Topic : 06/07 Backstabbing Sisters

If the husband/dad was really innocent, why didn't he come to defend himself?  If my husband was being falsely accused of something, I would not only being offering to take a polygraph myself,  but I would want him to take one also to clear his name.  What kind of a man sends his wife and his child to defend him?  

It is also very common for children to lie about abuse because they are afraid of getting their parents in trouble and they don't want to be taken from their home.  If this "Mother" had a brain in her head, she wouldn't continue to live with someone  who is obsessed with child porn.   I would be terrified to leave my children alone with him if I ever found evidence of child porn in my home or on my computer. 

Regarding the sister who is trying to prove the abuse ... I would not care who disapproved or how  vindictive it might make you look,  I would never stop if I truly believed that those children were in danger. 

Why don't you do some research and find out how many children grow up being abused in their homes, how many times CPS investigates and says there is nothing wrong, then people keep calling them and one day, guess what?  the child grows up and tells herself, yes I was being abused, however, I didn't want to get my parents into trouble with the law!! 

Christy has pursued this matter far past a line that should have been drawn.  I feel there are too many ulterior motives to her madness. 

I don't think it concerns the safety of the children what so ever.  She is not willing to face the truth.  If she did think Stacy and her Husband needed to be investigated.... well, it's been done.  What is the matter with this woman that she can not accept that?

I think the authorities have investigated this matter with no stone left unturned.  What ever problems this family had prior to Christy getting involved have now been compounded 10 times over. 

The letter sent to authorities by Christy shows her anger and unwillingness to accept the outcome of the investigation.  What a lack of maturity.  The foul language she used was so innappropriate.  

Stacy and her husband seem to have gotten past the "porn" situation.  There is no law against viewing porn.  I don't think I would be happy to find my husband on line viewing it, but that is a problem that needed to be addressed and worked through by Stacey and her husband.   I don't blame Stacy one bit for taking the opportunity to get her breasts done.  Maybe that was her husbands way of saying he was sorry for being caught with his hand in the "porn cookie jar". 

Christy does not know Stacy's family.  She has spent very little time with the children and she really has no idea of what their lives are really like.  I think it's terrible Christy thinks herself such an authority on her sisters life and the lives of Stacy's children.

Stacy's biggest mistake was ever feeling she could confide in her sister when she first became emotionally upset about finding the "porn".  Stacey left and gave herself some space.  It was a good decision.  Unfortunately Christy took matters into her own hands. 

Christy's  "I've was an abused child" drama doesn't fly with me.  Even if she was, I don't think it's relevant to her "hell bent" mission to destroy the lives of her sister and family.  When is enough....enough?  When she gets her book deal????

I have to sympathize with Stacy on this one.  I think Christy needs to seek some outside professional help.   

I think the children have been more traumatized by the actions of their Aunt Christy than anything else that's gone on in their lives previous to this nightmare.  It will be a long time coming that Stacy and her family will ever be able to get past all of this and live normal lives.

I can't imagine a family member bringing so much Hate and Hurt into my life. 

There's a few things that make no sense:

1.  If Christy had only seen Stacey's kids 5 times, doesn't that indicate that they did not have a close relationship?  Why would Stacey call Christy for advice when she discovered a porn disc in her trunk?  Was there no prior indicator that Christy's behavior was a problem? Stacey left her husband to live with Christy for 6 weeks, right? 

2.  Dr. Phil had a statement from their mother, but did not have one from Stacey's husband - why?  Isn't he the one in question?  There was no statement about his absence - why?

3.  Why was no love evident in Christy's words and actions? Instead of concern for what the children and her sister were supposedly going through, it appeared she was more concerned with being found in the right.  Even before Dr. Phil could ask whether their relationship could be restored, she was vocalizing that it could not.  Why the hatred?

The husband needs the lie detector test - that would solve everything.  And if he's innocent, he should be anxious to prove that he has not molested his children.

I am not saying that abuse does not happen and it takes many forms.  I know the statistics very well thank you.  However, your comments to my letter to Christy does not answer what I asked her.  The abuse of children does not begin and end with sexual abuse.  The forms are many, the results are varied. 

If Christy truly believes Stacey's children are being abused then why does it now seem she will continue this abuse by placing her own mental anguish so squarely on her neices shoulders as she did in todays show.  The sisters are both adults but that child on the show today was AGAIN victimized by the aunt.  Did Christy even once consider what her actions and her sisters actions on the show today do to that child?  For that matter did Dr. Phil even consider removing her from the verbal assualt going on all around her.  Even her uncle sitting next to her argued with her during the show.

Let's protect the children........ and not have them in the middle like she was today!

Christy,

I think you are confusing the anger you feel about what happened to YOU as a child with what you THINK is going on in your sister's family.  It's fine to speak out against family violence based on your PERSONAL experience, but instead what you have done is to make a decision that these kids are suffering and not able to speak out ... that is YOUR truth, Christy, NOT theirs.  You are SO over the top with this ... it is INCREDIBLY INAPPROPRIATE to have said ANYTHING to those children ... the damage that is being done to them is BY YOU.  I can support you reporting your sister's husband when you first became concerned ... but to go through the lengths that you did ... writing letters to your sister's place of employment?!?!?!  TOTALLY OUT OF LINE!!!

If I was your sister I WOULD SUE YOU FOR DEFIMATION OF CHARACTER  ..... and guess what, Christy, you would LOSE and LOSE BADLY ... because right now YOU are the only one with proof of wrongdoing. 

YOU NEED TO GO TO THERAPY TO WORK OUT YOUR ANGER FROM CHILDHOOD .... and your sister's kids, especially the little ones, are going to have to go to therapy to work through the damage YOU have done by making them afraid that somebody is going to come in and take them away from their family.  You need to stop pointing your finger at your sister, and take a good long look at YOURSELF instead.  TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE PAIN AND DAMAGE YOU ARE CAUSING TO EVERYONE INVOLVED.  Not ONE of those kids told you that they were touched inappropriately by their father .... the only "sick" person here IS YOU. 

Unfortunately, I know that I'm totally wasting my breath because clearly you are beyond listening to reason. 

I truly hope that you get help for yourself.  I was abused as a child in FAR worse ways than the things you spoke about on the show ... that will never be ok with me, but I have learned to deal with my anger and move on with my life.  The uncontrolled, inappropriate rage that you show is a clear sign that you have NOT come to terms with your own past in a way that allows you to move on in a BALANCED way.  GO TO THERAPY!!!