Topic : 12/26 Cheating Disasters

When I saw the first lady and she said that her husband bought flowers for a stripper but not for her it brought back old memories that NEVER go away for me. I had wrote in before about my story about my husband cheating on me with a girl in the office in the factory he works in. I explained how my son had been arrested for being with the wrong people and stealing a car and my husband leaving me that same night. We are back together but things I have found out are hard to deal with. My son is now serving time in prison. He was railroaded extremely. I know everyone says that but in this case its true. He was given a chance to do his time in a half way house but decided going to some wrestling event was more important than returning to the half way house. So now he sits in a prison and I am dying inside because of it. He will turn 20 years old in prison. And it breaks my heart. I got off track here! Anyway, I had found out that my husband spent $60 on flowers for someone. NOT ME. He claims it was for me that he bought them one night and came home and I was not here so he took them to a dumpster at his work and threw them out. Such a huge lie. When this girls sister had called me to tell me he was messing with her sister she told me that he sent her flowers. And to make it even worse~this was after he had moved back in with me. He had left only for a weekend. He finally told me that the grass is not greener on the other side and it is why he came back. He admitted to her preforming oral sex on him. Our sex life I feel has not been the same since all of this and will probalby never be. I always think of him being with this girl and it totally burns me that he seldom in the 11 years we have been together has bought me flowers but buys some sl*t $60 worth. He NEVER has spent that much on flowers for me when he did buy flowers on a rare occassion. Let me tell you he has paid the price for having an affair. His truck was keyed and tires flattened. I just cannot figure out how to deal with this and get over it. Here after he got back with me he had gone out a few more times with her drinking. I am so stupid for putting up with it. It was not until I got fed up with being home alone and I went out with a friend (a female friend mind you) to a few local clubs and he got so mad. But it was okay for him to go out with sl*ts he worked with and get oral sex from one of them?? And I went out and it was not with guys. I don't know if I will ever recover from this. Right now I try to make it work because know I will go down hill fast if he leaves me now because of my son being in prison. He seems like he does truly still  love me and loves me even more now since all of this happened. I told him NEVER again next time he is gone. I figure if he didn't want to be here he would not be. He thinks I should just pick up and move to Florida with him too. I have lived in Iowa all of my life 44 years. He thinks my family will make me stay and keep me here but my family does not hold me back. The fact that he messed around on me holds me back. Oh well, I'm rambling. I just wonder if anyone else has experienced what I have and what they have done to get over it. Don't suggest conseling for both of us as he will not admit that he has a problem. He has admitted he was wrong. I've always been faithful to him. I could NEVER mess around on him.

Dr. Phil: When I viewed your show on the above and I hear the name of this group of photogs

I become livid.  Because they have a name tag showing they are licensed and allowed to act

under "Freedom of Press" and they can loiter and be exempt, but if I without a camera did the

same I could be arrested.  I agree they should have some freedom so long as it does not

affect the rights of others.  If the law would restrict photographers from being within twenty five

feet, or standing in traffic (jaywalking) or parking a vehicle to obstruct traffic, using flashes in

front of a vehicle and not be allowed to print any photo that would be considered obscene or

 viewed by any media, then they would be subject to consequences, i.e., loss their right to be

in the vicinity of a person or celebrity, and subject  to heavy fines or loss of camera equipment. 

Obviously, the incentive is the huge pay-off for the right picture.  A perimeter of 25' ft around a

subject or vehicle would suffice asthey all have telephoto lenses.  Everyone should have a right

to privacy.  Thank you.  Ed

           Whispers.

         She comes to you in your dreams

         With crying eyes and silent screams

         Be one with me she whispers sadly

         In your dreams you succumb gladly

         Awake and rising you slumber gently

         Taking comfort in her duties of plenty

         Your bellies full your tit bits are taken

         You have no worries, your not mistaken

          She comes to you in your dreams

          With reddened eyes and no more screams

          Her blood has dried and blown away

          She whispers what she has to say

           She comes to you in your dreams

           Awake and rising to your silent screams

           She tries to sooth your bleeding soul

          Though the adultress, has now taken control.

    Kazlee Oh'Casey.     4 July 08.