Topic : 11/03 Shocking Accusations

I am not trying to sympathize with the father nor am I trying to defend the mother. What I am thinking is that people shouldn't judge before jumping to conclusions. I read messages on this board and people are automatically assuming that the father is guilty. There are instances where children are trained to say things by their own parent. I am not trying to say that this child was told to say that, but you cannot judge others until you have heard all the facts. Let this debate/fight/argument start and then we can judge by ourselves. The only person we must protect is the child. Is she in danger from her father or is she been abused by her mother who is planting words in her mouth.

I speak from experience. One of my friends went through a divorce and much to my disbelief, she had her 2 year old daughter calling her dad horrendous names. Some people can be so vindictive that they'll do anything to get back at someone. Let me state again that I am not here to support or defend either side. I think both sides are entitled to state their version of the facts.

Dr. Phil,

These are very serious charges.  I think it must be determined accurately just what happened here.  If the world and the people in it were  perfect, we would already know the answer and the judge could give his/her sentence  in Criminal Court.  Unfortunately, the world and the people living in it are not perfect and they can make mistakes and also lie in what they say.  I always want to be sure that no one has an agenda.   This is the time to keep a cool head and examine all of the evidence. 

One wants to get this one right so that the true guilty person is charged in this serious crime. 

haroldbras

 I dated the father in highschool that's being accused of molestation and we have maintained a friendship since then. I don't believe for one second that he is guilty! He loves his little girl and I just think that the mother and grandmother are causing problems for him. They have always seemed to cause problems for him. If the accusations are true then why did they wait for a whole freaking year!!! They are putting words in this little girls mouth and she's too young to really understand everything that is going on. I am just so upset at these accusations!

Renee

David,

I almost agree with you. I do have complete confidence in Dr. Phil. He has the proper education, experience, knowledge, integrity and credibility to get to the answer. I think the "Judge Judy’s," "general Talk Show hosts" and "those hosts with agendas" of the world would not be able to come close to the answer. Their feelings or perceptions prevent them from being able to see the total picture.  . The attorney "Nancy Grace" on TV is a good example. She has so much feeling and anger inside that I do not believe she could see the total picture.  

haroldbras

Made my stomach ache.

I thank Dr. Phil for picking up the rock and putting light on this disgusting topic.

From age 5-13 I was a victim of sexual assualt from a family member..MY BROTHER...My Dad inapproiprately touched me,  violated other family members and growing up in a dysfunctional family has damanaged me as an Adult.

I am no longer a vic of my childhood..I am a survivor..working towards thriver.  This TOPIC is not a flavor of the month ratings war.

People who have been thru this as myself have had years of therapy,  medication hospital stays addiction problems  self loathing on a crime they never commited but which was commited against them.

The show is on tommorow and I cannot pre judge anyone.  Let the facts be brought out and all parties and there motivations be looked at.  The end result in everyone's mind should be the protection of that sweet babie and what could be done to help her.  I hope she winds up with all support nessary so she has a fighting chance and not live the life I had too.

I pray for clarity and truth.

There is another board on here for Sexual abuse,  Abductions etc.  I do hope all who post here will visit it and write to us there.  We are not looking for a glamour shot we are looking to save children...and appreciate your help and comments to wake up this world.

That's all for now...

S