Quote From: melissam2006My 14 year old daughter was forced to sit on her stepfather's stomach, in the nude and rub his shoulders(the only father she has known since she was 1 year old) nude and he was naked laying on his back with only a towel covering himself! He was rubbing her back and sickingly becoming excited. As well as making her clean her room in the nude! He told her since the room was so dirty she wanted to live like an animal, so she could clean her room in the nude! No doubt he was watching her! The instant she told me I made him leave that very night. I promptly called CPS and reported the incident myself. The police came out to the house, questioned her, and insinuated that she may be doing this for retaliation. Which I knew was not true. After that we heard nothing for months. This was in November of 2005. We have passed a 1 year anniversary mark!! I called and left messages and no response. Finally, in June I went down to the records dept and found out that this had slipped through the cracks and never got assigned to a detective. Round and round I have gone with these people since then, but now the Fresno County DA in its infinent wisdon have informed me that they will not be pressing charges in this matter. The detective stated that he beleived my daughter and the DA does as well. (Even though he has not interviewed any one personally) My husband admitted to the detective that he had her clean her room in the nude and that everything else happened as she stated but that she had clothes on. The DA told me that since it is her word against his that with no proof they cannot convict and convince a jury. That maybe if there was some evidence, such as a towel with semen on it...well maybe if someone had investigated at the time, there would be! They could have checked his computer! Something! My question is I did everything right, I got him out of the house, I called CPS. Where is the system for me and my daughter? This case has fallen through the cracks more than once! If I hadnt reported it and was one of those sick mothers that tried to cover it up because I wanted a man so bad..and she told someone at school, I would have been in trouble! They would have taken her away from me! And I cant believe that the sick things he admitted, do not constitute a crime! The DA had the nerve to tell me that he is definately an "unsavory" character and he was sure that someday he would do something to land himself in prison. Well isnt that comforting. We will just wait for he to do something really bad to someone else and then we will get him. What message does this send? if you tell before you are raped or some other revolting act, nothing happens. Just be thankful, get help and move on. YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING! Thankful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please if anyone has any suggestions or can refer me to someone I would really appreciate it! I plan on trying to send an email directly to the Fresno City Police Cheif Jerry Dyer and the Fresno County DA Elizabeth Eagen. I bet if it was their child it would be a crime!!!
First of all, Melissam, I've never been in your situation. I can surely understand your anger, resentment and frustration toward the DA, CPS, etc.
But, please, do not jump to any conclusions just yet. Hear me out, okay? I'm just basing my finding on what you shared. I'm not calling anyone a liar or anything like that. You made a statement of your daughter's accusation, according to police report, was in retaliation which you claimed was not true. What information do you have that would lead you to believe that your daughter's accusation was not in retaliation? I'm inclined to believe you. You definitely appear to be a concerned parent, and are taking all steps and additional ones to get to the bottom of this. If your husband did, in fact , do what you say he did to your daughter. Well, we all know where he belongs.
The DA saying that your husband is an unsavory character does not, in it of itself, make him guilty. But, is it possible that there was NOT enough evidents to bring this guy to trial? I'm just trying to put things in perspective. I'm sure you're thinking that I'm trying to get you upset. Please, I'm not trying to.
I think you did something very courageous. You kicked your husband out of the home. The threat on your daughter no longer exist because of your action. And, you're right, many wives/girlfriends would somehow deny, minimize, or trivialize the accusations. But, you did not. Because of your strong suspicions and what your daughter shared with you, you did what you were supppose to do. You followed your mother extinct and you did the right thing. Most importantly, you came in defense of your daughter. You protected her from this potential predator. Your daughter has to be in great gratitude for that. Yeah, this guy will probably move on to another victim, but, you know what? Someone, or something is gonna be watching him, very, very closely and he's gonna know it. If he continues, he will eventually get caught at it.
Atta, girl, Melissam!! Peace to ya'll
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