Topic : 03/13 Gorgeous Isn’t Enough

I have not been impressed with the looks of the people who claim to be gorgeous.  As soon as they open their mouths and reveal how superficial they are, they lose any attractiveness to me (not that they're that good looking to begin with).

Hey people?  Looks change for all of us as we get older, and getting in car accidents or other horrible things can destroy looks at any age.  Personalities and character are much more attractive than superficial appearances anyway.

I am in aww that this is even going on.  I hope this man goes home and watches as he makes an idot of himself.  I can't believe how skewed his perception of relationships are and life.  You cannot be a husband and a chaser!  He isn't even good looking... and not everyone cheats!  Rebecca needs to get out of that situation and can't believe that she has even stayed in that relationship for nine years!

Good luck with that looser!

Christina

cheating to me is a no questions asked deal breaker, i don't need the details just knowing you choose someone else over me is a flat out deal breaker. I know the pain and anguish and the anger of having someone I loved cheating on me. The feeling of inadequacy and less than, to me it's like the person that did this to me is saying you are not worthy of loyalty, intimacy, and unquestioning love and respect.

Can i understand the dream of what if being bigger than the reality of what is? yeah i can but it doesn't change the way i feel about cheating, which to me is the ultimate betrayal. It is the one thing a man and woman can share other than children they may be blessed with that is most sacred and pure.

for a man or woman to taint and destroy that sacredness is... well it just makes me angry.

I hear some women speak of their experiences and talk about a feeling of floating, i have had that feeling too and after much contemplation i recognize it for what it is. Shock! The heart and spirits way of protecting itself till you can face the extreme pain and hurt of what has been done.

when you are ready to face it the floating will go away, I hope that you have a heart friend to catch you when you fall because the landing is going to hurt real bad =( i feel so sad for anyone that is going through that . It is then after the shock has done what it needed to and has left you open to the emotions that you will begin deciding the next step, and it is your choice.

Only you can decide what you can live with and what you cant. We can forgive but forgetting, well unless you get a serious bump on the head that is not going to happen.

just remember the dream of what if is not the reality of what is, if you can not live with the reality boot him or her out after you have told them exactly how you feel.

Just remember another persons actions is NOT a reflection of who you are, it is simply choices they made good, bad or indifferent.

For all you broken hearts i give you big hugs and my heart weeps with you too, cheating is a terrible terrible betrayal and not to be taken lightly =(.

I am so lucky  I have a man who feels the very same way i do about cheating and we both had similar experiences. We have been together 12 years now and have a very good relationship, and so can you all too =)