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frustrated
November 16, 2005, 4:32 pm PST

I'm in the same boat & sinking!!

Quote From: ladydiinsc

Hi Dr. Phil Fans 

I am always alone and I am TIRED of it.  I would love to have a group or one or two that I can talk to or do things with or connect with.  I have been single for a long time and in 2003 a lot of tragedies happened in my life and all the life seems to be out of me.  i only go out if I am asked and will hardly ever go to functions alone unless someone is thier that I know and will never sit in an eating place alone.  I am in SC.  Is their anyone who sort of feels this way and would you like to connect? 

Lady di in SC 

Hey, 

I moved from family and friends in Minnesota to Cocoa Beach FL.  I know I live on the beach but you can only go to the beach so many days a week alone.  Company!!!!  I'm use to having people around me at all times, heck I'm a Libra:)  I'm not close to you but it seems like we are both looking for just anyone!!  What I miss most about MN in having people just come over to play cards and relax.  I miss that more then anything.  It seems most people down here are always doing something, go, go, go.  I'm more of the relax type unless I'm on vacation or something of that sort.  People are different in all areas I guess.  Missing my people back home:(  

B~ 

 

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frustrated
November 16, 2005, 4:33 pm PST

I'm in the same boat & sinking!!

Quote From: ladydiinsc

Hi Dr. Phil Fans 

I am always alone and I am TIRED of it.  I would love to have a group or one or two that I can talk to or do things with or connect with.  I have been single for a long time and in 2003 a lot of tragedies happened in my life and all the life seems to be out of me.  i only go out if I am asked and will hardly ever go to functions alone unless someone is thier that I know and will never sit in an eating place alone.  I am in SC.  Is their anyone who sort of feels this way and would you like to connect? 

Lady di in SC 

Hey, 

I moved from family and friends in Minnesota to Cocoa Beach FL.  I know I live on the beach but you can only go to the beach so many days a week alone.  Company!!!!  I'm use to having people around me at all times, heck I'm a Libra:)  I'm not close to you but it seems like we are both looking for just anyone!!  What I miss most about MN in having people just come over to play cards and relax.  I miss that more then anything.  It seems most people down here are always doing something, go, go, go.  I'm more of the relax type unless I'm on vacation or something of that sort.  People are different in all areas I guess.  Missing my people back home:(  

B~ 

 
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hopeful
November 16, 2005, 6:57 pm PST

Tired of Being Single

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HI...honestly I don't really have many friends let alone any really my age.....but my one is 32 one 42 and the other 34

Friends are great to have but it seems like the ones you are hanging out with are way out of your age range and simply at different points in their lives.  Really your first posting reminded me of myself when I was 16.  You need some people areound you that are closer to your prospective on the subject and have been where you are in recent history.  And you aren't intimidating, they are telling you that because they aren't the right one for them....that's all, and that's ok, but you need to get out there and do things that young people like yourself should be doing.  Go dancing!  Do whatever makes you happy with people your own age and BE YOURSELF.  You have to be happy with yourself and content with who you are and sulking over never been kissed isn't helping no matter how much other stuff you have done?!?  that's rediculous!  Be fabulous!!!!  Don't feel bad because of the decisions you have made, the past is past and atleast you know that you don't need a man for a house and a living!!  That is waaay further than most of us are and that is a good thing!  You go girl!  You should be proud of yourself! 

 
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hopeful
November 16, 2005, 10:28 pm PST

LOOKING FOR A TX CHRISTIAN MAN

I am looking for a man who lives in the DFW area of TX who is between the ages of 35 & 43 and who is a born-again CHRISTIAN who lives his faith daily. 

  

Since I am a Christian myself, I do not believe in sex before marriage, so therefore, it is hard to find somebody online (or otherwise) that is not just trying to "score" with me. 

  

I do date but even the guys who claim to be Christians want sex from me on the 2nd or 3rd date.  I tell them what my moral convictions are & think they will get lost when it does not match theirs (or lack thereof is more accurate).  However, to my surprise I can't seem to "shake" these guys.......they want me even more than ever.........BUT.....they try & try to get me to change my beliefs into sleeping with them.........which I won't do.  I LOVE sex....I really do.....but I want it to be with just one man......my husband.....just as God intended.  I would much rather please God on this issue than man because someday I will have to face God and give an account of my life to Him and I want Him to be pleased with me.    

  

If you are a guy in the DFW area who is reading this and fits the profile I am looking for, please don't hesitate to post a reply with your email addy so I can write you.  Thanks, Linda 

 
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blank
November 17, 2005, 5:19 am PST

Really, Really Tired of being single

I am a 42 year old divorced mother of one who is in college.  I was married for 18 years and thought everything was great until he started acting strangely.  I found out three months later that he was having an affair.  I asked him to stay and work it out but he left without any remorse.  He is married to the woman he was having the affair with now.  I have no friends that I can go out with and have no way of meeting people.  More than anything, I would just like to have someone to do things with, man or woman.  However, I would like to meet a man who I can trust.  I am really tired of going home from work and having no one to talk to about my day.  I live in a small town where there is nothing to do and no single men my age available.  I used to be a fun person.  I would like to be that way again.
 
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blank
November 17, 2005, 2:27 pm PST

To Brians38

   Having read your message, especially the last line of "What can I do to lead her to the light?", I will have to say that the only things you can do for her is assure her of your friendship (whether you two share sex and/or marriage) and pray for all you're worth for her and the children.  She's caught in a difficult situation and needs to know that she has people she can count on.  Don't try to reason her out of her decisions, just trust that she will see the light on her own.  Meanwhile, if she or the kids start "running into doors," call the police!!!!!   God bless and keep you all!
 
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happy
November 17, 2005, 6:22 pm PST

Have some faith!

Quote From: karen6163

I am a 42 year old divorced mother of one who is in college.  I was married for 18 years and thought everything was great until he started acting strangely.  I found out three months later that he was having an affair.  I asked him to stay and work it out but he left without any remorse.  He is married to the woman he was having the affair with now.  I have no friends that I can go out with and have no way of meeting people.  More than anything, I would just like to have someone to do things with, man or woman.  However, I would like to meet a man who I can trust.  I am really tired of going home from work and having no one to talk to about my day.  I live in a small town where there is nothing to do and no single men my age available.  I used to be a fun person.  I would like to be that way again.
Hey, listen i was reading your message you need to have some faith hun! if you live in a small town why dont you take some time of work go to the nearest city and just have some fun! meet new people become energetic and not so down on yourself! I mean hey common i live in canada and ive never even met you and i have faith in you..so have some faith in yourself. If you go to a big city go to some mall, look your best ofcourse, and you never know you might mee a cute man or some friendly ladies you can chill with.
 
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quiet
November 17, 2005, 7:28 pm PST

i am epileptic and single and canadian

i am someone who is sick and tired of being single dispite the fact i am a non-smoker a non-drinker  a non-partier. i love children, i love classic video games. i am into the variety of music and movies and shows except for the following :  i hate hard rock, i hate rap, i hate 100% action movies, i hate horror movies, i love reality shows, survivor, smallville, the list can go on. i hate womens who only cares for looks and appearance and perfumes and sex.  the women i will eventually have must be willing to move to ontario canada because of my ontario pension i am on for lifetime. i as well have a home job of doing beaded bracelet. i am someone who will not use the stove unless i am with a companion in the house or appartment because of my seizures . there are certain chores i will not do unless i am with a companion, the companion doesn't have to help me on chores, the companion only needs to watch over me, but  if i ever get a seizure for the companion shell take over on what i was doing especially if i was cooking  

  

the followings will trigger a seizure:  

  

too much sugar 

too much water 

too weak  

too active  

high blood pressure 

low blood pressure 

high blood sugar level 

low blood sugar level 

too cold 

too hot 

cold in summer 

hot in winter 

loud music !!! 

earphone on my ears !!! 

going in a sauna too long 

going in a jacuzzi too long 

stay outside in the winter time too long 

alcohol !!! 

coffee !!! 

too much caffeine 

junk food !!!  

any 3D show or 3D videogames on TV !!! 

too much nicoteen cigarette smell from a party 

eating too much  

not eating enough 

  

IS IT JUST ME OR ARE THERE OTHER PEOPLE SIMULAR TO ME AND I DONT EVEN KNOW IT  IF SO; YOU CAN EMAIL ME @  charles_tossell_sudbury_ontario_canada@sympatico.ca 

 
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hopeful
November 17, 2005, 8:32 pm PST

are you interested in moving into ontario canada

i am a male, libra, caucasian, bilingual (french-english), 22 years old, epileptic, buld headed guy, i love children, i'm looking for an older women who doesnt mind moving into ontario with me once we know each other very well. i will be straight forward i hate the womens who parties all the time or only cares about looks and appearance and perfume, i hate people who smokes but i must respect them in other words the women of my dream must be a non-smoker and i can accept her partying and drinking occasionnally but i prefer her to be a non drinker and a non-partier as well. you are more then welcome to call me or email me, clck on my profile, looking forward to hear from you 

  

the type of women i'm looking for: 

  

caucasian 

french 

catholic 

non-smoker 

non-drinker or drinks occasionally 

non-partier or party's occasionally 

experienced on seizures or epileptic 

older then me 

matched sign of a libra  

(a libra must avoid capricorn, cancer, scorpio) 

a women who doesnt care about the looks/appearance  

a women who would care about what's inside that counts 

doesn't mind classic video game 

wanting children 

 
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ecstatic
November 19, 2005, 5:56 am PST

Love the singles life

 I am a 21 year old senior who is focused (well not really) on becoming a Certified Public Accountant. I am interested in pursuing a career whereby I can help people with their financial problems. I really like working with people who make less than 100K since it is not the nitty gritty, but more based on how well or poorly I perform my work. I hope that I will be judged mainly on accuracy and dependability.

Although I am a Caucasian, I just do not feel like dating a white person. I have to agree wih that African American female that there are not compatible black men. I would off course say to her that she is not looking at the right men, but I can see myself most likely with an African, Native, or Asian American person. I see myself with someone that is totally different and someone that would be more trustworthy. I do not want someone with blond hair, since I hopefully will never be a slut.

I like my studies and don't know what I want to do for a career, since finding a job has been difficult. I currently work at a university library shelving books 13 hours per week. I like my job and hope to tutor Algebra and some business classes next semester. I am not as skilled as my brother, but I learned a lot from him and hope that I have been more disciplined as a result. I love my brother, but we see each other every three months even though we attend the same university; he is a doctoral student and I am a post-undergraduate. I am thinking about becoming a lawyer and a girl would really wreck those plans. I can see myself with a black women, but I will most likely end out with an Asian-American female. I had a crush on someone at my community college who was from Vietnam, but we both went our separate ways; in other words, it was just puppy love.

I am kind of inmature and hope that I can get it together by the time I am 25. I really like the singles life because of the associated independence that one can have as a result of being single. It is great! My cousin who is 30 loves it and he can do whaterver he desires. Its a great lifestyle. Eventually, I would like to have children and it will be a nice household. I think that people change such that divorce can actually be healthy; it is not the same person one married. I was so pleased when my parents got divorced, since they were both better off as single people. My dad had a girl friend and my mom after 10 years, finally became a teacher. She is so thrilled. She's got to get a budget together so she knows her disposable income. I am guilty too, since I have $16,400 in student loans and a $4,200 car insurance payment coming due. I have roughly half the car insurance payment in the bank and I make, with extra hours, about $5,200 per year. I hope to secure more work and work upwards of 60 hours per week. I am young.

Nathan
 
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