Topic : Ready for Marriage?

I've been dating a guy for a very long time, and he's 31, I'm 22. We have always had a great relationship, though a couple of serious fights, but we've always worked through it together. We're both involved with each others' families, and spend our holidays together with each of our families, even though they're in seperate towns. We've seriously discussed marriage in the next few months, and kids, etc.

A few weeks ago, I found an online profile on a dating website he had.

I made a fake profile, and intrigued his interest so he messaged me. We wrote back and forth, and he asked me if I'd meet at starbucks, and kept telling me how cute I was (I used a friend from college's picture he didn't know) and that he was single, how great he was, etc.

I confronted him on it; initially he lied until I had to read the messages to him. He said he'd learned his lesson and was just scared and would do whatever it took to prove it to me. I agreed to go back to him. Then, on Christmas eve, right after he'd given me all these huge sweet surprises, I went to his room and on his computer to play some music. there was a convo with agirl from before I'd come over about him wnating her to accept a webcam invite, see some skin, etc...lotsa flirting. I started crying. He apologized again, ...and he'd deleted friends, phone #'s, his profiles, everything in front of me. ...

Then today, I got curious...and figured out his password to an email he forgot I knew about..and found out he'd created another private profile on the same dating site!!! I logged into his acct on there and there were hundreds of messages from girls and from him he'd written over the last 5 days. I toldhim I never wanted to speak to him again. He broke his phone he is so upset, and wants to go to counseling together to work it out cuz he says he loves me so much.

Right now, I definitely don't believe him and don't know how I feel about seeing or dating him again. But I do love him. So I don't know what to do. I wanted to spend my life with this man and I feel so betrayed. And I might not be so worried about it cuz its online only..but we met online, and he met his last 2 girlfriends at least online, and they both were out of state or city. We had plans to get married in the next 6 months. I don't know what to do.

I need to hear someone else's perspective about my current situation.  My boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years, living together 1 year, and have been engaged for 2 weeks.  I accepted his marriage proposal and we're planning a wedding in 2008.

My problem is, I always purposely try to find things wrong with our relationship.  Almost like,  I feel like everything has gone wrong with past relationships, so when is it going tto happen this time?

My fiance is not a very open person.  I typically find out things about him when he accidently leaves his email inbox open, and I give into temptation and snoop through his inbox.

Within the last 8 months, I have discovered that he's been having online relationships with two other girls.  While I am mentioned in his correspondence to them, he never tells me that he's having these online relationships.  I am confident that he has been faithful in our relationship, but don't really understand why he feels the need to talk to other girls in secret in the first place.

Is this just another case of me trying to find something to go wrong?  Or do you believe his actions are wrong?  Should I confront him about this again - like I did the first time or let it go?  Confronting him would mean that I would need to admit to peeking through his inbox.

Maybe he's just having doubts?  Although my doubts are mainly because of the emails I find in his inbox.

Im really confused.

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years.  We have had many ups and downs.  I love him with all my heart and have given up so much to be with him. He is in the Air Force and was stationed in Germany for a while, while he was in germany he was deployed for four months.  Since we were just dating, everytime he would get deployed or have to go traveling for the air force i would just fly back home and be with my family.  Its been hard doing the long distance thing but we have managed to make it through.  We now live in Ohio and are currently in the middle of planning our wedding that is to take place in July.  everything was going great until we found out that getting my son this summer was going to be a pain in the butt.  I have a son from a prvious marriage, whom my ex and I share custody.  Anyway after I found out it was like a switch flipped in my fiancee head.  Now he isnt sure if we should get married or not.  He tells me that after everything he has done in the past he doesnt think I will ever trust him again. But I have told him over and over that its in the past, I just want to start a future.  Now because of all this I too am having doubts, and it makes me sad because if we dont get married I dont want to wait any longer for him to grow up.  Im so confused, how did everything go so wrong in just one day?  Please help me.

So, over a year ago I posted on here.....about the same thing...and here I am ......still waiting.

My boyfriend and I will be together 7 years at the end of January.  We own a home together and we discuss marriage all the time.  He says he wants to marry me, but still no ring.

He gets a litle irratated when I mention it and says that he doesn't want to be bugged and that it is something he wants to do on his time. 

Well.......I can't take it anymore.  I am at my witts end and I don't want to wait.  I am 26 years old and he is 33.  Neither of us is getting any younger and I can't help but feel that life is passing me by as I sit here and wait. 

I just need someone to tell me what to do...stupid... I know.  I just don't want to regret giving up!!!