Topic : 03/13 Gorgeous Isn’t Enough

 Dyson is, not great.., but she also cheated on him.

George thought it important enough to mention his penis size and that it could be bigger.  This is one reason he chases woman.  He really doesn't feel like a "10".  He is shallow.  So he puts his failings on this wife, and the other women that he chases.  Hate to tell George but he is not a 10 by far.  You should give him the opportunity to let him "be real" and give himself to a DR. to be measured.  Then he needs therapy to help him help himself.  Hopefully, his wife will realize she does not have to allow another person to treat her like this.  She is a beautiful person, and she seems to be  a good person.  Please give her the help that she can discover she deserves to be treated like a real wife and a good person.  Shame on George and his delusions of grandeur.

In the words of Judge Judy "Beauty Fades, Dumb is Forever".    This wife has to read the book by the same name.

 

 

Rebecca, If you read this I want you to know that you really inspired me to be a better woman. I think that you are beautiful and are selling yourself short...very short. I am hopeful that you will get out of this relationship b/c this man will not change. You can't change men.

That doesn't mean people have to accept it.   Sure, it may be true, but in Rebecca's case, she is also pretty, so why doesn't she just get out.    She must like the abuse or else she wouldn't take it.

 

 

I think that's more of a shared problem with the sexes rather than a "man thing". Women are just as susceptible to going the easy route, even if it is one that hurts them.

Ok who really needs the counseling here?  A woman with this guy for 9 years and THEN MARRIES HIM???   He is right that he was this way before she married him and hasn't changed.  I hope she does get the counseling Dr. Phil offered.  She enables his behavior just as much as if he were a drinker or drug user.  He does it because he can and good luck to him and for those women who allow him to use them........... the best part of the show is exposing his attitude toward women.  I agree with Dr. Phil that he is immature but also I think very insecure and needs women "wanting" him as validation for his existence.

 

To the wife - - - Move him out, move on and most definitely get the counseling that will hopefully let you understand why you would let this continue in your life for 9 years.  Your children see his behavior and you are raising another generation of his kind if you allow it to be seen as your acceptance of his actions.

 

Good luck!

Thing is though, he seems to either not care or is just too immature to care about what women really want and/or need.

 

I'm glad Rebecca is going to receive help & I hope she heeds all it teaches her. IMO, a person truly has to have a hole in their soul to allow themselves to be so blatantly disrespected. It's sad that they are dealing with this but it will teach their children far better things when she stands up for herself, even if she has to leave. No one is worthy of you demeaning yourself like that.

 

I hope all the guest head down better paths from now on.

I lived with a man like Dyson. I've heard all of the same excuses, almost verbatim, from my ex. From my experiences, these men are using the sex and attention from other women as a way of boosting their self esteem and feeling in control. My ex once told me that he couldn't be faithful to me because he needed the extra attention. He said that as a child he always felt invisible, and now in adulthood he was using the sexual attention from women as a way to feel important.

These men are immature and insecure. They will not change until they grow up and realize where the core issue is with them. They will say that the issue is about appearances, sex, excitement, any number of things. But it's simply not the case. It's about them.

It took me a while to realize that I needed to get out of my situation with my ex. When I finally ended it and told him it was over, he lost his mind. He ended up raping me before I could get out of the apartment. I know it doesn't always go to that extreme, but it shows you how much of a problem he had with control.

Ladies, the issue isn't appreances, no matter what they say. If you are in a situation like that, get out, the sooner the better. No one deserves that kind of treatment.