Topic : Online Dating

hi 

it seems that my dilemmas that i happen to like white guys, but every time i pick one i get dumped on. 

 they either afraid of i being black or all they looking for is you know what. 

 i live in a small town in Florida and here you  find so many mixed couples. so why cant i attracted the right guy.  

     I am also LDS and that makes it hard for me to find the right guy. I just wonder if there is something wrong with me. Why is it so hard for me to find someone special. He doesn ' t have to be perfect just special. 

                                           Thanks chilln ' 

Ok I have been divorced for the past 7 years.  I have had one terrible relationship in that whole time and no dates.  No its not that Im a complete dog either.  But Im really not sure what it is.  I teach aerobics and run a cafe in a gym.  You think I would meet at least one guy in all this time.  Whats up.  I can't beleive that Im destine to be single because if that was the case Im sure god would take away the desire in my heart.  I have'nt really done the online thing either because thats just not my thing.  Besides I live in Hawaii the chances of the guy liveing close enougth for me to meet is slim to none.  Am I being to picky or what.  How do I get out of this rut Im in.  Oh yea I don't do the bar scene, any surgestions would be appreciated. 

I'm definately not a success story of on-line dating but i am still a fan. In March, I will be an online dater for about a year. One thing I can say is online dating is it will provide you with as much as you put into it. When I have more time and desire to correspond I tend to go on a couple dates a week. When I get lazy it gets slow. I have met some very nice men, went on very nice dates, and had second and third dates with a number of men. No one has asked for sex, been rude, or out of the realm of what i want---and all this w/o a picture posted.  

It is true people that people will lie about what they look like (with not so true pictures), how much that earn, and what they are looking for in another person. But does that really matter????? Its hard to know if you are attracted to a person before you get to know them a bit anyway.  I think its important to stay open minded and atleast consider the idea that is somone is attracted to you then they may be right. I hear a lot of people complain about people not responding to them and then compain about the people who reach out to them. I say give on-line dating a chance and as soon as there is any indication of a person wanting sex--such as the first 'off' comment--nip it in the bud and say you're not interested.  

I just wanted to say thank you for the advice and actually - different side of the situation (about getting to know someone before you can really say you're truly interested or like them).  I didn't think about it in that light & that's important in this online dating world of ours!  Let's hope that this month brings about a little change.   

I live in UK and have recently been dating on line. Mate got me on there for a laugh but it has actually been fun and have met some interesting guys . Only ben on for a month now and have made some good friend so far. However, yu can get on great via enail and phone but if the chemistry isn't there when you meet then it is disappointing and I have yet to meet someone who wows me to the point of wanting to see them again romantically although still keep in touch via mail and phone as don't believe it is fair to lead anyone on. 

I am new to the internet and was getting nice mail then a couple pulled me up short as they were rude and offensive so made me more aware that not evferyone out there is for real and genuine!! 

I have a couple dates lined up so fingers crossed that Mr right is out there for me one day. 

Maybe I am fussy but rather be happy single than settle for 2nd rate relationship and be unhappy!! 

Getting older sometimes gets scarey on your own but dont need a guy but would want someone there  who would meet me half way.and be strong themselves to be confident to let me be me!! 

Hope everyone finds what they are looking for 

Just dont settle through fear 

Misadventurs of On Line Dating.  I have met several very nice guy on line.  Some have become great friends.  There was no spark between us but we had so much in common we decided to be just friends.  You can never have too many friends....now for the misadventures.  I have met two different guys with the same outcome.  We emailed, instant messaged and spoke on the phone for hours on end.  We would discuss everything, and I do mean everything.  Finally we would meet, go out on several dates and really have great times.  With both there was a mutual attraction, common interests etc.  Then a day comes when we have a difference of opinion or some type of disagreement.  These men I spoke to for weeks disappear.  It's like they fell off the face of the earth. They don't take phone calls, respond to emails, or talk on messanger.  The minute we find a issue we don't agree on they can't deal with it.  There is no communication.  What gives.  I am an honest person and I don't sleep around.  My personal values are discussed day one so that isn't the issue.  With one guy it was the marriage issue.  I'm not looking for a husband but I would like to someday settle down with my soulmate.  Well this guy said he will NEVER marry again so he stopped communicating with me.  He feels there is no way we can date because down the road I will want more.   The second one was the issue of how often we will get together and a statement I made that I would like to be somewhat a priority in the life of the guy I am dating. I still haven't heard from him.  He was upset because he felt I was demanding he go on a date with me instead of taking care of chores at his house.  How do you get a great guy that you can talk to about anything, communicate instead of running away when an issue arises.  What am I doing so wrong.  The second guy I really care about and can see my self falling deeply in love with.  But he won't talk to me because he misunderstood an email I sent to him.  I can't fix the problem if he won't communicate.  I have left messages and emails, I have apologized for the miscommunication. 

Why can't men face an issue.  I feel I lost my soulmate in this one.  We were great together. Any advice is greatly appreciated.