Topic : Tired of Being Single

How can the Cindy's go and Cat if they end up having boyfriends??? Now that you all are finding men!!! 

Sherrie 

It's easy to be flattered by men who are too young for you, but remember they will be 35 and 40 finding themselves someday and may be ready for a younger woman.  I dated a guy over a decade younger than me and it started showing up in immature things he said and did. It wasn't going to work and I knew it! It didn't last long. Just my 2 cents. Take it or leave it! Good luck! 

Sherrie 

We can tell the boyfriends that it is girls week out!!!!  LOL    They can come and stay on the other side of the ship.  Well, that really wouldn't be fair, they can come to. 

  

Hey It's just a thought 

  

Talk to you later 

  

Cindy 

The whole cat lady thing was an analogy.  I have a cat, and grew up with a cat in my life.  Yes, I love Felix my black cat wonder dearly.  But what I was driving at, was that fear of ending up livining in a bus with 99 cats, and spending more money on cat food and cat liter than I spend on food for myself.  That crazy lonely woman who in yester-years would have been called a "spinster"   

  

That is my fear.  I know I am  young, and it has just been this last week really that I have discovered that I need to figure out who I am and figure out how to see all the good that others see in me and see that in myself, and BELIEVE it!  So while, I know that I am not ready for a relationship, I need to as the cliche goes "learn to love myself, before any guy will love me" but that is the truth, I have come to believe.  However, that doesn't make my desire to spend my life with someone any less, and it doesn't calm my fears about ending up alone.  So that is where I am at.... 

Sherrie,  thanks for putting in a word on this. You're right. I've thought of this and a million other things that can go wrong. I'm trying to make a list of things that could go right as well.  I did date someone my own age once.  It seemed to be more work than it was worth.  I've usually dated younger guys, but never this much younger.  The odds are pretty slim that this could work long term.  I wonder if anyone out there has a different view?

I was your age once and married the wrong person because I thought I was getting old!  HA! OLD???????? Give me a break! I wish I had waited until now ..............I mean I wish I had never married! I am 40 now and I would rather be 40 and never have been married than 40 and divorced from the idiot I married!  Don't rush it! Don't let hind sight be your teacher!!! 

Sherrie 

  

Well, it was going to be nothing. I refused at first but he was soooooooooo persuasive and kept saying age didn't matter.............age is just a number.............it's only an issue if I make it and issue and things like that.  So...............I let it be a fling. It was such a confidence booster! After that, we tried to go out, but I was just too conscious of the age issue all the time like when we went out, when he asked me to meet his mom, etc. 

I mean his mom's age and my age were not that far apart. YOU KNOW THAT'S WIERD!!!  

We remained friends and just talked on the phone for a year and then in his pilot training..............he was able to fly and see me.  I thought we would see each other as friends.........................NOT...........because of his age..............he thought we would just...........YOU KNOW! I refused and we haven't spoken since.  

Also, you begin to realize how much of life they have not experienced.............how new and fresh it is to them.................and you realize that most of what is new to THEM..................YOU are very finished with! Like going out w/your friends, being single and partying, hip words and sayings of the times, your wardrobe, etc. 

It's a lot to think about.  

What if he wants children someday?   

The thing is the more and longer you let it go on................the stronger your feelings become and then it's too hard to break it off.  

Just another one of my experiences! 

Sherrie 

I love that idea!!! hee hee!!! That way................the boyfriends can occupy you two hot young chicks and it will be less competition stress for me!!! ;)  Sound good?? (jk) 

Sher 

LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL      You crack me up ?     Boyfriends are welcome, but I don't think mine will want to go.  He just started a job just before, so I don't think he will be able to go. 

  

Anyway, LOL We got to go cruisn'  

  

  

Crusie On 

 

Cindy 

No way - it's strictly a single girl thing! 

  

I'm not counting my chickens yet, not in a relationship that is less than 2 weeks old! It's been really useful to read the Dr P book as it helps me to understand where the guy is coming from, and in this relationship I'm not feeling at all insecure or worried (unlike usual!). 

  

If my bf doesn't continue to think I'm awesome (and treat me accordingly) then it will  be his loss. I wouldn't want to be with him if he thought any less of me, I wouldn't do that to myself! 

  

Sherrie - I'm really positively sure that your man will come along soon - I believe that if you give out all the right vibes then you will get what you deserve to have in life. Hang in there girl! 

  

Cat172