Topic : 11/03 Shocking Accusations

CPS told us that our daughter could not tell fact from fiction and was inconsistent after a 10 min interview. When I asked what was inconsistent, they told me and It was the same thing she had been telling me all along. When I tried to argue the redirected my anger , witch they did well might I add, An cut the conversation short. No follow up, nothing. They just dropped the case. It's been one year and my child is still telling the same story. She brings it up all the time. I am hoping that some day she will forget.

So it seems so unusual, I want to know, how many cases have you sat in on?

I watched this man as he sat with Dr. Phil behind closed doors. For a short time I thought to myself that maybe he is a bit slow and this is why he looks and acts suspicious and in the next minute he exposed his real self to me. When Dr. Phil asked if he would take the polygraph test and he finally said he would, he immediately installed a net he could fall in. He said that if he walked in his sleep and did anything that he guessed it would show up. That settled it for me. He has been doing unappropriate things to his daughter. He will try to say he didn't realize what he was doing or something to that effect. I am very glad Dr. Phil arranged that he would have supervised visits. I just hope they will be supervised by a third party like Dept. of family/children worker. I feel in my heart that this child is in jeopardy.

The mother and grandmother I feel are deffinitly NOT doing what is right. Instead of like you said saying things like" I know you don't want to go , I don't want you to go either" Something like " You need to go spend time with daddy because you don't get to see him as much as mommy" or something like that. All they are doing is causing more problems for both themselves and the little girl. As a parent I KNOW how hard it can be to listen to your children cry out for you but you deffinitly cannot "encourage" that crying because it will only cause more stress for you and the child.

Honestly if it was me and I truly BELIEVED my child was being molested by the other parent I would NOT allow my child to go back. I would get a temporary change of custody from a judge. But then again Not every parent is , sorry to say this but, Sain.

M

Dr, Phil,

I certainly do hope for the sake and life of this poor little girl that you find out the answer of what is happening to her. There is no doubt in my mind that SOMETHING is happening at Dad's house. Not sure if it is Dad, I wonder about step mom as well. I find it very disturbing that step mom is calling herself mommy to this child while referring to her mother with her first name- this was on the tape from Dad's house. You didn't catch that I don't think.

I have worked in the system for many yrs. I have been a foster parent for 5 yrs. Let me tell you how mistaken you are with the so called system designed to protect children. That is far from the truth!

Each child and family is in the direct hands of the worker in charge as well as the judge. Not all workers care, not all do their jobs, and many have biased opinions prior to entering into a child/familiies life.

I will tell you I have experienced first hand how a child can be neglected in the system. A child can have a worker who simply doesn't care, goes through the steps of her supervisor and the saftey of the child is never their concern.

Protective services is a JOKE! Again, it depends on the particular worker on any particular day.

When a worker goes into a home to talk to a child, knows something isn't right but can't pinpoint what it is- they simply walk away.

Kids are not protected in this world by anyone in the child protective services! Children are not listened too. Children's bruises are ignored. Foster parents are ignored. Kids are put back into or left in homes that are abusive because workers are over worked and simply don't have the time to do their jobs. Look at the fact that this little girl ended up at emergency while on a visit with her father with an injury to her vagina- how in the world could ANY worker in good conscience allow this child to be in an unsupervised situation with this father and step mother again?

I tried to help a child not go back to a life of pure hell, I called the govenor, the upper people of the agency I was a foster parent of, the lawyer of the child, the so called obudsman, the child's FIA worker, wrote a letter to the judge - nothing helped. I know for a fact this child was returned to a life of abuse. I know for a fact the agency worker did not do her job. I know for a fact the protective service worker didn't do her job and didn't even know this child's case. I know for a fact the judge made a life changing decision for this child based on the workers negligence.

Don't be so niave- protective services does not do all they can do to protect children. If they saw how this child reacted to home visits with dad they themselves would not allow these visits.

And how about the step mother? Something is happening in that home, if it isn't dad- look at step mom.

And, this child is not going to make this up. No way. She is too distraut when going with her father or step mother. Something is happening to her.

I am so glad you got the dad to agree on only supervised visits. I sure do hope you can save this child.

Notice when the step mother picked this child up there was no compassion, no warmth- this child was just as upset leaving with her as dad. Something is not right! Even though mom and Grandma hang onto the little girl when she leaves and returns- this is not made up by this child.

This makes me sick. What made me write tonight is that you Dr. Phil has to know that protective services DOES NOT stay on a case until they can be sure a child is safe.

I will be anxious to hear the results of the lie detector tests and I am so glad the mother and grandmother asked for the step mother to get a test as well. I would have like to have seen you interview both the step mother and grandmother seperately like you did Mom and Dad.

All in all I love your compassion for children. My 12 yr old reminds me when I loose my patience- Dr. Phil says- you change who I am when you yell- he stops me dead in my tracks! You love kids and it shows, I love that about you and Robin. Your boys are very lucky to have  both of you for parents! The kids you help on your show are lucky to have you as well! I wish the little boy I tried to save could have had you as well. His spirit still remains a broken piece in my families heart because no one was able to protect him from his parents. He is another statistic and I am sure will be in the news one day.

I was very disappointed with today's show and Dr. Phils reaction to the mother and grandma.  I have been thru a similar situation where I had to protect my girl's from their Dad and they acted the same way when we had drop off and pick up.  How could he say that the mother was coaching the girl to say anything?  She picked her up out of the car and the girl was crying saying that he had touched her pee pee.  The mother hadn't done anything at all except pick up her little girl.  It is ridiculous that Dr. Phil would imply that the mother and Grandma shouldn't be patting her back and holding her when she was crying hysterically not wanting to go with the stepmom.   How is a mom supposed to do that?  How could anyone expect a mom to just drop the girl down on the ground and say "Now go".  It is obvious that something is going on and happening to that little girl.  It makes me sick that a protective mother is looked down on by Dr. Phil as someone who may be trying to manipulate the situation etc.  I didn't see any evidence of that.  And yes, people are not all perfect within the CPS system.  I had a similar reaction when my 2 year old told me and the CPS that her Dad had touched her vagina.  They came to the same conclusion that a young child didn't know how to differentiate between make believe and reality and I was chided into not trying to make waves with the Dad.  I believe that happens all the time which results in innocent children continuing to be hurt.   I hope that Dr. Phil goes on air and publicly states that he made a blanket statement that isn't accurate in that all CPS areas aren't as perfect as he believes.  I felt very frustrated by the whole show.  Will be very anxious to hear the results of the polygraph.  There is something obviously wrong with the Dad and his ability to communicate and think clearly.  The questions that Dr. Phil asked him were simple ones to answer and he sure had a hard time with it.