Topic : Online Dating

I feel for you I really do. I know how nice it feels when you chat with someone and believe that "this could be it." I have done the online dating for quite sometime because it was easy for me due to my lifestyle. You did the right thing because you stood your ground. However, dont let one man ruin you from trying again. I know how hard it is. I went on many dates when I first started and ended in the same situation as what you have experienced. I too wondered if I would ever meet that special someone. I also met guys the normal old fashioned way....the problem is that you cant force love to happen. I know none of us enjoy hearing "it will happen when the time is right" heaven knows I used to dread it everytime I heard that line....cried many tears over it too. Mr. right is out there so dont give up. You may find him online or you may find him in the grocery store. But also you may want to consider expanding your horizons a little bit if you are looking online....look in other cities to see whats out there, or even try other sites because there are so many and they are all about the same. I met my fiance on megafriends and I dont regret the day that I posted my profile there, i waited until I was ready and then love was right there at my door...on the first night and I have been hoping for many years now to find that special someone. Good luck to you and remember, stick to your guns but dont ever give up because of one guy. Life is about a bunch of break ups until you meet that perfect one.

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Hey Sherrie! 

  

So glad to know I am not alone with the losers out there....I may have exhausted all options up here in Canada...maybe I should be moving South...lol 

  

Blind Dates...had more than my fair share... 

  

One blind date had me pick him up( no wheels...welcome back to my days in high school...sigh)....he , while in my car, put the window down and spat out the biggest wad of gum I have ever seem a human chew on. 

  

He then asked me what perfume I was wearing and before I could say the words...Aromatics Elixer, by Clinique.....he told me he hated it...oh, and then he said that perfume gives men breast cancer..... 

  

He decided we could go for coffee( i was really thinking more along the lines of driving myself off the Niagara Escarpment)...and so off we went to a dirty diner. I ordered my coffee( two sugars, one cream)....to which he bellowed..." you KNOW that sugar is bad for you...???? 

  

And so being the soft spoken Canadian gal that I am, I screamed out to the server....MAKE THAT 4 SUGARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL 

  

He then suggested we get them to go!!!!!! I looked at him and informed him that ,while my car did have many lovely options,.....fold out t.v. tables was NOT one of them...LOL 

  

As he was a relative of a dear friend of mine( and even after meeting this idiot-we are still great friends),....I had him to my apartment to drink our coffees. 

  

While there, I guess romance took over him and he proceeded to get a little bit "friendly".....I moved away and asked him just what the heck he thought he was doing???? 

  

Without a word of a lie he replied............."I'M JUST SHOWING YOU THE COWBOY  WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" 

  

I grabbed him by the collar took him outside and firmly stated..."look around this joint, cowboy,.....this ain't no dude ranch and I don't have horses." 

  

I ordered him into the front seat and drove faster then the speed of sound to dump the cow patty  off. 

  

End of saga? Hardly...At three o'clock in the morning my phone rang...it was "the dude"...he says to me..."you didn't like me very much, did you????  

I replied, maybe the girls you are used to will hop in the back of your  pick-up after a 6-pack, ...but I have class-you don't and bugger off...!!!!" 

  

A few months later I had the pleasure of meeting this loser's parents and they were so lovely......this guy's own Father told me what a loser his son was!!! 

  

...imagine... 

 Hello Everyone,

My name is Michelle.  I am a 34 year old single woman.   I hardly ever dated in my life.  When I was a teen and in my twenties, I was more into school activities.  After college, I was more into my career.  Now, I am older and I want to find that special someone.   Since I haven't been in the dating scene early on in my life, I have this feeling that I am loving dumb.  I tried to go to clubs, and everywhere, but no luck.  I always have the feeling I fail at flirting.  It is so hard.    Every time I fail at finding someone to at least date, I feel that it's me.  Like my overweightness , shyness or my average looks.   I don't know why I feel that way, because pretty much happy with my self-esteem. 

Now, I am trying online dating.  I posted a few profiles on some dating sites.  I finally gotten some response.  I have tried online dating off and on the past few years.  When I do find that one that is interested in my profile. and we start writing to each other for a few weeks and that'll be the end of it.  I always end up feeling what did I say to cause the communication to stop.   LIke now, I am communicating with a guy  whom has responded to my reply.  The communication was great for a couple of weeks.  And now, he is avoiding me.   It's like I sabotaging myself.  I'm frustrated.  I always wonder if I will ever find Mr. Right.    I am frustrated and tired of loving dumb.  I could relate to Paula on last nights special.  I have that fear of abandonment and I end up making things worse.

Michelle

Certainly, most woment don't enter the dating arena with all the tools to date smart.  I know I sure didn't!  Fortunately I have a fair amount of self-esteem and reasonable expectations - didn't want a mooch and wanted a man who truly wanted to spend time with me.  I found him, groomed him for ten years and subsequently married him!   Yeah, I groomed him for a really long time but I think I would be hard pressed to find someone who loves me more and I do love him.  He's a good man.  My problem is that I am surrounded by a mother and a best friend who continually date really stupid and then want to wallow in their drama.  Mom spent seven years "engaged" to a married man who lives half an ocean and most of a continent away!  Best friend has consistently dated stupid also and married a few of them, in spite of therapy. One of her husbands spent her practically into bankruptcy and the other beat her.  Both say they don't want a man in their life but continuously attach themselves to unavailable or poor catch men and then are truly surprised when it doesn't pan out!  I am so sick of the drama!   

  

Best friend is currently obsessing over an internet relationship that ended - they never actually met!  I don't get it and I am sick of hearing about it!  Must I shave both of them off to free myself from getting enmeshed in their drama.  I feel like I am constantly playing shrink to one or the other and I am tired of it! 

What I was more concerned with was the lack of integirty in the way that dating web sites operate. How they portray members as being current members when they may have allowed their membership to expire. That leads current members to initiate contact which will obviously not be reciprocated hence allowing the person who did inititate contact to believe they have been rejected. The web sites should take down memberships that no longer have active accounts and or do a follow up email to the person who attempted to contact that member and tell them that they are no longer active members. 

Shuvonn 

 Hi everyone,

After my last message.  I had a long serious talk with myself last night and this morning.  Actually it was Dr. Phil in spirit that was talking to me.  I  decided not to pine over this guy I met three weeks ago.  I am just going to keep my profile out on the market, until I find Mr. Right.  I came to the conclusion that there's just too much distance between me and this guy.  I want someone local so we can be together in real life when we want.  I don't want to worry about moving...vice versa.  I am hopeful that I will find that person.  No more feeling what did I do to push that guy away.   I do feel like Paula though.  When there is time I need to cry, men seems to run away.  Maybe that's what happen to this guy.   I don't know...and I don't really care.  I just need to tell myself it's not my fault that I can be very emotional and need to express them.  I want to find the one that accepts for who I am totally on the inside -- emotional baggage and all--- instead of looks.

Michelle