I wasn't sure where to post this because there is not a board devoted to relationships in generalso here it goes....I have known this woman for 3 years, and we have always been attracted to each other, but only starting datin about six months ago...we fell in love and even started to make some plans. I appolgize for this being so long but I needed to get it all out there....
These are just some of the things she has said to me over the last 6 months , Some as recently as Saturday night September 3rd 2005
(1) I love you with all of my heart, along with all the other ways you can tell someone you love them.
(2) I hope you are willing to deal with the occasional problems that will arise with Mike.
(3) I can’t think of anyone that would be a better role model for the children then you.
(4) The first time we have sex I am wearing my Elvis shirt (She is a big Elvis fan I hate him so she jokes about him coming to bed with us)
(5) She asked me if I liked her house, I sad I think it is beautiful then she replies “is it alright with you” of course I say yes.
(6) refers to me as her “boyfriend” or “significant other” on more then one occasion.
(7) her exact words here “remember I have 3 children and an ex-husband, if you chose to stay you also get them”
(8) again her exact words “ I am so happy and content when I am with you, I love every thing about you I am falling in love with you”
(9) “I love being with you I want to spend more and more time with you”
(10) her words “can you commit” I say yes then she replies “good because I want at least fifty years”
(11) her words “Mike is threatened by you, he says you are taking his family away and I told him he made his bed now he has to lay in it” I say to her, I don’t want to take his kids away, however if he chooses not to be a father figure I will gladly take on that role” her reply “I have no doubt that you will win there hearts, Brad already adores you”
(12) her and I were hugging by my truck before she went home (on more then one occasion) and she would say “we should be married so we can do this at home in bed”
(13) her words “we are perfect for each other we fit like pieces of a puzzle my head fits perfect on you shoulder just like 2 pieces of a puzzle”
(14) the song by Lonestar “Amazed” in her words “I think of us when I hear this song”
In case you don’t know the songs I happen to have some of the lyrics…
(Every time our eyes meet this feeling inside me Is almost more than I can take baby when you touch me I can feel how much you love me And it just blows me away. I've never been this close to anyone or anything I can hear your thoughts I can see your dreams. I don't know how you do what you do I'm so in love with you It just keeps getting better. I want to spend the rest of my life With you by my side Forever and ever Every little thing that you do Baby, I'm amazed by you, you touch every place in my heart. )
The song goes on but you get the point.
(15) her words during an in internet chat we had“ I am just reminding you I’m a package deal, have 3 kids and a ex-husband “ then I said thick or thin, hell or high water I am here you got me now” then she says “ really! I want at least 50 years…50 years is a very long time, most people don’t stay together for 5 years let alone 50” then I said “ then you and I will break that cycle” she says “ You really think so? I said yes and she said good. Of course it was late (2 am) so she needed to get to sleep, but before we logged off she said , “ good honey sweet dreams and I love you with all of my heart”
(16) “I am so glad I found you I am so fortunate, I love you so much I am so happy to have you in my life” Of course I said the same thing to her.
So a couple of days ago I mustered up the nerve to ask her to marry me, her response was that she all of a sudden felt smothered and she wasnt ready to go to that "level" yet. She was married for 14 years and has 3 kids, and she is thinking of reconciling her marriage because she was raise to believe that the fisrt person you marry should be for a lifetime no matter what.
Let me tell you what kind of man this is...he cheated on her 5 times over 14 years left her, she took him back every time...he calls his daughter a slut, calls his son a pussy boy..calls her the C word, sends her and the kids on a vacation and while she is gone he drains all the bank accounts, cleans out the house, and files for divorce. When she returns he serves her papers. he tells her she MADE him cheat because she wouldnt spread her legs as much as he wanted so its all her fault for what he did. Now all of a sudden I am in the picture he wants to get back with her....hmmmm
I think she is being torn by her feelings for me and what her grandparents raised her to believe that the first person you awith you should be with for the rest of your life no matter what. WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE HER SEE THE LIGHT?
