Quote From: spooky84Hello,
I'm a 32 y/o caucasian female from NJ. I have enjoyed this topic immensely therefore, I decided to post a thought or two concerning my experiences regarding it. Please, don't take any of my comments personally though, I am basically just spreading light on this subject. :)
Well, in 1998, after the ending of my engagement, I decided to post some profiles here on the Internet. I had approximately 300 plus dates on various websites. I paid approximately $3000 I'd say in all of the places. Just recently, as of September 2005, I removed every one of them. It's just funny and strange to me in that all of that time, I didn't meet anyone. Well, what I mean is, I guess I should say that no man fancied me. lol (I had numerous relations in telephone conversations and e-mails too. However, it never really got to a point in all seriousness.)
In all honesty, I can say that I did meet a few nice men and we had some fun dates. I just took things lightly like a grain of salt. Maybe that was part of the problem though, because I'm old-fashioned, I let the men do most of the "work". That's just me however.
What's kind of scary to me and a bit even sad is that I was exactly honest and opened in my profile. I said everything (including ALL of my downfalls, one of which is being very average looking and overweight.) in them that truly described me as who I am as a person. I gave my educational background, work experience and characteristics (likes, dislikes, etc) of what totally made "me". I am looking for love and it never happened. Yes, I know you can't LOOK for love but, I just thought that maybe some bloke out in this world of ours would've thought I was interesting enough to get to know deeper. I know and will fully admit from my heart too, that I totally over anticipated and estimated these interpretations from those websites as a sort of fix to the problem of my singleness. I understand fully now life can't be all or end all when it comes to love. I was very foolish and infantile regarding this. That's why I've totally changed my persona in the sense of the phrase, "let it be". I firmly believe in my heart now that whatever happens, it's for a reason purpose and to just live life.
The photos I even posted were me in the sense that I was wearing just regular clothes and I didn't look like I had a glamour shot taken right before posting. I can all honestly open-mindedly state that I was full fledged honest. I know I am just not the typical trophy wife or woman that a man is seeking.
I won't disclose the names of the websites due to the legalities but, I am sure you can all name a few of them on which I did have profiles listed.
I have now resorted to the fact that some people (like myself) aren't meant for marriage and love. I don't mind though because I have other interesting things I'm doing with my life. Hey, life is too short to worry about whom your date is for the weekend or at another affair. Plus, I've learned too that if some one cannot see past your looks (no matter how overweight, average face or unimportant you feel internally), which is bollocks b/c everyone is important in some one's life that right now, someone is waiting for you to walk into their life even if it is to just listen to them. That is one quote my brother said to me recently and I appreciate him and his thoughts for it!! :)
I just wanted to say though, that I truly wish everyone lots of luck and love out here and I hope you all find what you're looking for. If you use the Internet, have fun and good luck!
Best Wishes! :)
You, my dear, are more than OK in my book. I was in NJ (Margate near Atlantic City to be exact, not sure where in NJ you are) for 30 of my 36 years, and for someone in NJ, especially in our age range, to be as open as you are is very attractive to me. You seem intelligent, open, honest, and all the other good stuff men worthy of dating you like in a woman. Ladiesmanheaint@AOL.com is my e-mail if you want to talk(if in fact I am allowed to give an e-mail on this site). I myself am a large person(as in 6'5" and 240 pounds), and looks in another person mean nothing to me, as I too am average looking or worse(as I see it, others think I'm good-looking sometimes). Talk to you soon and good luck to you Sweetie(gently shakes her hand). Have a cigar and relax, you are among friends(lights Spooky's portofino)
Zach Horan
