Topic : Tired of Being Single

I am a 33 year old womanm and have recently broken up from a relationship with a guy I care very deeply for.  He was always very attracted to me, and even moved across the country to live in the same town as me. 

We had been friends for a while, and I found it hard to have a physical attraction for him, even though I really liked him.  When I was with him, I enjoyed his company and companionship - but there was never a spark or strong romantic connection.

I am wondering what is wrong with me that this relationship didn't work out.  He says that we didn't have good chemistry, although I know that he was attracted to me last year.  I am wondering why I seem to have a fear of being physically intimate with a guy that I like, and am worried that now I have ruined the relationship forever.  I am also worried that I lost the best guy I have ever met, and he would have made a good partner.  I am starting to feel badly about myself.

Is it possible to love and care for a guy - but not be that physically attracted to him after all?  Or, do you think I have a problem and lack of interest in being physically intimate with guys?

Please advise, thanks.

I've just blinked and turned 30 but my real issue is that I'm still a virgin and have never been in a serious relationship.  I've been trying this one dating website but find I'm not allowing myself to  go on that 2nd date its this fear that I have I don't know if its anxiety or what.  Another thing is my best friend who I only really hang out with is gettng serioius with this one guy so I really don't know where to go meet guys because don't really have any other single friends. I really want to get to that point in life that I'm in an amazing relationship because I do want marriage and children but feel that time is passing me by while I'm stuck alone at home.

You need to believe in yourself and do what makes you happy!!!

Just reading that small portion i believe your anxiety is the problem. I have the same problem i'm  twenty three and still a virgan. I just worry alot and i'm sensitive and when i get hurt i'm hurt forever. The good news is there are so many great woman out there that i want to be with someday. The truth is time is now but this life is not a race we all have our own path. I believed you are blessed because now you can start fresh and you've learned alot already before any big mistakes. Age is just a number , there are guys like me that would prefer a virgin to share that first time.

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I'm a 27 year old guy, I'll be 28 in three months and I've been dateless since I was old enough to even know what dating is. I find them hard to talk to when I'm out and about because I get scared that either I'm going to end up in jail on a false rape claim, or that I'll end up in a fight with the boyfriend I didn't know they already had. I tried several online dating websites including match.com but all that ever happens there is I write the women there messages and they never respond. Anyone have any advice?

Being single is a responsibility. In the whole universe of people, there is as an indefinite and incomplete an opportunity to find the right person that can complete and become a part of the the individuality that one keeps to himself. It's not easy unless the relationship you are  trying to participate in is "easy". And then it's probably the wrong one because it allows too much insignificance and disregard to those involved. That is why though it is tiring being single and offers no satisfying relationship, it is more true and least falliable in ones preservation of self and self regard.

I have been depressed the past few weeks; I know in another month I will be forty years old and I have nothing to show for it. A lot of guys my age or younger have the families and a great career; I have nothing, and its really depressing me. I'm currently in school trying to finish my education to find a better job and life, but its going at a slow pace right now. Another thing that really bothers me the most is that I'm still single and I don't know if I will ever find anybody to love. I have never had a girl friend during my adult life and my time during high school. My father really never showed me how to pick-up or even talk to a woman; he basically showed me how to be a workaholic.  I think its hopeless for me to find anybody for a companion, and people have told that their is somebody out there for everyone which I don't believe. Sometimes I pay for the sex when I need it from an escort and I know thats not normal for any guy, but I feel I need the sex because it healthy. I need some advice about how I can get a girl friend to have a loving relationship; in addition, I would like your opinion on paying for sex from an escort. Do you think I would ever find love or am I looking for love in the wrong places.

Ken

I know there are so many people on here with more issues than me.. But i feel i need to tell someone how i really feel about this. I can only tell my freinds and family so much.

Ive been single for the past 7months now. But each time i get close to a guy, i feel i tell them to much, too soon and they run for the hills and stop talking to me. I want to keep trying but i feel maybe im trying to hard to be in a relationship and maybe i should just wait and see what happens.. But thats easier said than done! What do you think i should do guys?