Topic : Tired of Being Single

I think you are doing the right thing, I have met a few ladies in the last few months, and they all turned out to be very superficial and shallow. I guess I am a sensitive man, so I would welcome the opportunity to get to know someobody from the inside out.  Stay with it, there is a man out there who will appreciate your honesty and transparancy. 

Sincerely John.

Hi, I'm a 26 yr old mom of 2 wonderful kids. I've been single now for almost 1yr and Im getting really tired of being single. Dont get me I go out on dates, you know the normal dinner, moive, take walks whatever. I have came across a few nice guys, but they don't want a relationship now this is where I get confused. I dont know if its b/c I have two childern or b/c Ive been married and now Im divorce. I dont know what Im doing wrong?

I am a divorced dad of an 11 year old son and I have been divorced from my ex since Oct 07. I left her in May 06 due to her mental and verbal abuse. In Dec 05 I met her through a mutual on line friend, the woman who has been the world to me. And no, shes not the reason for my divorce.  She just made me see what I was missing in my life.  She lives  3 hours away from me so we don't get to see each other as often as Id like or her I'm sure either.  We got engaged in May 07. She has never been married but has a daughter 24 who lives at home with her.  I have been married twice before.  I want to be married to this woman very much. And yes, I am tired of being single in the true sense. We were planning on getting married last year but I wanted to wait a bit since I was just divorced. Now I am very willing to get married now but she wants to wait until 2010 in Oct.  Id like to say I'm not trying to talk her into getting married sooner but I am actually. So far it's not working. I am a very nice guy, I don't drink or smoke and don't do drugs. I believe in true  love, romance, passion and communication. I don't hit nor do I yell.  She's had bad relationships that were abusive.  So yeah, I think I'm a great catch as I do of her as well. I'm wondering, other then the financial reasons, which she says are the main ones not to get married right now, what else can I do to help her understand that we are meant for each other and why should we wait? Thanks for reading.

I need help. Professional help. I keep making one bad decision after another when it comes to men. I know adultery is a sin and this whole thing can lead to a dead end and destroy me emotionally. Hear me out first...Here's the story...

On Christmas Eve of 2007 I met my bestfriends step brother for the first time. WOW...he took my breath away. He was dressed so nice, he was so well mannered, great conversation, a really nice guy. Oh yeah and he was married. I had a living in boyfriend at the time so I didn't think into the situation too much... sooooo we meet again around August of 2008 I'm single and he's seperated (not divorced). My bestfriend (his stepsister) told him I had a crush on him. Turns out he was diggin me too. We exchanged numbers after a few conversations and dates things became more physical. It's 2009 We're still seeing each other. And he's still married. I don't want him to get a divorce just to be with me but I don't like hanging in the balance. In the beginning he was completely honest and open about his feeling towards me and her. He cares for me and doesn't want to hurt me but he cares for her still as well. They've been married for 10 years and have 1 child. I asked him does he think they'll work things out he said "HELL NO" (his exact words). Lately he's been really tight liped about his feelings. The only thing he says is he's confused. I'm the point where I want to back away from the situation. but everytime he shows up at my door I let him in and fall deeper <sigh> Since he's not telling me how he feels I have no choice but to assume.

Ok this is what I think....He wants told me he didn't want to be seperated longer then a year. After exactly one year of seperation with no changes he would go for the divorce. Since they are approaching a year of seperation I think both of them are being flooded with all these thoughts and feelings. 10 years is a long time  and there is a child invovled so I totally understand this being a little difficult. I'm 95% sure he wants a divorce but he doesnt know how to tell her. ( she might slash his tires or take his kid away) So he's waiting her to make the decision for him.

As far as him and me. We really like each other, respect each other, there's a possibilty we could build something in the future. He doesn't want to let me go, but he knows things with his wife could get crazy so he's not asking me to wait for him. hmmm it's like he's dating us both. and waiting on me or the wife to make the decision.

Can somebody offer so kind words of encouragement. I know I messed up. I'm stupid dumb nieve....oh yeah  did I mention PREGNANT!!! <YIKES> HELP

     I'v been dealing with a cheating husband and though once  I got a divorce it will all be better.  I was wrong.  I was angry and hurt by what he did but never wanted to get a divorce.  I let my parents and family tell me that has to be the next step.  I love my husband and never wanted to be away from him.  We have been secretly dating because neither of our parents want us to be together.  However I went to his house the other day and he had a women there and treated my like the ex-wife.  It hurt me so bad but we have been through that before he has lied about dating other people and I've caught him with other women many times and he always comes back and I go with it and we are ok for a while and then it happens again well I'm done . I want to move on I don't want my kids to think this relationship is ok.  I want  to be happy and  I haven't been in about 4 years since I found out he was cheating.  I need help and don't know what to do its only a matter of time when he calls to say sorry and he wants me back.  I want to be armed with a backbone by then to tell him no.