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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:12:41 pm
Author : dataimport

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December 27, 2008, 7:06 pm CST

You OK?

Quote From: vlinderby

Get more caffiene......

 

Keep going with the flow because you are hanging in there like a trooper but just try not to think too much into it. "Fools Rush In" was a very good movie but then again there was also "Serendipity." Fate can be a wonderful thing.  

Vlinderby,

 

You okay?  Haven't heard from you in a while.

 
December 29, 2008, 9:52 pm CST

Lonely In Panama City

Ok so I agree with everyone else. I have my own few points, views and opinions though too. I am a 23 yr old male. I carry a lot of good values, morales and traditions. I was raised very traditional and I treat women in such a traditional manner however 99% of the time the girls my age today are not into traditional guys. They are into going to bars or doing drugs. And the ones who aren't say they get scared or think I'm moving too fast because I treat them right and am a super nice guy. If I want to get to know a girl, I ask her the things that would be deal breakers for e first and if she doesnt match up then I continue on with a friendship...but if she matches up with what I'm looking for then I head into it full on, full steam ahead because there is no sense in doing something partially. You should always do things with everything you've got or not at all. Like the saying go big or go home. I guess what I'm trying to say or ask is what does it take for a woman to realize your good qualities and want you for that instead of being only interested in the buttheads out there because they were the hot captain of the high schol football team jocks or rich guys? Why is it that money and modeling looks are the only thing that matter anymore to anyone? Is anyone ever going to be interested in me and not think i'm moving too fast because I open doors for a lady, or I actually pay for the date?
 
January 6, 2009, 7:25 pm CST

It is the same for me

Quote From: kitkat1978

I've just blinked and turned 30 but my real issue is that I'm still a virgin and have never been in a serious relationship.  I've been trying this one dating website but find I'm not allowing myself to  go on that 2nd date its this fear that I have I don't know if its anxiety or what.  Another thing is my best friend who I only really hang out with is gettng serioius with this one guy so I really don't know where to go meet guys because don't really have any other single friends. I really want to get to that point in life that I'm in an amazing relationship because I do want marriage and children but feel that time is passing me by while I'm stuck alone at home.

I'm a 35-year old guy and still virgin. I surely want children any soon but first, how can I date someone at this age? I mean, when everybody had at least one relationship before? There are too many reasons to be shy, so I just stay home thinking that this is my life, what I'm made for.

 

And life today is stress over stress, goal after goal. Studies first, than a permanent job, than being healthier financially. Where is the place for someone else in my life? I'm tired.

 
January 6, 2009, 7:27 pm CST

It is the same for me

Quote From: kitkat1978

I've just blinked and turned 30 but my real issue is that I'm still a virgin and have never been in a serious relationship.  I've been trying this one dating website but find I'm not allowing myself to  go on that 2nd date its this fear that I have I don't know if its anxiety or what.  Another thing is my best friend who I only really hang out with is gettng serioius with this one guy so I really don't know where to go meet guys because don't really have any other single friends. I really want to get to that point in life that I'm in an amazing relationship because I do want marriage and children but feel that time is passing me by while I'm stuck alone at home.

I'm a 35-year old guy and still virgin. I surely want children any soon but first, how can I date someone at this age? I mean, when everybody had at least one relationship before? There are too many reasons to be shy, so I just stay home thinking that this is my life, what I'm made for.

 

And life today is stress over stress, goal after goal. Studies first, than a permanent job, than being healthier financially. Where is the place for someone else in my life? I'm tired.

 
January 7, 2009, 5:50 am CST

tired of being single

Quote From: kerl74

I'm a 35-year old guy and still virgin. I surely want children any soon but first, how can I date someone at this age? I mean, when everybody had at least one relationship before? There are too many reasons to be shy, so I just stay home thinking that this is my life, what I'm made for.

 

And life today is stress over stress, goal after goal. Studies first, than a permanent job, than being healthier financially. Where is the place for someone else in my life? I'm tired.

You have to keep telling yourself there is a special person out there for you, it's just not the right timing.  I have been through heart breaks, not fun! You can date anyone @ any age, age has nothing to do with it, it's how you feel about yourself and who you truly are.  Trust me you want the "AMAZING" Relationship, you don't want the bad ones @ first. You probably have many things to offer a person, but what do they truly have to offer you in the a relationship? Are they reliable, responsible, caring, trustworthy, goal oriented, love children, spend time with you when you least expect it? Trust me you don't need a person having no clue how to treat you! It's not fun when you need to write a manual for them to realize what is truly in front of them, not your job.  Life's too short to not be with the right person.  You just have to be patient, and give yourself more credit for what you have accomplished with "YOUR" Life!  You aren't meant tostay @ home every night of the week, just go to a book store, read for a while, look around.  Go to a concert with a girlfriend, I am sure a lot of your friends are married, married people can have time with their friends! Im 28 and most of my friends are married! I know the feeling, but just do things for yourself and the rest will fall into place!

 

Hope this helps!

 
January 8, 2009, 1:35 am CST

Tired of Being Single

Quote From: kleigh69

I have been depressed the past few weeks; I know in another month I will be forty years old and I have nothing to show for it. A lot of guys my age or younger have the families and a great career; I have nothing, and its really depressing me. I'm currently in school trying to finish my education to find a better job and life, but its going at a slow pace right now. Another thing that really bothers me the most is that I'm still single and I don't know if I will ever find anybody to love. I have never had a girl friend during my adult life and my time during high school. My father really never showed me how to pick-up or even talk to a woman; he basically showed me how to be a workaholic.  I think its hopeless for me to find anybody for a companion, and people have told that their is somebody out there for everyone which I don't believe. Sometimes I pay for the sex when I need it from an escort and I know thats not normal for any guy, but I feel I need the sex because it healthy. I need some advice about how I can get a girl friend to have a loving relationship; in addition, I would like your opinion on paying for sex from an escort. Do you think I would ever find love or am I looking for love in the wrong places.

 

Ken

I think its hard to reach a goal when you don't believe in it. Like you, nobody told me how to talk to a woman. In the other hand, it wouldn't be from me... I mean I wouldn't feel authentic. I'm not a hunter.

 

So I don't believe love could happen any soon and I won't provoque it because I'm too shy, because I fear rejection. So much, I can go anywhere and have the attention of girl, I won't see it. I'm blind. It would be too wonderful.

 

In my opinion, we have to let it go and try to participate as much as we can in some activities we really enjoy. After all, is there any better place to show what we really are? In being active we forget the goal and just be our true self. If we can't hunt, let us at least throw a bait. Without any big intention in mind, we are just this man who attracts women by showing them who he is, how passionate he could be in the day to day life. Anyway, we need to get rid of the depression in doing something.

 

I know, it's easy to say, hard to do. I do hope one time...

 
January 13, 2009, 10:36 pm CST

Tired of Being Single

Quote From: roxy1986

I know there are so many people on here with more issues than me.. But i feel i need to tell someone how i really feel about this. I can only tell my freinds and family so much.

 

Ive been single for the past 7months now. But each time i get close to a guy, i feel i tell them to much, too soon and they run for the hills and stop talking to me. I want to keep trying but i feel maybe im trying to hard to be in a relationship and maybe i should just wait and see what happens.. But thats easier said than done! What do you think i should do guys?

7 months alone is nothing, some people go years without a single date.  I'm like that to, I like to be open and upfront.  I think that's the right thing to do, because they are gonna like you for the right reasons.   Sure, you might be more likely to hang onto a guy, but you won't know if he likes you for you, unless you present your true self to him.  Being open is part of who you are, and there are plenty of good men out there that will appreciate that.  So, in a sense, you are just weeding out the ones that aren't right for you at a early stage.
 
January 16, 2009, 1:23 pm CST

tired of being single

 
January 17, 2009, 3:40 am CST

Tired of Being Single

Quote From: turk3272

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January 17, 2009, 12:52 pm CST

Real

Quote From: turkalurk

7 months alone is nothing, some people go years without a single date.  I'm like that to, I like to be open and upfront.  I think that's the right thing to do, because they are gonna like you for the right reasons.   Sure, you might be more likely to hang onto a guy, but you won't know if he likes you for you, unless you present your true self to him.  Being open is part of who you are, and there are plenty of good men out there that will appreciate that.  So, in a sense, you are just weeding out the ones that aren't right for you at a early stage.

I think that you are doing the right thing, there aren't too many ladies like yourself, I have met a few ladies in the last few months, and I guess I am the male version of yourself. I want to get to know someone and her me, however I find most of the women very shallow and superficial. I wish there were more women like yourself, but forgive me for being a little cynical, but we have become a society that just doesn't connect with one another, one that has become a slave to the inernet,cell phones, etc., we have all these tools to communicate with, but have become so isolated from one another, I thing it is the great ironies of the 21st Century. 

 

Sincerely John. Toronto, Ontario, Canada

 
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