Quote From: princess5000Yes, we do all make choices, wether we married, divorced, had children, become positive or negative role models for our children. Yes, I believe Sean did get uncomfortable, but he cant make his ex wife stop being an abusive bully to him and his new family and most of all his children. He still has bills to pay, a job to go to, and when someone on the other end is not being reasonable, than it does make things a little harder when you live 2000 miles away. Still I read in your opinion that the father should give up everything and be uncomfortable because if he loved his children he would, but yet the bio mom can not answer the phone when he calls the kids, never allow them to call if the wife is at home, not allow her children to have a relationship with other siblings, to talk so horrible bad about there father and making them feel quilty for loving him or wanting to spend time with him, making him out to be the bad guy always, even if she is having issues, she moved that far away, with no concern as how it would affect the children, she can call and leave nasty messages with the kids in the back ground hearing everything she is saying to there father and his new wife, wow seems like I took the wrong route with my ex husband, I quess I should call him repeatedly and accuse him of being an horrible father because sometimes he doesnt have any extra money to help me with our son, after his child support is paid, or maybe I should call his new girlfriend and cuss her out and talk about there baby and say that is not my son's sister. NO! I choose to respect my ex and his new girlfriend and hope that are happy, and thank her for being good to my son. My ex doesnt have a money tree either, he works and supports his son with court order child support and when he can give more he does, I cant ask for more, and when he cant see him because there are times in the real world where things come up or you cant get out of work I just say ok when do you want to see him next. My son never hears a negative word come out of my mouth or my husbands mouth about his bio dad.
'He still has bills to pay, a job to go to, and when someone on the other end is not being reasonable, than it does make things a little harder when you live 2000 miles away.'
Sure does. And?
Your corresponding with a woman who rode a Greyhound (like Dr. Phil mentioned) from Bryan Texas to Farmington New Mexico to facilitate visitation between my son & his bio-father, a path neither the guest or my son's bio-father has taken. I know of what I speak when I say one will find a way if they truly want to.
And BTW, most jobs allow for vacations. If he's employed by one that does not, he should find one that does. And if that seems too insurmountable, he can find a way to have the children retrieved for him or sent to him. Again, they're all excuses not reasons. Heck, I started flying alone at the age 8 years to visit my grandparents. It can be done!
'... but yet the bio mom can not answer the phone when he calls the kids, never allow them to call if the wife is at home, not allow her children to have a relationship with other siblings, to talk so horrible bad about there father and making them feel quilty for loving him or wanting to spend time with him, making him out to be the bad guy always, even if she is having issues, she moved that far away, with no concern as how it would affect the children, she can call and leave nasty messages with the kids in the back ground hearing everything she is saying to there father and his new wife...'
Where did I say or imply that that behavior is okay? Because I think the father should work harder to see his children I must think the mother should then be allowed to do such things? That's really quite a leap & a very inappropriate one on your part.
'wow seems like I took the wrong route with my ex husband, I quess I should call him repeatedly and accuse him of being an horrible father because sometimes he doesnt have any extra money to help me with our son, after his child support is paid, or maybe I should call his new girlfriend and cuss her out and talk about there baby and say that is not my son's sister. NO! I choose to respect my ex and his new girlfriend and hope that are happy, and thank her for being good to my son. My ex doesnt have a money tree either, he works and supports his son with court order child support and when he can give more he does, I cant ask for more, and when he cant see him because there are times in the real world where things come up or you cant get out of work I just say ok when do you want to see him next. My son never hears a negative word come out of my mouth or my husbands mouth about his bio dad.'
Glad you have a good relationship with your ex & his spouse. I don't see what that has to do with my point that the father on the show should work harder to see his child. Excuses such as, and I am paraphrasing, ' I won't go there alone out of respect for my wife.' only proves his refusal to do all he can to see the child.
(Original Air Date: 10/25/06) Dr. Phil's guests say they have a home wrecker in their life who has destroyed their marriage. Lisa says her five-month marriage to Sean is already in shambles because of his ex-wife, Kristy. Lisa says Kristy makes hateful phone calls, physical threats and frequent attempts to steal Sean away from her. Kristy says she doesn't want Sean back; she just wants him to be a good father to their kids. Then, Sherry says her daughter, Tammy, talked her into divorcing her husband, J.R. Now, Sherry wants to re-marry J.R., but both her daughters are making her choose between them or him. Tammy and her sister say that J.R. controls their mother and they won't support this reunion. Is Sherry making a big mistake, or are her daughters manipulating her? Join the discussion. 
