Topic : Tired of Being Single

I think you just need a vacation, where you get away...try and plan that ok?  You will feel like a different person, just like I have...try to do things differently in your life...have a positive mind...not for others, but for YOU!!  and when you do, so many great things will come your way...I PROMISE...get a plan...get out there!!  Don't be negative, be positive and like I said in my last post, DON'T go out with the idea of finding someone...you need to find YOURSELF...ok?   dee

I know I do-I am soooooo tired.  I will settle for friends at this point.  When I'm not working or in school I am alone-it sucks!!!  Neither of which is enjoyable anymore. 

I know it's easier said then done.  But, just try, that's all I say to myself...I wanted to make some friends, so I thought...well, perhaps they won't come to me...so, I'll have to slowly come to them...and I agree, even finding a 'friend' isn't always easy...true, one can always have friends...but, it's that good friend, one that likes  you for 'you' that's hard sometimes...I've had a best friend, for over 20 yrs...but, we don't really do things together...and I miss that...I guess, we kinda are different, even though we'll always be there for one another...and that's a good feelings...we never miss one another's b-day, Christmas, etc...but, I wanted to find people that I could do things with...share hobbies with...but, maybe I'm just different...I love the outdoors...I haven't meet a woman that  likes those types of actiivities...I love camping!!!!!!   I love hiking!!!!!!!!   I love nature!!!!!!!!!  I love traveling!!!!!!!  Perhaps, you can quit school for awhile?  Just put it off a semester...you said you have a daughter and yet you still feel alone???  I have a daughter too, and I don't feel alone...she'll be off to college next yr., so perhaps then I will be...but, that's why I'm seeing if I can meet new friends...do things I've never done before...I work for school's so, I have lots of time off...That allows me to do all these things I want to do...I think if you focus more on 'friends' than a relationship with a man, then you'll find yourself a happier person...then, the rest will come...but, you have to be happy and like yourself first!!!   Then, once you work on that, that person will come into your life..Well that's just what I think anyone..Meanwhile, get out and meet people...Like for me, I didn't exactly know how to do it...that's why I brought up the Dr. Phil get together thing...and it was great!!!!  I want to have another one???  just problem is some lives so far away...But, if we all can meet someplace in the middle, would be fun!!  at least for me...well, Kwinds I hope this helps...   dee

don't look at it as 'settling' for friends...friends can be great!!!  and besides, if you meet a guy/friend, shouldn't it be 'friends' first???  maybe....I don't know...if you're bored with your job, perhaps you can find something else....or something in the same field, but different dept...I love my job, so I'm happy about that!!  and as far as school, could u just put it off for awhile?  just a thought   dee

I LOVE this post!!!!!!!   thank-you for posting it!!!!  and I agree, we shouldn't feel we're only going to be complete if we have a 'mate'...sure, it's nice...but, don't be down and like it's the end of the world...if you don't have it...there are so many people out there in this world (like these boards) that are all so worth talking to...and even if we live far apart, I feel we're all friends here...and that matters to me...whether one has a mate or not, it shouldn't define us...WE define ourselves...

 

dee

Related to the post about being yourself...There are many ways in which I express myself without the need for someone else to be there with me when I do so.  First, I love just going out and taking pictures with my camera, in fact my profile photos were pictures I have taken.  I don't care what anyone else thinks of them, I enjoy doing it!  It puts me at peace.  Second, I DJ at the radio station at my college campus.  On occasion, I read the news as well.  I may be studying to be a teacher, but I love broadcasting, too!  And if I am feeling a little down, I can put on a song that can help cheer me up!  Finally, I take trips in my car to just get away, not just from school, or from everyday life for even a few hours, but from the love issue as well.  When get back from a place or an event, I can say, "hey, I enjoyed this", without needing a significant other around to "make" me feel that way!

Like just now-she always pokes over my shoulders and tries to read what I write on here-I am 40 for chrissakes I deserve privacy!!!!

Thanks for all your suggestions-I just hope I can find a way to enjoy life before I get too old.  I just really want to interact with people my own age, instead of always having to be a parent.  I am not "the rock" as my mother has called me over the years-that part of me is dying.

I agree to this. I think that we all need a friend or mare, but there is the right time for it. Sometimes it will takea while, and sometimes it's sooner then we can thnk it should be. Well anyway I have found it to be when you stop, and look at yourself to find the you your looking for it will just make what ever comes more happier. Hope one day I can find the wonderful person, and live a ripe old age with her. Randy in Gods country.

I think no matter how tough life is sometimes, we all need to keep positive, and don't let past experiences get us down.  It's what we do with 'today'  and 'tomorrow' that counts.  Someone said, was that Dr. Phil??  That yesterday, is in the past...today and tomorrow is what counts.  Something, like that.  It's late and I'm not sure I'm thinking right.  lol  Just never stop believing...and I know you will find that wonderful woman, because I think you're on the right road now...

 

dee