Chase Catch & Release." these days.
Actually Ive been talking with my female friends, and we are all going through the same scenario.
All are frustrated & ready to give up altogether.
My friends are not over weight like I am & are more than 15 years younger than me... so its not age or body image thats the issue.
No one is staying with a relationship longer than two or three dates or a month at the most, before the guy moves on to the next~ that he has been secretly pursuing.
( Women may be doing the same thing to the men... my perspective is a female one.)
Regardless of what dating site we are using, people tell us what we want to hear...
THey insist to me that they want... a long term relationship to eventually be a couple forever.~they are tired of being alone. "
I have even tried not saying what I want.. in a relationship to see if I am actually bringing on or attracting people that lie to me.
This is not hiding an agenda...so much as trying to weed out Players... in advance.
I can't remember how many sites I have a profile , over the past 2 years Ive met more men than I have in my whole entire life, attracting men or meeting them is never a problem,
II feel I'm to darn Old to play cat & mouse games,, no one will ever obtain what their heart desires if not honest to begin with them selves. thinking being honest & proactive in the search of a partner was the way to move forward to find a partner.for dating towards a longer term relationship.
All that happens is constant interviews getting to know another person, meetings,,, and when you think hey he's a nice person I can see my self with him ~ he disappears.. from the face of the earth... walking away thinking you have found a friend, your search is over & will see them real soon .Because they tell you they like what they see, hear & like you ...only to realize they are gone...with no explanation or closure..
Makes me wonder why so many people are putting so much energy into seducing a person for a connection & then leaving the connection once its been realized.
So in the short scheme of things I know I cant blame the lack of finding a suitable partner on internet dating alone..
My friends are meeting men in clubs,& the internet sites that are generic are going through the same thing I am.
SO truly think that even thou its not easy to find a person even on the internet that you would want to meet, have an interest in , or want to pursue seeing . it does occur.
Given the difficulty in finding a sane responsible person to meet, when you do so you feel relieved that perhaps for all the time invested you have found some one..heck there are thousands to choose from...check reality this is a needle in a hay stack...
I have come to the conclusion that no one really wants relationship even thou they say they DO..
"Chase Catch & Release " is really what they are using in all the ways available to find a one night stand or booty call/friends with benefits that they deep down really wanted any way in the first place,but secretly knew they couldn't admit to the person they are putting there sights on.
Since there are so many options open to them they become careless about the new friendships that they have been working on creating.
I think its so sad because MORE isn't better...actually finding a person to relate to & feel connected to is blessing in disguise...
Many criticize me these days as a Jaded Bitter person...who should take her frustration out on the person is responsible for my disappointments ~ I can't they dissappeard. living in the twilight zone of attempting to meet a partner ,its not possible.
No one wants to project all over a new acquittance, but admittedly how can any one feel free to express them selves when you're waiting for the person to vanish .
Really the issue taking of reponsibility for the out come in a new relationship is.taken out of my hands ... I feel helpless., confused/hurt.
People need to take more responsibility towards keeping these new friends ships & not throwing them away in the catch & release fashion that they are.
Hugs Doll
