Topic : Tired of Being Single

     I am 35 and I am a single male. I would love to have a special lady and get married, especially soon so that I can start a family. But it is so hard to find the someone special. All the right ladies for me are already married or have boyfriends. It is also hard to know where to find someone. I mean, I don't go to bars, the only parties I go to are family reunions. I tried a dating service and I had  really bad experience so I would not go that route again. If I don't find a special lady soon, I will be too old raise a family. It is just so frustrating not knowing where to meet nice single ladies. I am sick of being alone and I would love a lady to love and get married soon so we can share both the good and bad times together (and before it is too late to start a family). 

It can be a tough dating world out there.  I was in the same situation - all my friends were married, no single friends my age, work for a small company and not into the bars.  There really didn't seem to be a lot of options out there for me. 

So, I tried online dating through Yahoo.  Yes, I did go out on about 5 or 6 dates before I met the man I have been dating for the last 5 months (5 months today actually). We talked on IM on a Monday, on the phone on Tuesday, had our first date on Wednesday and have been together since.  I liked Yahoo because you could "hide" your profile and just look.  This way you weren't getting messages from people you knew you had no interest in.  It really put me more in control. 

No matter how you meet someone - it's rare that the person you meet first is going to be "the one".  It's going to take trial and error and realizing that dating is exactly that - dating.  It's getting to know people and finding out if you are compatible and if you want to pursue it further. 

Don't give up.  Good luck! 

I was a single man for 44 years.  I thought I would never find the perfect woman ... but I did ... I am so thankful that I did not let the many years of waiting and yearning cause me to compromise and 'settle'.  

I had many opportunities with various women, but I thought that special woman was not to be found.  Most of the women I dated claimed that they wanted a decent moral man, but within a few months were asking for sex!  Ironically, these were women who attended church.  I was shocked when they would show up with a box of condoms.    

God really used my waiting as a growth period, and allowed my wife and I to share what was meant to be a bonding between husband and wife.  Sex is a great gift to marriage.  It is not recreation, and does not require 'protection' unless abused.  

It is no wonder so many marriages fail.  People cheapen themselves for a thrill, and rob their future spouse of the greatest gift they can give them.      

As great as sex is, it is not the most intimate part of marriage.  Prayer is.  What an awesome way to share your heart with your spouse.    

Although much of the advice on this show is excellent, it is too bad it is so lacking a moral center.   Wordly advice is not wisdom.   

 I'd like to know how u can give yourself to someone again after being shattered by your ex...i had my heart broken for the first time in 27 yrs last year....we were married for 5yrs together 10....i swear i wouldn't survive being shattered again. 

After countless discussions with many men, who have been destroyed by their exes, I have come to several conclusions.  One: Is that women today are manipulative, hurtful, self centered creatures, that are to be avoided at all costs.  Two: Money is the key to happiness; it will ensure survival; it will protect you from all the crap your ex sends your way; and it will ensure comfort for your kids.  Three: Money will not buy love, but it sure in heck will rent it for a while!!  Show up in Las Vegas, with a stack of bills, and you will find true love!!  Remember, today's woman is about " For Now", not " Forever "!  

So, if you are tired of being proof that Hell is full, and the dead walk the Earth; avoid women!  She ain't pretty, she just looks that way!!  Here's one of my favorite lines to use, if a woman approaches you: " I do not want to shake your hand.  Because, if I shake your hand, I might like you, and if I like you, I might fall in love with you.  And you will destroy my heart.  And I do not have the time or patience for that ANYMORE!!  Make money, enjoy your life ~ Voidheart.  

I have tried online dating and "getting out there"  no one ever replies, or if they do, they play a bunch of games.   When you go out, if your out by yourself, like I am many times, I must look like a loser because not one person will talk to me.  I feel you man.