Topic : Ready for Marriage?

My girlfriend and i have dated for 6 months and just found out she is pregnant, i want to do the right thing and marry for the child. i dont think my family would accept it if we dont get married...is it the right time or is it too soon?

Hey, my name's Tiffany, and i'm 16. I've gotten into this situation before, myself. My boyfriend and i had been dating for about a month when we decided to have sex. We made the bad decision of not using a condom and i almost got pregnant. This happened to my sister except she got pregnant. I can only imagine what you're going through right now. In my opinion, i think you should if you really want to see the baby and father, AND if you are willing to be a hushand to your wife. You shouldn't only worry about the child, you should also worry about the woman bearing your child. You'll never the stress that's about to be put on her. Make sure you give as much love as you will give your new baby. And if theres no problem with the love issue, than i don't see anything wrong with going through with the marraige. Who knows, it could be the best thing that's happened to you. If i'd gotten pregnant, and decided to keep it, i'm sure that my boyfriend would've done what he needed to support me. And i have no doubt in my mind that you'll do the same for your girlfriend. Hope this helps. Keep me posted.

Hey, my name's Tiffany, and i'm 16. I've gotten into this situation before, myself. My boyfriend and i had been dating for about a month when we decided to have sex. We made the bad decision of not using a condom and i almost got pregnant. This happened to my sister except she got pregnant. I can only imagine what you're going through right now. In my opinion, i think you should if you really want to see the baby and father, AND if you are willing to be a hushand to your wife. You shouldn't only worry about the child, you should also worry about the woman bearing your child. You'll never know the stress that's about to be put on her. Make sure you give as much love as you will give your new baby. And if theres no problem with the love issue, than i don't see anything wrong with going through with the marraige. Who knows, it could be the best thing that's happened to you. If i'd gotten pregnant, and decided to keep it, i'm sure that my boyfriend would've done what he needed to support me. And i have no doubt in my mind that you'll do the same for your girlfriend. Hope this helps. Keep me posted.

Hey, my name's Tiffany, and i'm 16. I've gotten into this situation before, myself. My boyfriend and i had been dating for about a month when we decided to have sex. We made the bad decision of not using a condom and i almost got pregnant. This happened to my sister except she got pregnant. I can only imagine what you're going through right now. In my opinion, i think you should if you really want to see the baby and father, AND if you are willing to be a hushand to your wife. You shouldn't only worry about the child, you should also worry about the woman bearing your child. You'll never know the stress that's about to be put on her. Make sure you give as much love to her as you will give your new baby. And if theres no problem with the love issue, than i don't see anything wrong with going through with the marraige. Who knows, it could be the best thing that's happened to you. If i'd gotten pregnant, and decided to keep it, i'm sure that my boyfriend would've done what he needed to support me. And i have no doubt in my mind that you'll do the same for your girlfriend. Hope this helps. Keep me posted.

Hi. My name's Tiffany and i'm 16. I've been in this situation before and it's not too fun. My boyfriend and i decided to have sex after about a month of dating. We made the bad mistake of not using a condom. Thankfully, i didn't get pregnant, but we did a lot of planning to ensure ourselves that everything would be ok if i was pregnant. This also happened to my older sister but she got pregnant. If you really want to married to your girlfriend, then you have to ask yourself: do i love her?; do i want to father this child?; and am i willing to make this committement? If you answered yes to all than it's a good idea that you do marry her.  If you really want to be with the baby and spend time being a dad and a good husband, there's no reason that it would be a bad idea. It could be one of the best things that happened to you. At this point there will probably be a lot of stress and difficult times but if you but aside all the bad and focus on the good, everything will be ok. I hope this helps and that all goes well. Keep-me-posted.

Heh. Sorry you've got so many different responses from the same person. I tried to go back and fix some spelling and i didn't know it would turn into a new message. Boy, i feel really stupid, but oh well. What do you expect from a blonde. Sorry for the confusion. i'll make note of this before it happens agian. Good luck.

How do you almost get pregnant?  You kids spend so much time thinking about weather or not to get married because you got or got someone pregnant it amazes me.  Spend some time thinking about that before you have sex, talk about how to prevent the pregnancy before sex and you wouldn't be in this mess.  If you are so grown up and think you know it all then why are you getting pregnant in the first place, doesn't sound very grown up or responsible to me.

Hi,, me and my husband have been together for 6 years have been married for almost 4 years we have two boys together but our lifes have been so hard times , see almost every year we have spilt up, these last time my husband left me for his ex's and lied to me about it told me she was someone else never let me see her at frist hide it from me when i found out about him being with someone else i was living with my mother because he up and left me and i had nothing no money i lost my place and he never took us in nothing not even his boys i was mad so i left my mothers and went on my own after i didn't let my husband see his kids for over a month i wanted nothing to do with him so after a while he came around and he ask for his family back but see he was still with his ex's and hide it for me intill she told him she was going to call me so he told me and then she told me and that same day he left her while kick her out ,,, after he kick her out he never left my side for three weeks always wanted to be with me did everything for me and his boys then he came back home to his place and wanted me to come with him so i did i ended up staying at his place for a month and half  will i was there his nephew needed a place so my husband talk to me i talk to him about giving his nephew my place i ended giving my place i moved in with my husband  now i am here and my husbands still the same in some ways and others he hide things i don't no if i should stay with him or should i do what i was going to do and find a place my husband wants us back with him but i just don't want every year to be the same we split up or he leaves me for someone else  what should i do

Hi, i've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now it hasn't been easy I live in Canada and he lives in Bermuda (he as dual citizenship) he came to live in Canada for one year and left to go back home to work.  He wants to marry me and would like me to move with him over there i'm really confused I have a good job (which I don't really like) in Canada  I have no kids  i'm 37y old he's 45y old no kids i've never lived with someone very long and i'm afraid.  He's used to having is own way and can be difficult sometimes he'll try to control every situation and he thinks he's always right we have a hard time to communicate but isn't everyone going throught that ?  If it doesn't work out i'll be left with nothing ......... I love him very much but I am scared of commitment can anyone help me or give me good advice ???  

  

  

   Is it "the right thing to do" marry for the child?;/ in my opinion It is not good to just marry for children. Do you love her? Do you get along well? Does she feel the same? These are a few of the questions you should be asking yourself. Your child will not benefit from you two getting married if you don't love each other and you can't get along. If your still together stay together and work together to raise your child. You don't have to marry to be together. If things work out then go ahead and get married,but don't rush into it due to an unplanned pregnancy. You could both end up resenting the decision and that could have a negative effect on your child. I really Hope the two of you can work things out work together and stay in love for eternity,but if you don't at least have some sort of relationship with each other and work as a team to raise your child. It could be better for the child to have two separate and happy parents then two together ,but miserable parents. Thats just my opinion!