Topic : 06/07 Backstabbing Sisters

Hello. I'd just like to say that I'm a 17 year old boy. I never watch Dr. Phil, but the show today caught my eye. I must say, I spent the whole show feeling very angry towards Chirstie. I felt that she had a vindictive attitude towards her sister's husband from the very beginning, even before this alleged "child-porn" discovery in Stacy's car. Stacy came to Christie in a state of shock and hurt- and Stacy took advantage of this poor woman and talked her into thinking her husband may be leading a double life. A double life? Is she serious? Just because a man (or anyone for that matter) watches pornography, it by NO means implies that they are "strange," or "unhealthy," or a liar. I have read posts on here that claim that she would have no reason to leave her husband because of "regular," or "mainstream" pornography. This statement is assanine. Some people take up extreme views on "anti-porn." Stacy didn't like the idea of her husband watching this material, and Christie seized the opportunity to pound the idea of illegal activities into Stacy's mind, even though her husband could have easilly been watching perfectly legal pornography. She scared Stacy into giving her the family computer because she trusted her. Christie even stated that her sister's husband was in the Mafia! This is INSANITY! Thinking about it angers me. And then, in her false sense of trust for her sister, Stacy left her husband for a time. After a while, I believe that Stacy did talk to her husband, and together they discovered the absolute absurdity in Christie's accusations- and they were right. Christie wanted to find child-porn. She wanted Stacy's husband to abuse their children, and I'm not sure exactly why. Because she wanted drama? I don't think that is the reason why, but I could be wrong. I think the book-deal could be a motive- or perhaps that (if she was abused as a child) she really wanted to "discover" child abuse so she could turn them in and make herself feel better by doing something great. I think she went to extreme and perhaps untruthful extents to "find" the porn on the computer. Like someone said here, all it takes is one innocent click, and your computer is infested. Now Christie really felt like she had leverage. From there, she used vague descriptions and took numerous things out of context to fabricate perfectly clear and decietful stories against her sister and husband. That's all they are- stories. Or at least great liberties with the truth. Fist, she said that Stacy choked her daughter, which her daughter denied to the extreme, and then switched it around and was talking about her father abusing Stacy's girl. I could see anger, hurt, and maybe even hatred in that 16 year old's eyes. And it was all towards her aunt Christie. She cried because that poor girl was worn out from all of the stares she probablly got at school and on the street, from all of the rumors people love to spread, and tired of the endless and idiotic civil war between her family. She said she never wants to talk with her aunt again- ANd I agree with her completely. I would feel the exact same way. Her aunt sent abusive and horrible e-mails to all of the children. Little innocent children, and now they are frightened that their father is going to either murder them or sent to jail for a "long time." That act in of itself was ugly and backhanded. The only abuse going on in this situation was done by Christie- towards Stacy's children and Stacy herself. She has ruined her sister's lives and the lives of all her children in the town she lives in. Christie deserves to be prosecuted! I would love to see her and her husband get a huge law suit for slander. They deserve it. This whole situation boils down to one thing. Manipulaition, lies, and obsession. A very bad combination. My heart really goes out to Stacy and her children.
Another point people brought up is the generalization that children can be hushed up and easily manipulated. I understand that some children are just that, but I take offense at this statement. I know females my age or less that were abused often, and they reported it! they took great joy in watching their abusive parents get thrown in jail and prosecuted, and I would have also. People watch too many movies and dramatized television programs. Of course there are some children who keep the abuse to themselves. But a vast majority of them (this is from numerous conversations) get angry and report it right away. Don't be naive and think that kids are these depressed, self absorbed, lifeless creatures that do what everyone tells them to. I belive Stacy's daughter completely. A member on this board summed up another great point. It's very very scary that with one or two false accusations, a person's life can be devestated. I overheard one horrible boy talking with his friend about planting illegal pillis in another boy's locker, just because they didn't like him. If they would go thorugh with that, that would've been it. The kid's life would be ruined. Isn't that scarY? You really have to know who to trust these days. I'm not sure who will read this whole post, but I hope some do and agreee with me. Even though I'm 17, I believe in justice, and Stacy has suffered a great deal of injustice. I hope Christie gets prosecuted for slander and mallice.
Thank you

My sister betrayed me in a way that can never be totally forgiven.  About a year and half ago she stoled my diary and gave it to my ex husband of whom it was mostly about.  I started writing it when i was going through my divorce so it was also about his pregnant girlfriend at the time as well.  She also proceeded to tell them many things she made up about me to try and get them to take my daughter away from me.  That is the ultimate betrayal.  I would never do this to another person unless i knew they truly were putting their children in danger.  The ironic thing about the whole mess is that she doesn't have custody of any of her 3 children.  Her 2 daughters don't want to talk to her or see her at all.  I may someday talk to her again but i will never be close with her like we were before she did this.  My children are my life and for someone (flesh and blood) to do this intentionally to hurt me, being in the situation already is totally insane.

Hello, they have seven kids...someone has to take care of them, or else they will get another call to CPS for child neglect.

OMG! I cannot believe this! What is wrong here? Why do some just love drama?

 

I have ONE sister and Two brothers- My oldest brother died at age 40- massive heart attack;

I miss him every day- He died in 2002 and I still think Wow I should call him- and then remember oh thats right he is gone- I often think of him- we used to talk almost daily- he used to

live 2hours away.

My sister lives next door- My other brother lives about 10 min away. I am very lucky to have a close family- we have our problems but work

them out- None of this stuff that is going on today between Christy and Stacy. I can't imagine

having siblings like this. Hope it all works out for Christy and Stacy-

 I think Christy is making stuff up- who knows why?

 

Okay, so I saw the first part of this show in October and again today.  I wonder when the follow up comes?  I want to know who is lying.  It appears to me the sister reporting everything is meddling in something she shouldn't be involved in.  If she wants to speak out and stop family violence, she may be more proactive by helping families that are truly in need.  She needs to let her sister and her family alone.  I wouldn't want anything to do with a sister like that.  The further they stay away from the troublemaker the better off they will be.

 I have a sister who has 4 kids.  No physical or sexual abuse though. Both her and her husband neglect the kids. Toddler regularly runs out of formula and is given whole milk instead which is cheaper. No regualar medical care. Children's teeth are disintegrating. Child is lactose intolerant and whole milk causes extreme abdominal cramps and gas. Currently the electricity and gas are off which means no ac in 80+  degree heat and no cooking or microwaving can be done.  I have called CPS several times over ther years.  An investigation is done and then the parents  are given a social worker who monitors them.  This only lasts a few months and things go back to their normally nasty conditions.  I feel sorry for the kids, but my hands are tied.  I think that the sisters in this story are never going to mend their relationship. I don't see anything that makes me suspicious, but the Mom should have kept her mouth shut instead of opening the floodgates to her drama queen sister. A lot has been said and no evidence has been confirmed.

ive been thru a very similer thing with my sister,and she still seems to try to cause trouble.are these sisters just so bored with thier own lives that they have to make trouble for thier siblings.mine has tried to riun my life but its not working.

look at her face she has her acting down well, but not so well that you can't tell it- this sister has a boring life . so she makes up stuff about her sister- both are drama queens- so her husband looks at porn- geezzz- don't most men? but to file for divorce with so many kids who would be affected? both are pathetic- so the poloce, CPS, the mayor , etc, have dismissed it, so lets make it worse by dragging it on TV? she is out of control!

 I feel that no matter what you do or say or how much proof you have, if the child denies it everything will be dropped. Here in Ontario..unless you have proof of abuse there is nothing u can do.  My son gets hit in the head and ears pulled and abused constantly by his drunk father but since its only my word against the father's there is nothing I can do.  Child Services have talked to my son and will not do anything because my son keeps changing his story because he is petrified of his dad.  he loves his dad and doesn't want him in trouble so he lies for his dad.  My son has been doing this since he was 8 years old and now he is almost 10.  I have nothing left after I lost primary residence of my son and no way to get anything back.  I want my son to be happy and safe and ultimately with me but I have nothing to offer anymore but unless my son admits to it there is nothing can be done.  CAS will not persue it because the worker is friends with Troys dad and told me she is not investigating.  So its a lose lose situation.