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February 3, 2006, 10:18 am PST
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Quote From: daphinie
Hi, first off, a little about me, I'm 41 and haven't had a relationship in a few years now, I'm a shy person until you get to know me. In the past I have usually come on too strong, by letting a guy know that I'm interested through emailing or trying my best to talk to them (as scary as that can be being shy and all) and that sort of thing, well I end up scaring them off. So now I'm confused as to what I need to do, I'm tired of this. I see these other women doing the same thing and flirting and all that and they seem to get asked out, whereas I don't, and I'm not a bad looking woman. I guess I've always looked at as I'm shy and I need to let them know I'm interested, so they don't go guessing, and sometimes I'm so afraid I'm not giving the right vibes to let them know. But now my sister is telling me to act like I'm not interested so they will chase me, she says don't chase them, don't let them know your interested so they will chase you, and I guess that scares me, I'm scared that they won't chase me. My sister is a different type of person, she's not shy, so yeah maybe that works for her, but would it for me? So okay here's the situation about the guy I'm interested in now, please give some advice, should I do what my sis says or let him know somehow that I'm interested, what should a shy girl do?
I just started a class at my community college and the instructor is around my age and single and I'm very attracted to him physically, his personality everything and was wondering if you can give me some clue as to whether he's also attracted to me or not? First off, the first day was basically about the class, he gave us the syllabus with his phone number on it and email address and so forth. Then about 3 days later (on a Saturday afternoon) he called me, his voice was a bit shaky like maybe he was nervous and he told me that he put the wrong phone number on the syllabus and needed to give me the right number and so I took it down, then he told me to have a nice day and we hung up. Well then that Monday came and in class he told everyone that he gave us all the wrong phone number (# to the school) and said so you need to get out your pencils and write this down and wrote it on the board. So, everyone in the class BUT ME was writing it down, which kind of told me that I was the only one he called. I notice him looking at me a lot in class, he just started joking with me a little bit not long ago. At one point last week, I had a question about an assignment so I emailed him about it and he returned an email to get back with me on that question and then told me in class a couple days later, (when class was over and I was handing in an assignment) that he liked my SN (screen name), this other one that I used when I emailed him, which has reference that I'm a mom, he said he liked it and thought it was cute. So I'm just wondering if these are signs that he might also be interested in me, or is it that I'm just hoping he is. If he's interested in me, could it be that maybe he's waiting to ask me out when this semester is over, since there is a teacher/student thing here? Or does that matter, I don't even know? Maybe he's shy? Or is he just not into me? He also let us know that he works part time at a store, so if we have a question that we could go there and ask. So I was thinking maybe to go and ask about an assignment and see what happens from there, see if he chit chats with me and all that, what do you think? Should I do that or just be in class, go with the flow and smile a lot? I'm so sorry this is so long, if you got this far, thank you for reading.
Hey There,
It sounds like he is interested in you. Simply because he called you specially and gave you his number and keep looking at you. I think that is a sign of him wanting something more.
I would, however, wait till your class is over, before anything gets started between you. Ethics.
Hope this helps you
Cindy in FL
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