Topic : Ready for Marriage?

There is no such thing as a woman with a man problem.   If you are nice to boys when they are boys, they in turn, will be nice to you when you go out with them a few years later. 

There are PLENTY of GOOD MEN out there-if YOU don't tease them, leave them and later claim that ALL men are pigs when YOU don't take an account for YOUR POOR BEHAVIOR TOWARD THEM. 

Most of the good men are AFRAID of you. 

Good for you!   You stick to your guns.  Don't let your family be the source of your misery. 

I was with a girl ten years younger than I and her parents COMPLETELY SUPPORTED THE RELATIONSHIP because they knew that AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. 

You aren't cutting your family out-they could be deserting you, although they may not realize it. 

They might be acting out of genuine concern.  However, remind them that the idea of partners being close in age is relatively new (last 75 years).  Remind them that  Mary was 13 and Joseph was in his thirties.   

Remind them that Martin Luther was 44 and Katherine Von Bora was 26. 

It's always been this way-and it's completely normal.  Your family needs to get a life and grow up. 

I said earlier women between 18 and 25.  I see that you are 26.  However, I ALSO see that you are quite the LADY in your inquiry.  I see you are serious about your love for your man and I applaude you for it.  I didn't mean to offend you.  You deserve all the best. 

CHIN UP. 

You are very mature for your age and I applaude the fact that you want to get married at 22.  There ARE guys who want to be married at your age.  However, they often become timid because of all the women your age who don't want to be in serious relationships at this stage of their lives.  

With regard to your family, tell them it's NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS WHO YOU ARE WITH.  If they are Christian, quote them the verse where it states: "What God has joined together, let man not separate."   In other words, God is the one who puts people together whether they are black and white, Hispanic and Asian or Martian and Earthling. 

There's nothing wrong with you.  Your parents are Archie Bunker incarnate and need to grow up.  If you need to, go underground with your relationships.   

Good luck to you. 

I've been engaged for almost a year now and plan on getting married early 2007.  Apart from the porn thing everything is peachy!  I think my fiance has a porn addiction.  When I first found the porn on the computer, I asked him about it but he blatantly denied it at first and then later admitted to it and promised it won't happen again.  Well it's happened about 5 more times and this time I decided to walk away and leave him but he begged me not to leave and that this is it for real and he doesn't want to lose me and all that crazy stuff...I'm worried that this addiction is not over and I don't want to marry him if this is going to continue.  I have a very soft spot when it comes to porn, I was sexually abused as a child and porn makes me extremely angry but he doesn't seem to respect that...what do I do? I'm afraid it's not going to change, I don't know if he's for real or saying he's going to change to keep me around...what do I do???  Any help/advice will be greatly appreciated. 

I really think you need to get out of this relationship NOW!!!!!  Do not get married or it will just end in divorce.  I realize you love him, but he obviously has some serious issues.  You need to be with someone who will make you feel good about yourself and it sounds to me like you don't feel good about yourself.  You should figure out how to make yourself happy and then everything else will fall in place.