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Created on : Friday, November 03, 2006, 01:01:10 pm

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(Original Air Date: 11/08/06) When it comes to dating, they say age is just a number. But what happens when the man is more than two decades older than his girlfriend, or the woman is 15 years older than her young lover? Forty-year-old Sanjay is a wealthy cosmetic surgeon who met 18-year-old Jacqueline on the Web site SugarDaddie.com. They’ve only been together four months but are already talking marriage. Sanjay’s friend, Mike, is convinced that Jacqueline will put him right in the poorhouse! Is there a chance that Sanjay has found true love, or is Jacqueline just in it for the money? Then, 24-year-old Ryan is engaged to Angela, a woman 15 years his senior. Ryan’s friend, Donovan, fears that Angela is alienating Ryan from his buddies. Will Ryan have to choose between his college friends and his soon-to-be wife? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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butterflies86

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November 8, 2006, 1:41 pm PST

Sometimes it works out, but......

I was 20 when I met my husband who was 34. I am now 50 and he is 64 and we have been married for 25 years. We did hit some rough patches, but what marriage doesn't? We are so compatible that we can literally read each other's mind. However, when you meet someone at a website called sugardaddie.com, just what kind of relationship are you expecting? Oh, please! When the money is gone, so will she.

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November 8, 2006, 1:41 pm PST

11/08 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

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Who says those were her intentions? I believe she said that those are not and have not ever been her intentions. Is there a specific reason other than her age that we're jumping to the conclusion that that is what she is in it for? No, there certainly is not.

Even if she is a gold digger who cares?

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canchaser1220

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November 8, 2006, 1:42 pm PST

A little Story

I feel the need to voice my opinion on this subject. I am getting ready to celebrate my 4th wedding anniversary to a wonderful man.

I am 38 my husband is 25. When we met I was not looking at it as more than some fun. When he proposed I would not agree to marry him. I was worried that he had not lived as much as I had and would regret the decision to get married. Lets just say he didn't give up. When we got married I was 33 he was 20.

It has not always been easy for either of us. His family was not happy about it nor was mine. But after all this time every has become very supportive. As it turns out the worry was not the age difference but that he was so young (my In-laws have the same age difference as we do only my father-in-law is 13 years older than his wife).

I think with any relationship there are problems and that as long as everyone works it can work out. It has for us we now have a wonderful 2 year old.

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November 8, 2006, 1:42 pm PST

11/08 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

I would just like to commend Sanjay's friend for looking out for his best interests rather than being a dirty old frat-buddy high-fiving on the sly for picking up sweet arm candy. Although he spoke up A LOT, I hope Sanjay appreciates that his friend is playing devil's advocate for good reason. The concerns are legitimate. That girl couldn't express herself through a single sentence without breaking down. Sanjay, listen to your friend and let her grow up! I wonder if Sanjay chose a girl he couldn't really connect with in order to avoid that level of intimacy that when lost, as with his late wife, causes so much pain.

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November 8, 2006, 1:42 pm PST

It can work

Sorry but I have 2 cousins that have 20 years different age with her husband and his wife and are still going strong I don't think age really matters as long as you love each other. It's not us to juge and if there friends don't approve that's there problem. If my husband had pictures of his late wife around it would bother me also(he doesn't have a late wife first mariage) one ok but all around the sorry and I wouldn't want my husband to have pics of me if i died and would re marry sorry(sorry for spelling french canadian girl). Let them learn there own mistakes.

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November 8, 2006, 1:43 pm PST

11/08 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

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she met him on SUGARDADDIES.COM. it's completely obvious what her intentions were.

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November 8, 2006, 1:45 pm PST

11/08 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

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Younger women seek wealthy older partners are 100 Gold Diggers. No if's and or buts about it. 100 % artificial.

I completely DISAGREE! Are there younger women who are in fact gold diggers? Of course! BUT NOT ALL younger women who are with older wealthy men are gold diggers & I think making that statement is a HUGE assumption that shouldn't be made. That's one of the MANY things that's wrong with people these days, they see or hear something & then they just ASSUME without even knowing the REAL FACTS about the whole situation. In the case with Jackie & Sanjy, I really don't see her as a gold digger because he WANTS to spoil her & give her everything.... I don't think you can be labeled or label someone as a gold digger when the other person WANTS TO & ENJOYS giving them everything.

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November 8, 2006, 1:47 pm PST

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Considering she is on national television and there is Sanjay's employee (not friend) sitting in the audience calling her harsh names- she had every right to be upset. Your words are definitely not relatable in this circumstance. Try again.

I am not sure you read my posting,I am on the young ladies side and sanjays so maybe you posted it in the wrong comment?

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November 8, 2006, 1:47 pm PST

33 years

Paulette and I have been married for 33 years!!! AND there is 18 years between us, I am 54 and she is 72, and they have been very good years for both of us. WE have 3 children, ages 42, 46,& 48, and 5 grandchildren. As for what your "expert" says about learning the world and how to live, he is full of baloney. I had learned that before I met her because I was in the military during the Viet Nam era. You grew up fast and learned what the real world was all about. Thankfully, I did not have to go, but the everyday threat of it made a teenager become an adult very quickly.

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November 8, 2006, 1:48 pm PST

it's not the gap of years that's troublesome...

In Sanjay's and Jacqueline's case, what I think dooms the relationship is not the specific number of years in difference between their ages. 22 years in difference. Okay. We wouldn't really raise an eyebrow if she were 30 and he 52.

BUT, why I think this is a foolish match--long term relationship match, that is-- is the factor of the very different phases in life that each person is at: she's 18, he's 40. She's still a child--I mean, that is totally evident from the way she speaks--babbly, barely coherent as she was crying, not very articulate--and how she conducted herself, both on the video montage and in the studio in front of Dr. Phil and the audience.

I don't doubt the sincerity and passion of each one as they say they love each other. But it's naive and foolish to think that such a match could endure. As Dr. Phil said, she hasn't had the life experiences that make a person mature and truly an adult. It's very telling how defensive and arrogant she became when Dr. Phil pointed that out to her. I think he said something to that effect. When someone maintains how much she knows, you can't help but think that she can't even begin to comprehend the entirety of what she doesn't know.

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