Topic : Ready for Marriage?

I just finished reading Love Smart and thought the book was great.  So much of it seemed to be plain common sense but sometimes we need reminders of what common sense is.   I was married for 15 years and I am in the process of a divorce.  I wish I would have had this book to read 15 years ago. Maybe I would have had my eyes open a little wider and would have been aware of deal breakers.  I would recommend the book to anyone who is early in a relationship or single.  I think Dr Phils book relationship rescue is better suited for a married couple having issues.  I hope you enjoy the book. 

I AM IN A 3YEAR RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BOYFRIEND. I AM A WORKING SINGLE MOTHER AND HE IS A COLLEGE STUDENT. WE HAVE ONE CHILD TOGETHER AND I HAVE ONE FROM A PAST RELATIONSHIP.  AT THE BEGIN OF THE RELATIONSHIP WE TALK AND SAW EACH OTHER ALMOST EVERY DAY OR AT LEAST 3 TO 4 TIMES OUT OF THE WEEK.  WE NEVER WENT OUT TOGETHER ON THE TOWN SO THAT IS NOT A BIG ISSUE. BECAUSE I AM A AT HOME TYPE OF PERSON AND HE IS A BUSY PERSON WITH SCHOOL. 

BUT LATELY THIS YEAR IS ALL SO MISSED UP FOR ME.  I FEEL THAT HE DON'T HAVE ANY TIME FOR ME OR OUR CHILD, IT SEEMS THAT EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY COMES BEFORE ME AND MY SON.  IF HE IS NOT AT SCHOOL, WORK, PLEDGING, OR EVEN DOING INTERNSHIP SO THAT HE CAN GRADUATE IN MAY 2006.  I TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT HE IS GOING THROUGH AND TRYING TO DO IN HIS LIFE BUT I WISH HE WOULD INCLUDE US IN IT SOMETIMES. NOT JUST WHEN HE WANT SEX AND COME AND PEAK AT THE BABY WHEN HE IS SLEEP OR JUST PASS BY LIKE THE WIND. 

HOWEVER, LAST MONTH I CAN SAY THAT ONE OF MY WISH CAME TRUE,THAT HE GET TIME FROM SOME WERE BUT I DING 'T  WANT HIM TO LOSE HIS JOB. BUT HE DID AND FREE  TIME DIDN'T COME JUST MORE ISSUE WITH HIS FAMILY THAT HE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF. SO ONCE AGAIN THAT MEAN WE ARE STILL ON THE BACK PORCH WAITING . 

DON'T GET ME WRONG HE TAKE GOOD CARE OF BOTH OF MY CHILDREN AND TREAT THEM EQUALLY HE TAKE CONCERN IN MY OLDEST SON SCHOOL WORK AND THE THINGS HE LIKES TO DO. FOR AS OUR SON HE PLAY WITH HIM BUT , JACOBI AMUSE HIM WITH THE THINGS HE DO AND SAY. I HAVE TO REMIND HE THAT HE IS NOT THAT LITTLE BABY NO MORE HE IS A ROARING 2YEARS OLD. 

BUT FOR OUR TIME KNOW THAT I WORK LATE NIGHTS HE CALL ME OR TEXTS ME AROUND 4:30 AM UNTIL HE FINISH GETTING READY FOR SCHOOL AND WHEN I GET OFF AT 7:30 AM. 

HE ALWAYS TELL ME TO BE PATIENT WITH HIM EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE BETTER FOR ME AND HIM AND THE BAD BOYZ  HAS HE CALL THEM.  

SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS PROBLEM BECAUSE 

1.  I DON'T WANT TO LEAVE HIM 

2. WE HAVE A CHILD 

3. THE FAMOUS I LOVE HIM 

Hey everyone - So here's the scoop ...  

I've been best friends with a black guy for 7 years. We've been through everything together: relationships, boyfriends/girlfriends, divorces, family/friend deaths, college and high school graduation, etc etc. Within the past 3 or 4 months, we've both recently become single and have been spending more time together than we usually did in the past. Over this time period, we've both discovered that we have extremely strong feelings for each other and we are in love.  We want to start dating. My family (particularly my father) doesn't know about our growing feelings because dating outside my own race is not talked about and looked down upon. We've kept this from them for so long, but now things are starting to get serious and we've talked about marriage. His parents are thrilled with everything, but we know we need to sit down and talk to my parents and step-parents. I have absolutely no clue how to go about this, nor what to say. I've dated white guys primarily and I've been going out on dates every weekend, but can't find a match and of course it's because my heart is already taken.  

Can anyone offer any insight/advice/help?  

Thank you.