They never hurt my daughter. But when that happend I was done.  Hubby and I don't have kids together. 2 are his and 2 are mine. My daughter is 18 and she told me she was sorry for not seeing the hurt they did to me all those years. Now she got a taste of it and she was extremely angry.

My husband and I went to counseling 2 seperate times. I know he was most of the problem. He is a pathological liar. He couldn't tell you what color the sky was. He would say it was green. That's how bad he is. We did family meetings. We did everything. And when another situation arose for him to be the man of our house. He didn't take the chance AGAIN. So I looked at him and said I'm leaving. I have realized that you can't and won't be the head of our house. Your family is your marriage. I need you and you can't be there for me and put this house 1st. So I am leaving. I apologizied for not leaving a long time ago. This was all happening before we got married too. I should have left.

It's been 9 months since I walked out and I have never been so happy. I am not judged anymore. Not Hated based on all lies anymore. Don't have to hear that phone ringing at 12 midnight from SIL. Don't have to wonder what my husband is lieing about today. I am dealing with pain because I married him. Why would I want to marry this. EWWWWWW!

I am seeing a man whose mother told me that if they ever got mad at me, there son would follow me out the door. She said she could never call me a bitch to him. He won't allow it. She said that he won't allow any negative talk about his ex-wife in his presence because she is the mother of his kids.  She told me that she loves me to death anyway and doesn't see this happening and told me that her family would never do what that OTHER FAMILY has done.  I scored!!!!  My man tells me that I deserve happiness and nothing less.

I am a woman of forgiveness. I tried everything to save my marriage. I sought forgiveness when I was hated. It wasn't hard for me at all.  I went to counseling and was told that how I handled it showed how strong I am, how mature I am, and how committed I was to my husband. My husband showed me that he wasn't going to put me and his house 1st. I know I would have never left if my husband JUST ONCE stood up for me.

So remember, it's all about you and your man. Do all you can to make ammends. I pray all your hubby's take Dr. Phil's advise. There's nothing sexier then a man who stands in front of his wife protecting her.

I use to post here often over my ex- inlaws. I left my husband. Leaving the marriage isn't for everyone but it was the right thing for me. It all boils down to what your husband does. If you have support from your man then you can get through anything. But when you don't you are all alone. I love how Dr. Phil tells the man that he needs to lead HIS FAMILY out of this.  A woman gets broken down and depressed when her man isn't taking care of things or ignores the hurt she is going through. Men think woman love to fight and be drama queens but if your own family is hurting your wife the man needs to protect her. No one gets married to go through this hell.

I am divorced because my husband didn't stand by me. He was part of the problem. He lied to his family about me. Made things up to make me look bad. I couldn't figure out why one day they liked me then the next they hated me. His kids also lied about me. I was hated again. My sister in law tried to break my marriage apart 3 times. She would call in the middle of the night because she would get the nerve after getting toasted. She would call me to tell me my husband is in love with his ex who is her best friend.  The drama from my husband and his family was so extreme. If his family didn't hate me they hated the other SIL. Talk about walking on eggshells. My husband would leave me on the holidays. I could go on and on with the stories of constant judgement and hate from this family.

This is how I handled it. I have the gift of forgiveness. Everytime they hated me I talked to my husband. He was no help. He would say, I don't know, they just don't like you anymore. That was a lie. So I approached MIL and she told me her son was saying this and that. I told her the REAL Story of what her son did and his kids. She got confirmation and we made up. I forgave. I asked her to please call me when she hears things. She agreed. Well she didn't. Of course my respect for my husband also was going down the toilet. Then it happend again. And these people don't just get upset, they will dis own you and hate you and not even call you up and tell you off. You are just written off. So I asked MIL again what is up. She told me the lie she believed. It was set straight again and FIL told me he don't apologize to anyone but I deserve one. I forgave instantly. Respect for husband still dwindeling away.  So from this point one would think that the family would get wise to kids stories and there son. NOPE! It happend a 3rd time.   Along with all this hubby didn't stand up to SIL calling in the middle of the night. I tried to talk to SIL many times. I sent her an invite to Thanksgiving. I tried to make ammends. She stays away from the family. I always sought forgiveness. My other SIL upset my daughter one night and my daughter went home and I followed her. I got confirmation from hubbys two other kids what SIL said to my daughter.  Once again hubby didn't follow me out the door. He didn't even come home for a few hours. It was Xmas. Hubby would never follow me out the door.

So i decided that xmas night I was done with this freakin family and my husband. The family always hurt me. They never hurt my daughter. But when that happend I was done.  Hubby and I don't have kids together. 2 are his and 2 are mine. My daughter is 18 and she told me she was sorry for not seeing the hurt they did to me all those years. Now she got a taste of it and she was extremely angry.

My husband and I went to counseling 2 seperate times. I know he was most of the problem. He is a pathological liar. He couldn't tell you what color the sky was. He would say it was green. That's how bad he is. We did family meetings. We did everything. And when another situation arose for him to be the man of our house. He didn't take the chance AGAIN. So I looked at him and said I'm leaving. I have realized that you can't and won't be the head of our house. Your family is your marriage. I need you and you can't be there for me and put this house 1st. So I am leaving. I apologizied for not leaving a long time ago. This was all happening before we got married too. I should have left.

It's been 9 months since I walked out and I have never been so happy. I am not judged anymore. Not Hated based on all lies anymore. Don't have to hear that phone ringing at 12 midnight from SIL. Don't have to wonder what my husband is lieing about today. I am dealing with pain because I married him. Why would I want to marry this. EWWWWWW!

I am seeing a man whose mother told me that if they ever got mad at me, there son would follow me out the door. She said she could never call me a bitch to him. He won't allow it. She said that he won't allow any negative talk about his ex-wife in his presence because she is the mother of his kids.  She told me that she loves me to death anyway and doesn't see this happening and told me that her family would never do what that OTHER FAMILY has done.  I scored!!!!  My man tells me that I deserve happiness and nothing less.

I am a woman of forgiveness. I tried everything to save my marriage. I sought forgiveness when I was hated. It wasn't hard for me at all.  I went to counseling and was told that how I handled it showed how strong I am, how mature I am, and how committed I was to my husband. My husband showed me that he wasn't going to put me and his house 1st. I know I would have never left if my husband JUST ONCE stood up for me.

So remember, it's all about you and your man. Do all you can to make ammends. I pray all your hubby's take Dr. Phil's advise. There's nothing sexier then a man who stands in front of his wife protecting her.

Did you get the help you were looking for?  If so, is it helping.  I feel bad for you on this message board.  It feels like you feel very attacked.  I hope things are going better for your family.  You deserve respect, just as much as anyone.  I just don't believe I could ever go on TV to air my differences because too many people become involved, and that, for me, would not help.