Topic : Tired of Being Single

Hi all,I'm new at this site. I tried meeting men from work bad idea. Been there done that. I dated friends of friends it lasted for a while.Sometimes I feel that there's something wrong with me. I make friends very easily. I have lots of male friends but they are either married or gay. I met men on line they are lier's, cheaters or basically just like playing head games.So, if anyone out there looking for a good women just e-mail me @ vikachman@yahoo.com.I just want a good man to grow old with. 

VIK 

well first off i know i am young and i have a lot of life ahead of me but im 21 and single... i guess what it is is that i am tired of being alone or only finding the guys who want to get something without a relationship and im better than that i don't need that in my life. i want a relationship i want something solid and guaranteed something that will work for me. i've had a sting of bad relationships and its that i just don't know how much more i can take especially the guys who like to take advantage. what do i do where do i find a good guy... i can't meet them on my own my friends try to hook me up but it doesn't work so well i turned to the online dating and thats a bust... i don't know what it is if its me or what???? i just feel so alone... 

Thanks so much for this post. I as a 31 year old women appriciate women who are middle aged and have never been married trying to WARN the women out there. I applaude you being honest instead of trying to convince everyone that you are happy being single if you aren't, like some of the people on the "Love Being Single" board. 

I know several middle aged single women who always put on a happy face.  I have no evidence that they aren't happy, so I say nothing. But I do wonder.  It wasn't too long ago on another messae board on this site that I came across an angry and heartfelt message from a 51 year old woman who hadn't been married or had kids.  I thanked her too for her honesty. It opened my eyes because at 51 she really was at the point of no return. 

But time IS on my side, and because  of  you and her sharing your feelings I have the strength to do what I have to do to find that special someone and have a family before it is too late. 

I wish some of the women around my age would see such post and head the warning. But no! They are out buying themselves right hand diamond rings, and talking about all the wonderful things they can do beacuse they are single! Please! 

My favorite are those ladies who say "I could never do ( insert your favorite accomplishment here) If were MARRIED!"  Have they heard of Sandra Day O'Conner???  

Why just yesterday I was watching the Winter Olympics coverage and they were talking about how a young lady competing in Curling for the USA was engaged and got a surprise bridal shower from her teamates. Complete with and Olympic rings cake! Now thats an ACCOMPLISHED woman I can admire!   

This is one of the most important reasons I LIKE on line dating and other dating services. 

For instance, I am on match.com. Anyone else that is on it knows that on your profile you are asked to fill out the type of body type you desire for you match.  This is the one thing that guys almost never lie about. What body types they like on a woman.  All I have to do when corresponding with them is ask them to look over their profile and verify that they haven't made any mistakes on it. 

I was with a guy once who slithered out of my life when I gained some weight.  Actually it was only one dress size! I went from a 9/10 to and 11/12. I was working in a department store at the time and I passed by the plus size ladies clothing section one day. I picked up a shirt in the SMALLEST size and held it against myself. I said to myself " I'm too SMALL for this, so why is this jerk making me feel like I am 300 pounds!" 

But at that time I didn't have a resource such as a dating service to help me find men that didn't mind extra pounds. 

I wish I had had it then because I am finding them now on match.com!  Even in the superficial L. A. area where I live!  And would you believe that I have seen MBA's, doctors, lawyers, firefighter, and yes even extremely handsome ( and sweet, I wouldn't judge on just looks) men who don't mind women with a fuller figure!  

I am a single woman, never been married, have hardly ever dated. I met a man at work who is younger than me that I am very attracted to. He treats me like I am great. He flirts, teases, tells me deep dark secrets, confides in me and tells me he cares what I think about what he does. He is the first man in forever that has made me feel special, cared for, and beautiful. I have not always had the best self-esteem, but before meeting him I had come to terms with myself, my appearance and what I have to offer someone, so he has just reinforced the good in me. I hope that makes sense. 

Why am I confused? Well, this man is in a relationship with someone else and has been for a number of years. They are talking about getting engaged, however he does not seem very excited about this. She and her friends are pressuring him, many of their mutual friends are married or engaged and to take the words out of his mouth "it seems like the thing to do".  He has told me in the past that he does not like being alone. It scares me that he may marry simply out of being pressured and fear of being alone. I have told him to honor himself and do what is important to him.  

I think he knows that I have feeling for him and he is careful to not hurt me. He mentioned buying her engagement ring which hurt me a little and I realized that I was lonely and wondering when and if ever I would have that. I got quiet and he put his arm around me and gave me a wonderful hug like he understood. I was mortified and tried to play it off. Things have not changed with our repour with each even after this.   

The latest thing to confuse me about him is that over the past weekend I was not working and he called me to see if I was having a nice day off .  I asked him if he missed me and he said yes he did. Was this all in good fun or partly serious. He does not ever call me.  I want to get over him and come to terms that all we are are friends, good friends.  I also don't want to miss an opportunity if there may be one.  

Anyone have any thoughts? Thank you...... 

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It's not as bad as it seems, just have to quit looking so hard for someone to love and care for you period. Just let it happen... I'm still waiting but someday without forcing it, it will come to you. I'm in the one of the worlds hardest professions and can't even get a date due to it stay with some one long enough to were they give up and run away or find someone else(the military) I am currently serving in Afghanistan and this is what I do and one of these days I will find someone just like you will. It will be standing in front of you before you know it, just quit killing yourself by looking so hard. Let it come to you like you walking across the street and a bus hitting you before you know it. The southern-boy theory.  

signed: 

marc_marcus172@yahoo.com 

It's not as bad as it seems, just have to quit looking so hard for someone to love and care for you period. Just let it happen... I'm still waiting but someday without forcing it, it will come to you. I'm in the one of the worlds hardest professions and can't even get a date due to it stay with some one long enough to were they give up and run away or find someone else(the military) I am currently serving in Afghanistan and this is what I do and one of these days I will find someone just like you will. It will be standing in front of you before you know it, just quit killing yourself by looking so hard. Let it come to you like you walking across the street and a bus hitting you before you know it. The southern-boy theory.  

signed: 

marc_marcus172@yahoo.com