Topic : 06/05 Big Spenders and Cheapskates

I'm wondering where Carlina gets off saying she is intitled to have a 52 in. plasma t.v., over 100 pairs of shoes and very expensive clothes and jewelery!!!!! I'm 64 years old, raised a family and wroked for a long time and sure don't have all that!!!!!! All she is doing is stealing from the stores and credit card companys!!!!!!!!

Katie, I was having a really hard time understanding what you found so funny when speaking about your husband controlling the money in such a hard fisted way. Listening to your story I didn't find any of it funny at all =(.

First and foremost you both need to work on your own credit ratings. I don't think it is going to matter a wit if your husband has great credit, and you find yourself in a situation were you having a great credit rating is needed and don't.

When your husband said on the tape that if you don't like his ways, there is the door, I thought yup use it you jerk lol. What a callous thing to say, in any event even if he said that facetiously I would pay heed to those words.

Ok so he got a four wheeler and a motor cycle and what ever else, and you got ... oh yea no name brand peanut butter.

Being interdependent in a marriage is not wrong, it is healthy, so get healthy girl or in the long run you are going to pay a hefty  price for it.

Dad bemoaning the fact that you shell out 125 dollars for your son to learn social skills, pre school skills, and just all around having fun is shameful. I didn't see you as a tight wad, I seen you as a very selfish man who wants what he wants, and the rest of the family can just deal with it or move on.

Lots of women stay in relationships that are unbalanced and unfair, has nothing to do with her being happy. 

I am sure you are quite pleased with yourself, and happy,as for your wife if she was to speak for herself I am sure there would be things in the relationship that make her unhappy.

Don't know to many people that are happy about being called a "Lazy Oaf" or who have so little consideration from their spouse that if dinner is late they can stay home and starve for all the spouse cares.

To me it just sounds like an abusive situation, and many women are feel trapped in those situations, has nothing to do with the happiness of the couple.

I have hardly any words to describe my feelings about Carlena & her immaturity, selfishness, irresponsibility, & just plain stupidity.  I know she got the way she is because 'someone' enabled her, probably her Mother, but there's just no excuse for this girl to live the way she does & get away with it.  She thinks she's sooooo special....I've got news for her, she's not, at all!

She says people have talked about her all the time since she was a young girl.....I'll just bet they did, especially if she had that same 'attitude' when she was a girl.  She needs to know that just because people talk about you, doesn't mean that's a good thing.....in her case, quite the contrary.  She needs to get over herself & grow up....she's not fooling anyone but herself.   The looks on her face all during show though, indicate that she just doesn't get it & never will.  She thought everything was one big joke, but the joke was on her.  

Calena dear...you are not a movie star...people talk about anyone and everyone because they like to gossip and right now they are saying not very nice things about you...why would you want that?  It just seems you have become so arrogant that its lead you to stealing and I was really hoping Dr. Phil would explain to you how you could end up in prison for what you have done.  Don't sell all that stuff your mom loaded up as the credit card company is going to want it all back!  They have to get their money somehow and they will come in and take everything you have charged...and you will be black listed on all credit cards and not beable to get another one...your credit will be ruined and you will be taken to court and forced to make monthly payments to them OR go to jail...its considered a white collar crime...stealing!!

You are nothing more then a thief and that is certainly nothing to be proud about. Do you deserve the title of a thief?  You probably don't think so but that is excatly what Dr. Phil was trying to tell you.  I would be so ashamed of myself if I did something like that.  I had ONE credit card to be used only when I truly need it...such as last month one of my cats got seriously ill and just to start treatment for him I had to put down several hundred dollars which I didn't have in my checking account so I did use it then.  Its for cases like that...not to spend on a bunch of useless junk that you can't take with you when you die. 

Our treasures are in Heaven not on earth...one day you will discover you deserve something much better then money or material things...

Good luck...I hope you grow up soon before you find yourself sitting in jail...