Topic : Online Dating

I've tried a few online dates and found after a few months of dating someone, they are still "online" after we were to be exclusive. It seems to have caused me more problems than it was any good. I dated someone for several months and really started to fall for him, then found him on another dating site. I always wondered why he wasn't calling as much as he used to and when he said he would stop over, he just wouldn't show up or call. I went through a lot of grief over this guy, and if he only knew the pain he caused me, I doubt he would have done it. I am epileptic and it caused me a lot of problems because I got myself so upset. I am 45, divorced for 16 years and tired of dating men that have no feelings. The past 2 months have not been easy for me trying to get over him, but I think I am finally moving on. Not so sure I want to try the online dating approach again, but we'll see. Not all men can be this mean, can they? lol

although i never tried online dating, i had the experience of hurt with my bf going online when we had been living together for about 1 year. it was very hard. we were apart for about 6 weeks, then connected again with a long distance relationship, meaning he had moved back home several hundred miles away. but we are now planning to be married the end of january.now to your question---even though i would never trust online dating, meeting someone in person, you still have to have your wall up for awhile. to me, online dating a person can be NOT what he actually is.they can be so sneaky----like looking for someone just in case you don't work out.it is easier online than out in the public looking for someone. thats just my opinion. my bf actually had an internet type addiction to these sites. went to counseling. a lot of people can get addicted for they can be what they are not and lie.i know this happens anyway, but online it is easier.

people can be mean no matter. i am a sensitive person, so i do not understand how one can be so mean.but it happens. i can only say, be glad it was only 2 months involved, much easier no more time into the relationship. these type of people have problems and i would always be very cautious with online dating more so than other ways of meeting (in person)( for i knew what my bf was saying online while still with me.) I think a person can feel a person out more so in person than online. after chatting a while online you think he's great so your mind already has that in mind when you actually meet. Again, not ever having done the online, i don't know, just my opinion. i read good things about it also, but because of my experience, I, myself, would never.

You have to be careful however you meet someone. Good Luck!

Hi I'm Peg,

I was divorced in my 40's and self employed. So the only place I felt I could turn to meet someone was online. I like most had a checklist in my mind, wrote a profile and soon it became apparent most guys just wanted to meet...have sex and move on. It took me awhile to figure out, that was not what I wanted. I wanted something more, something real and honest. So I opened up, spelled out who I was hoping to meet. Then I explained that I wanted to meet someone in the local area, to meet, date and build a life with. Non-negotiable, my two dogs, smoking and abuse. Everything else was up for compromise.

My ad did not get the response I had hoped. So I thought to myself " your a Realtor, how would you sell a house?" Then it hit me. Post lots of photo's in different venues. My car, My house, with my pets, on vacation, at work, and all dressed up.  . I started meeting for coffee, and after work. One week  I met 4 different guys. Then I met Bill. He was not what I had in mind, he was shorter than I would have looked for, but he was persistant and kind and seem to be attentive to my every need. Within a week, I knew I had met someone wonderful.

We married one year to the date of our first date in 2003 and we're happily married and have a wonderful home and life with 4 dogs. His two and my two! Match.com WORKS, we are proof.