Topic : Online Dating

once upon a date
Current mood: amused
Category: Romance and Relationships

Ok it has been almost 3 years since my dating experiences have begun and I have had many what I would classify as abnormal dates- never really being single married young at 17 and  always in a relationship- when I first stepped out I met Dan 18 years my senoir and what an awesome guy- eccentric, artistic, very educated- we dated off and on for about 1 1/2 years -ended because he had no time for me and we werent looking for the same things and I became very bored- not to mention one of the last things he said to me- while on one of our dinner dates I asked him where our relationship was going since it was over a year into it I figure it  is ok to ask such a question- he looked at me and said "Just hang out with me until you get a better offer"- so instead of following him to his place as we had planned I decided to go home-and so online dating began- out of curiousity I began to browse the personals - I was very apprehensive at first but tired of sitting home alone on saturday nights- those of you unfamiliar with these dating sites what happens is you make a profile and they match you ..so they say ..according to your interests- oddly enough these interests rotate now and then- and guys at the bottom of the list come to the top- anyway my first encounter was with James- will call him "James"- he contacted me- even without my pic posted which surprised me cuz most men go for the pic first-I thought that was impressive- anyway what a hottie he was the bluest eyes I have ever seen - we talked online for a while he talked mostly about his ex wife about 80% of the time - should've stopped there.. but I am a sensitive woman and listened to his "she done me wrong stories" and boy did she - she did outragous things to this guy- when I mentioned to him that perhaps he wasn't over her yet he became so insistent that he was - should've stopped there I know- but new to this as I was I dove in- I met James on a Saturday morning due to his "busy" schedule we met at a restaurant near me for brunch- he walked up.. late of course - in work clothes and unshaven, and unshowered- but all this didnt matter once I caught his gorgeous blue eyes- yeah you women know what I am talking about- he knew it too- James was a little bit more complicated- he continued to talk about his ex- and if I mentioned it- it pissed him off- he invited me over to his place (trailer with a hot tub outside) which was next door to his parents where he proceeded to introduce me to on the second date!!! who were also extremely religious- what came to pass is that on another visit to his place- I had taken a shower and found what appeared to be womens stuff in the bathroom- he said it was his exs stuff she must have left some things there-- well of course she did!- and I said " Oh I didnt realize you were still seeing her" come to find out although he told me before he says " I told you she was still stopping by" she as it turns out she was his sex buddy-"stopping by" I guess in guy lanquage means having sex. my bad-- didnt catch on to that soon enough- and heres where it gets interesting- I gathered up all her things and placed in a box and took them to the curb and the pink bath puff thingy- I hung on the white fence for all the see - knowing that she often drove by his place to check things out- personally I thought this to be funny- I put her to the curb!- he not so much-even though he talked so badly about her - we proceeded to sit on the porch and chat when he looked at me and said " dont fall in love" I was like WTF! how arrogant! not to mentioned he just showed me his foot fungus and proceeded to cut it off with a steak knife then pour alcohol on it!  no I'm not kidding!- I said to him "you need to take me home right now!"-  I then cried all they way home about an hours worth why I dont know- of course he was uncomfortable with me crying and was like why are you crying!?- and I am like I dont know!- and believe it or not -I had seen him again about 2 months later - he would text me often and we had a nice time he was suppose to take me out on a saturday evening only to have him text me and say that he had to spend the day with his brother- his brother was having a rough time going through a divorce and all - I said ok its fine - even though I really didnt mean it I gave him the benefit of the doubt- but only to find out my gut feeling was right he would text me early monday morning to say  he met someone while out at the bars- wow- how much of an ass can this guy be? I wished him well and deleted him from my life.

lets see as I continued to use the personals- I would talk to guys for awhile then maybe met them at a public place - I always wanted to keep it simple just a light meal for an hour or so- left it simple to get out of if not going so well- I met Joe- will call him "Joe" my kids laughed becaused he showed up to get me in a budwieser tshirt and ball cap-and a "muddin" pick up truck with insanely large tires-  Joe had some charm though - he just went through a divorce as well and I listened to long she done me wrong stories too- (later on my personal ad I added "please no she done me wrong stories!" )-I was to meet him at a Derby I walked around and saw him.. but decided I would tell him I couldnt find him it felt too awkward but we met another time- he proceeded to wine and dine me at Arbys- and movies at home- Joe was sweet -he often called me to make sure I made it home ok- stopped by my place to check on me and took me out to lunch before he had to go to work- but then out of the blue he started acting weird- not sure why I know he had issues about being hurt - but prior to this he showed me where he lived, where he worked, where he ate out mostly and believe it or not where he parked when he went to walmart! in case I was ever looking for him- ???? it was like a tour -so ok - since he was acting weird I stopped by his work one evening - I even called first brought him dinner-his favorite lasagne- this must have been too much cause I never saw him again- no explanation nothing poof-I thought --was it because I took him food? who knows- so I deleted him from my life and computer. As you may have heard most of the people online dont look like their pics - not surprising- I had made a date to meet someone at a nice restaurant cant remember his name guess he is lucky- but as I sat there not so much hoping he was hot but wishing he would be a nice man and that we would hit it off- and there he came I saw him coming towards the door, but had no where to run to, large and dorky, he was not my type and not at all like his pic- lets say a few pounds heavier and less hair-not that less hair bugs me just not like the pic- but trapped as I was and feeling that I would 'nt want someone to skip out on me like that and it was in fact just a quick meeting- we talked about his dogsand his trucking job- pretty much thats it -thought about saying I had to go to the restroom thing-and ditch him- he asked me if I would like to go to a movie I said I couldnt for my daughter was home ill- which in fact was true and convienent- so he later text me and asked my how I thought the date went and if would I see him again - I replied that I didnt feel he was my type and that I didnt think we would go out again- this man would text me and text me - he proceeded to explain to me that he has never been turned down before and he just couldnt grasp this- wow-but a man can turn you down without even so much as a word- and believe it or not I continued to look at the online personals - I think because I would get lonely and bored and not being the type of girl that would venture out to the bars let alone by myself I had no other options.

Jim-  this guy was so bizarre- I had been lucky for the most part not meeting any crazies until him- we decided to meet at a nice restaurant for lunch- I waited in my car until he pulled in - I got out of my car and he greeted my with a big bear hug- then he proceeded to hold my hand as we walked into the restaurant- this guy was so over the top-he was all over me like an octopus- he sat beside me in the booth and continued to hold my hand while he stared at me the whole time- what was funny as well was he started calling me Mrs.____  whatever his last name was-  and where had I been all his life- it was all so much I really dont think I took it all in right away- he bought me whatever I wanted to eat- when asked what I wanted for dessert I said cheesecake but they didnt have any so he took me to the restaurant next door for my cheesecake- so all in all bizarre but nice- soooo he wanted to take me out again I pride myself in being street smart growing up in cleveland and all- but against my better judgement I agreed to meet him in his town and follow him to his place where he claimed he made me dinner and had some movies-and he promised to behave himself- when I pulled up to the meeting spot he was on his cell phone- so he jumped out of his car and ran over to mine to give me of course a hug through the window of the car - I followed him through town and we turned off a side road then to a gravel road along a railroad track- I see a house ahead so I figure we are there but no we cross over the railroad past the house around a barn to a one way dirt path in a corn field! no kidding at this point I put on the brakes- I call his cell phone and there is no answer- so I back up and begin to go home - he sped up around me to cut me off - I locked my doors and he came to the window I said I was uncomfortable following him into that field and perhaps we should keep it to dinner in public- all the while I was still being polite- so he said "fine" he couldnt help it he lived on a farm- whatever! he sped off making tread into the opposite direction of "his home" and I not realizing til later he was wearing all black! even a hoodie- oh and lets not forget that he also had one green eye and one blue which was way too freaky when he was staring at me- anyway he later texted me and said "he was sorry he bothered me" and in my opinion if he was not up to something he would have been more understanding of my reluctance to go into a dark corn field - anyway he is still online so dont go out with him-

so I started chatting with Lou online - Lou and I thought seemed to have a lot in common- he invented bar stool sand riders perhaps you've seem him- on country fried videos- anyway we decided to meet due to our schedules we met on a weds eve  late- we met at the texas roadhouse- nice place we talked while his female friend kept calling/texting- no big deal just meeting the guy so what if it doesnt work out- but still rude-I listened while he decided to share with me his colonoscopy experience and how he ordered snake bite appetizers thinking they were really rattlesnake pieces-  his friend wanted us to meet her at a bar- we went out to his car where I found out he had brought his little dog with him in his pimped out Trans Am- and he starts petting his dog "who's your daddy ..who's your daddy" - yeah in baby talk no less- so I told him that he could just go on to meet his friend at the bar because I really dont like bars- he said "oh please come on"- so didnt want to be a party pooper so I went -I followed in my car - one thing I have learned always always have an escape vehicle of your own- what a horrible night this was- his female friend didnt like the jukebox at that bar so we went to another where I watched them play pool- finally I decided I had enough of these hole in the wall dives and he walked out to say goodbye to me and take his dog pee- yeah his dog was still in his car- so he bascially brought a mans best friend on our date and another chick- what class! not to mention the fact that he apparently lied about his height yeah I noticed!

Michael-- I absolutely adored this young man- not much funny about this experience.. but an experience no less- maybe in time I will find the humor in it- Michael 12 1/2 yrs younger than I- contacted me online- a very private shy person-we decided to meet for brunch one morning- and he of course (which I found was a pattern with him) was very late- however he did dress nice and shaved got points for that- I suppose he was indecisive from the beginning even- he wasnt sure about the online dating thing either- I had left the restaurant thinking he wasnt going to show but he called and I turned around- I talked a lot :he smiled a lot-I thought he was cute- he text me after the date and asked me what I thought - I told him-I thought he was cute and I liked him- he said that made him happy- we went out again he took me to a movie and to Dairy Queen-and he was late of course-  we had an ok evening- but it went on from there I met most all  of his family his mom, brother, uncles, aunts, cousins and his beautiful 3 small children which I fell in love with- everything went so fast - too fast which caused the ending- we would text eachother often- saw eachother when we could but come to find out he wasnt divorced yet- stated he was single on the personals- but he came clean and said he was going through a divorce- things changed almost as fast as they begun- I am sure he is better off with a woman his own age but it still stings-he text to me say he had too much on his plate and needed some time.. what does that mean anyway? guess that was his way of letting me down easy- but in a text come on-  with all this new tech ways of communicating emails, texting chatting, IMimg have we lost something in the process? when we want to break up with someone we text them "sorry but its not working" or "I've met someone else"- what a chickens way out- I get many messages online perverted ones, messages from married men, pics of peters- men asking questions about sexual position preferences - its crazy - where are all the good guys gone?  I recently began chatting with a guy online we met once I thought he was nice- I was impressed with him- he did and said all the right things- he dressed nice and was well mannered - turns out I kinda liked him-the more I talked to him online-  but he said he wasnt looking for a relationship - he just dated - I said I didnt want to get into a situation where I might get hurt- so we stayed friends- so I dediced I would take a chance and ask him out again he told me he was in a relationship!- wow! that stung a little. Was this partly my fault for hesitating? Or did he just not persade me that much or want me as much- he said this chick he is in a relationship with had took him forever to get her to go out with him and when she did poof they are in a relationship! Everyone gives me advice ;dont act desperate, dont call him, say no once in awhile, dont be too nice- I am so confused I dont know how to act anymore.

I have gone on several dates sometimes I feel as though I could not and will not sit through another date listening to another man tell me about his wants and wishes and dreams- but again as loneliness and boredom sets in I will continue to add to this Once upon a date blog on online dating... to be continued

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Sunday, November 04, 2007

what love means to 4-8yrs old

What Love means to 4-8 yr olds   Slow down for three minutes to read this. It is so worth it. Touching words from the mouth of babes. What does Love mean? A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think: ________________________________ "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." Rebecca- age 8 ________________________________ "When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy - age 4 ________________________________ "Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other." Karl - age 5 ________________________________ "Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy - age 6 ________________________________ "Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri - age 4 ________________________________ "Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." Danny - age 7 ________________________________ "Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss" Emily - age 8 ________________________________ "Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." Bobby - age 7 (Wow!) ________________________________ "If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate," Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet) ________________________________ "Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle - age 7 ________________________________ "Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy - age 6 ________________________________ "During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." Cindy - age 8 ________________________________ "My mommy loves me more than anybody You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare - age 6 ________________________________ "Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine-age 5 ________________________________ "Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 7 ________________________________ "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day" Mary Ann - age 4 ________________________________ "I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." Lauren - age 4 ________________________________ "When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image) Karen - age 7 ________________________________ "Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross." Mark - age 6 ________________________________ "You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." Jessica - age 8 ________________________________ And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry" ________________________________ When there is nothing left but God, that is when you find out that God is all you need. Take 60 seconds and give this a shot! All you do is simply say the following small prayer for the person who sent you this. Father, God bless all my friends in whatever it is that You know they may be needing this day! And may their life be full of your peace, prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a closer relationship with you. Amen. Then send it on to five other people, including the one who sent it to you. Within hours you caused a multitude of people to pray for other people. Then sit back and watch the power of God work in your life. P. S. Five is good, but more is even gooder!

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Wednesday, October 24, 2007

just a cute quote

"TO THE WORLD YOU MAY BE ONE PERSON: BUT TO ONE PERSON YOU MAY BE THE WORLD."

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Saturday, September 22, 2007

I would say that you should listen to your parents. I've been in similar stituation..not so long ago.

I met this guy and talked almost about everything. He felt nice. Sooner or later it came to sex.

Usually guys whom are after sex they choose girls whom are shy and whom are unexperienced about sex. This guy whom I was talking with he scared me when I told that I know how some guys in the online are after sex only and I wasnt stupid to see whom are that kind of type. Then he quit taling to me about sex and stuff. They keep looking till they find someone whom doesnt see through of them that what kind of predators they are. They can be nice...make you feel better but that is how they are. Trying to make you feel confident with themselves...when they have your confident...they'll attack. When they have got what they have wanted they dont care about you anymore. Just be careful and dont let him use you.

I know that type of guys what they are...they care only of one thing...they dont care your feelings.

Your parents are right. Listen to them.

Have you seen the match.com guarantee where if you don't find a match within 6 months, they will give you 6 additional months for free?  Well, I've been a member since April and they will not honor the guarantee.  They want me to sign up for another 6 months!  My current subscription expires mid January so that will take me into July before they will honor the guarantee.  What a rip off. 

Well I am not new to on line dating and probably will continue with it. I have has some bad experiences but also some wonderful experiences. Many people are still seeking their "model body" girlfriend or boyfriends. Just alittle shout out "NO ONE IS PERFECT."

 I myself have met a few married men. It makes me sick to know that some many people cheat. WHY?

 I chop it up to people just don't care no more.

Although being single is very lonely it really is safe. Can't get hurt.

Lonely in Canada (unwilling to feel hurt)

Hi I just signed up to this online dating just to see what people are looking for and what they want in a partner and its funny people are still looking for someone whos is athletic, sexy, and in shape. they want someone who is or should say looks like a model or a barbie.. Why have we put so much into the media that we as women have to look like we just came from a package..... I mean i am 34 yrs old and well after 4 kids I have a little xtra pounds and well i know that i have to lose some of it  to be more healthy so why are we making our children think that they need to be a sex figure.... I mean lets be real we are not all perfect.. and we need to love ourselves for who we are not what we look like..