Topic : Ready for Marriage?

It seems to be affecting your relationship because of the shame you are feeling over what you clearly articulate as a mistake.  Maybe you should first think over exactly what you are feeling and deal with it before bringing it up with the man you are actually in love with.  Make sure it is real what you are feeling for him and is not just guilt for doing that to a really wonderful man who is possibly going to marry you.  Make sure what you feel about what happened first and then think of him and make your decision to reveal this or not based on HIM, not yourself.  Most likely he knows that there is something going on with you, but he may not be able to figure it out, which probably is hurting him as much as you are hurting, if not more.  If he wants to marry you, he is thinking of you and what is affecting you, and he's probably wondering why you won't talk about it.  After time, this could lead to worse, where he begins to think its him that there's something wrong with and it could all just spriral into neither of you saying what you want to say and that's more messed up than if you just are honest.  The truth often gets very skewed when feelings of this magnitude are involved, sometimes to move past the regret and forgive yourself may be more than enough to reassure yourself and him that you are devoted and committed to a life-long relationship together.

First make sure of what you feel for him and if it is what makes a marriage, then you will do what is best for him and he will, in turn do the same for you.  Don't leave this one to chance, if you know what you feel about what you have done and about him, then don't waste one single moment more wallowing in shame.  There are consequences for what we do, but we have a degree of control over how we choose to live with those effects.