Topic : Tired of Being Single

I am proud of your accomplishments, learning who you are and what you want and need in your life.  I have met men that wanted me to change for them and follow them or wait for them.

Not anymore. I know that I want someone that is respectful, considerate and passes My son's check list. LOL. I might have to wait  for Mr. Right but he needs to have the same interests that I have.

Like volunteering for good causes, similar interests in religion and spirituality.

Those are just some of my needs and interests.

Hope to hear from you again Jan.

I am usually not on the message board as I do not have easy access to the internet.

Just believe in yourself and your instincts; they keep you strong.

Bye for now Susan

I am glad to read and hear your message. You sound very much like myself. Optimistism is a healthy way to look at life and when you have lemons.  Something usually comes along to help the situation/challenge we just need to listen for it. You Have A strong message of hope, strength and excellent character.  I am glad to be alive in 2006 instead of 1806, women do have choices and are able to stand up for themselves.

Keep strong,

Bye for now,

Susan Nelson

Hi Susan, 

Thanks for the nice reply.  I have to admit, there were a few times that I would blame myself for allowing men to do what they have done to me in the past.  But, I've learned to chalk it up as another lesson to learn.  

     Many of my friends tell me that "You watch he is going to try and get you back because you did not put up with his ways." I tell them," He can try all he wants. And if I decide to speak with him, I'll just tell him thank you for letting me see the type of relationship I do not desire to be in." Maybe someday I'll meet someone who truly deserves the type of woman I am and if not, that is fine because I have a great life and a great son!  

Blessings, 

Carrie 

Hi   

I'm Stacy, 35 and single.  I think my problem is I am choosing the wrong guy all the time.  I give too many chances and don't know when to say "enough is enough".  When I meet someone, I give it my all and never get the same in return.  Regardless of being disappointed many times by the same person I still give  more chances.  How do I stop this trend, and move on.  I am not a party goer so I do not have that many friend.  Help.  

Stacy  

I do have a question though if you don't mind, I have been dating a man for 3 months and we have so many things in common and common goals and life styles and we both find that great!  We enjoy each other’s company and are never at a loss for words not to mention we laugh all the time!  I feel that I know enough about this man to pursue a relationship with him even though I understand that 3 months certainly is not a long time.  He claims that he is not ready for anything serious, yet he spends all of his free time with me and involves me in every aspect of his day...meanwhile he is still "talking/dating" other woman!!!  I know he cares about me and that I care for him so I don't understand why monogamy is such a problem...I don't want to move in together or get married anytime soon...I just want to be "enough" and know that there is no one between us or why am I here? He spends a great deal of time with me either on the phone or in my presence therefore I am pretty sure the others are more casual (?)!  Tell me please...Am I wasting my time dating a man that wants to date others even after 3 months of seeing what we could have together or is 3 months way to soon to know if you want to pursue someone...(keep in mind...I am not talking marriage here however I have been single for 8 years and dating around is finally boring me, haha)! Thank you!!!!!!! 

I am a 24-year-old college student who has the worst luck in dating. The guys I tend to like either don't treat me right, I would have to chase them all of the time (i.e. I would call them more than they call me, they 'stood me up' on several dates as well as not calling me back like they say they would and/or they would do and say all of the right things first having me think that the relationship will last a little longer, but then they would stop calling). It is soooo frustrating because I have been single for over 8 years now and I am just ready to give up and become a nun LOL    

After reflecting back on my past, I realized why things are happening the way they are now for 1)the school I attend lacks qualitative and suitable men for me 2)maybe it's not the right time for me to be with someone since I have to get myself back on track, which I'm actually starting that now by applying for a new and better job back home, transferring to another school which is bigger and better to finish up my degree (which I just found out that I got accepted there and I have always wanted to go there since things went downhill where I'm at right now, and getting myself out of credit card debt. The third one is that I've been having series of dreams (as well as my mother, my friend, and my brother about this particular person) these past couple of years about this particular person which I have met several years back through some friends and which I am hoping he is the one.    

I pray on it every once and awhile if it is this person because I have a good feeling that it is or maybe I'm reading too much into it, but it just seems kind of obvious out of all of the people, why would he stick out on my mind as well as the minds of people who are close to me? The signs are there too. So, I'm just hoping that things will get better here real soon and that that person will come into my life here real soon. Tell me what you think. Have a great day, everyone and good luck in the dating world!