Topic : 12/26 Cheating Disasters

If a man is married then why does he feel he has to have someone on the side? It shouldn't matter if it's talking, texting, touching or having sex.  We take vows to be with each other for a reason & I would hope not only for safe sex!  Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, which means, in every aspect!!  If you or your spouse needs to vent then vent to your spouse or to your friend of the same sex. If you go outside the boundaries then you are breaking your vows, trust & love for your spouse.  You risk hurting them & your self in the long run. Talking or texting someone besides your spouse is an emotional affair no matter how you look at it!  It always leads to more!

Woman only ask for support, help, conversation & trust in a marriage!  That isn't a lot to ask for when it is natural responses with human's. 

I just wanted to express my thoughts and worries regarding Randy and Kally.
I've only recently seen this show and I've been reading a few opinions on this board. There seems to be some adversity towards Kally. Some people have expressed doubts as to whether she is in fact an abused wife. I understand that there is a lot we cannot now from a marriage just by watching what is presented on the show. But something about what was presented really scared me and I think many of you are not considering its full implications.

It was said that Randy once performed a vaginal inspection on his wife, because he was suspicious that Kally was cheating on him. It was also said that this episode happened “before” she had the affair. 

Now I want you to think about it. What does it mean, for someone to claim that kind of ownership over her wife’s body to do something like this. To me (and I’m a married man, by the way) it seems a cruel violation of a woman’s dignity. This is something I find unacceptable. Even if your wife is having an affair and you know about it, this is not something a man does. It shows that he has no respect for her, as a person. It means he treats her like he owns her. 

Kally also said that he had actually beaten her in the past. And Randy was a bit ambiguous about his answer, but he didn’t deny that fact. 

This is the first time I write a message on these boards. I do it because I felt truly worried about Kally after the show, and I believe she is in the process of finding strength to deal with an abusive situation. I thought she was incredibly brave on the show and deserves support and assistance to go through this difficult process.