Topic : 03/13 Gorgeous Isn’t Enough

Sure, this Dyson guy is a shallow, empty-headed idiot, but c'mon Rebecca, would you even consider being with him if he wasn't so good-looking?  I mean truthfully, the guy has nothing, I mean NOTHING else going for him.  Is he a kind person?  Is he intelligent?  Is he interesting?  Is he generous?  The answer to all of these questions is a resounding "Hell no!"  No amount of therapy will change the fact that he's a moron, so I say, save yourself some time and energy and dump him NOW.

this guy is a joke.  it is unfortunate that his wife thought she needed advice from anyone.  what i think she really wanted was someone to agree with her and some how validate her frustrations.  she should have never married him in the first place.  he is in no way ready to be married. nor is he ready to do all  that is needed to sustain a successful marriage.  he has no room in his life to love her because his life is too filled with loving himself.  what do these people think? i no hes a jerk and through some divine intervention they are the one to change them, give me a break.  she knew what she was getting into when she married him.  what a waste of time and energy.

Dyson

If you treat your best friend this way ! What about your enemies?

Dr. Phil should be your second best friend. He is trying to help you save something that is of the greatest value, that you will ever have.

This is in response to gatt1. I too am in a relationship like yours. I found out that my husband likes to meet women on the internet while he is at work. He talks to them on the phone and has met some of them. He tells me that he knows he has a problem but that he believes he can control it. I believe this is a load of BS. He is a wonderful man in everyother way and a very devoted father how ever his impulsiveness is a problem. He was married before and i recently found out that he did this before and the therapist told him he had adult ADD and that is why he is impulsive, but my husband doesn't buy that theory. He tells me that he has stopped but I am still finding numbers of women on his phone he tells me they are work related but I will call the numbers and indeed it is women he meets on teh net and talks to on the phone. He tells them he is single and has been divorced for 2 years this is a major slap in the face however its like he gets a thrill out of just talking to these women doing something he knows he's not suppose to do. I dont trust him past our front door and I too do not know what to do. I love him dearly but enough is enough

Enough is enough?? And, you don't know what to do? You claim that you "love" him very much? Oh my, there goes that "I love him very much" thing that seems to always keep insecure people emotionally dependent  on unfaithfullness. Your husband is not very different than the Dyson on Doc's show. Boy, he sure is getting his thrill and he even tells you that he's not suppose to be doing it!! Did it occur to you that, for some odd excuse, you're giving him the green light to do so? Doesn't seem like he's gonna stop his internet philandering. What do you think?

 

Adult ADD. Impulsiveness. Your husband says he can't control it. And you're buying it? Sounds like a load of crap. He's a wonderful man and a very devoted father. Ditto to that too. What would happen if the kids caught wind of what their father is doing with all these women on the internet? Could shatter his devotedness as a father. The guy is tearing right into the integrity of your marriage by telling OTHER WOMEN that he's been divorced for 2 years!! That's not just a slap in the face, that is a stab in the back and a kick in the a** when YOU  are down. And, quite frankly, it probably doesn't even bother your husband in the least.

 

You don't TRUST him past your front door? What ever happened to the sanctity of marriage? Of a close, intimate relationship with your confidant and lover?

 

So, you love him dearly but enough is enough? Does someone need to spell it out for you? In simple elementary language? C'mon lady, you know what you have to do.

 

Good Luck!

  Hello Everyone

 

  Dyson must of thought he was hot stuff when he walked off the stage. The only thing I don't get is if your going to walk off the stage. Why did you  bother to get help to begin with. Whats the point in investing your time and energy just to go to LA and walk off the Dr. Phil stage.

Well, I've never been in this type of situation so I can't exactly empathize.  However, I can give you a supportive point of view.  Certain ones can say, "it's elementary lady, elementary", insinuating that it doesn't take a rocket scientist, but I assure you if it were their spouse the tables would turn, if they loved that person as much as you love yours.  I have to admitt, I've been guilty of saying that myself and I'm not even married yet.  I've learned that you can't say what you would do in a situation until you are faced with it, even though some say they can.

 

I have "a friend" whom I hold very dear and and to think of him doing something like that terrorfies me.  Not that he would, it's just a thought.  But the fact remains, it's easy for someone who hasn't been in a similar situation to say "it doesn't take a rocket scientist" but when they consider the thought of it being their spouse (whom they can't live without) I'm sure they would be in your exact shoes.

 

I don't know your religous preferance or if you have one.  But let me suggest to draw near to God in times and situations like this.  When you're unsure of what to do in any situation, pray and talk to Jesus, HE WILL HEAR YOU and He will guide you.  One of my favorite saying is, "If God brought you to it He WILL bring you through it!"  Be anxious about nothing and prayerful about everything.  Most importantly, SEEK HIM. I hope everything works out for you and your husband, especially for your kids sake.

Re:  Tiffany and George

If Tiffany has any brain at all she will leave George's ass in the dust!  My first Husband mentally abused me.  He was always talking about how good other women looked.  He loved to make me cry and at times he would grab hold of my fingers and squeeze them so tight until I cried.  I am not trying to brag about myself but I was in good shape and looked good back then and he never wanted to have sex with me.  This hurt my feelings so bad that I eventually started having an affair.  This is the worst thing that I could have ever done.  I wish that I could turn back the hands of time and I would have left his sorry ass before he pushed me to being so stupid as to having an affair!  I had a very low self esteem of myself.  I loved this man so much that it scares me to think what I would have done for him.  When our Daughter was grown and on her own I finally left him.  After I left him I found out about all the affairs that he had out of his own mouth.  Our Daughter never knew the pain that he put me through.  Since I left him in 1994 our Daughter will not have anything to do with me.  She finally allowed me to have her e-mail address and I e-mail her quite often, but never receive an answer.  I carried a bunch of Christmas presents to her Grandma's (Ex-Husband's Mother) house for her, but never received a thank you, or I liked them, or anything.  I just feel like giving up.

 

This is a repeated episode. This was from four months ago, on the second of November. In case you're wondering if there is a follow up to this show about Dyson & Rebecca, it can be shown on here, which is called "Out Of The Dog House", along with Corey from the episode called "Revenge Of The Exes":

 

http://www.drphil.com/messageboard/topic/2040

 

Sorry, no update on Tiffany & George.

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