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June 24, 2007, 9:52 am PDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

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Men like me are bitter because we were never given the chance.

 

Why should we drive a car someone else already wrecked?  Why should we date a chick with stretchmarks?  That's not right.

 

Older women have a curse:  Sex drive up, looks GONE.

 

Me?  I have all my hair and I work out five days a week.  I don't need any of those drugs.  I still go like an eighteen-year-old.


I'm glad I'm a guy.

 

You can't get me.  I've heard it all.  It doesn't hurt.  I'M NUMB.  What's funny is seeing an older woman come back after she made a fool of herself....AGAIN.  And there's that nice guy she ditched ten years before.  Only difference is that the nice guy has a bit more self respect than to drive that old clunker who knocks on his door.

 

Don't confuse arrogance with being right.  I'm RIGHT.

Why do you keep referring to yourself as a "nice guy"? You make such rude and disgusting remarks about women and then you think that you are a nice guy.
 
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June 24, 2007, 9:56 am PDT

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."...my body isn't the way it used to be..."

 

Precisely why we want someone in their twenties.

 

What the hell is wrong with you?   You wasted your youth with a guy who said that crap?  First of all, I wouldn't say things like what he did.  Second, why didn't you get a nice guy?  Third, WHY DIDN'T YOU GET MARRIED?  Was your career THAT important?

 

I know what I'm saying is hurtful, but I think you should read this from someone who WOULD have TRIED to make your dreams come true when you were young and worth knowing.  Now that you've got two kids, all guys like myself can do is flash the cross and run away.  I've dated women with children and it's just not worth it.  The man is ALWAYS an afterthought.

"Precisely why we want someone in their twenties."

Not all men are as superficial as you.

"I know what I'm saying is hurtful, but I think you should read this from someone who WOULD have TRIED to make your dreams come true when you were young and worth knowing."

Young and worth knowing? So a woman is only WORTH knowing if she is young and attractive? SO so so shallow.

"Now that you've got two kids, all guys like myself can do is flash the cross and run away.  I've dated women with children and it's just not worth it.  The man is ALWAYS an afterthought."

As they should be. Kids come first, always and you should be happy about that. You should NEVER come before kids in any relationship.
 
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June 24, 2007, 10:30 am PDT

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"Precisely why we want someone in their twenties."

Not all men are as superficial as you.

"I know what I'm saying is hurtful, but I think you should read this from someone who WOULD have TRIED to make your dreams come true when you were young and worth knowing."

Young and worth knowing? So a woman is only WORTH knowing if she is young and attractive? SO so so shallow.

"Now that you've got two kids, all guys like myself can do is flash the cross and run away.  I've dated women with children and it's just not worth it.  The man is ALWAYS an afterthought."

As they should be. Kids come first, always and you should be happy about that. You should NEVER come before kids in any relationship.

Probably the only time I'll ever agree with ya, penny  lol   ;-)

 

 
 
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June 24, 2007, 10:46 am PDT

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Probably the only time I'll ever agree with ya, penny  lol   ;-)

 

 

You never know Cam. We are both just two women trying to make sense of the world...and we are both in our 20, you never know what maybe happen.

 
 
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June 24, 2007, 10:57 am PDT

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You never know Cam. We are both just two women trying to make sense of the world...and we are both in our 20, you never know what maybe happen.

 
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June 26, 2007, 8:34 pm PDT

just be alone

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I'm in a realtionship where there is no passion, intimacy or romance. Not to mention the sex is not good, when we do have it. I've lost interest in sex and don't even want it with my partner. Why? Because he doesn't try to please me and I don't want to ask for what I want. I tried that once and he didn't seem very amused. I think he may think I'm a freak.

I care about him and don't want to end thing's but, I miss a passionate sex relationship.

The problem with women is they are terrified of being alone..you are staying in a relationship that is going nowhere because you don't want to be alone, when in fact it's probably the best thing for you. I stayed in an abusive relationship for a while cos I just couldn't imagine living without him, and then I finally left and I couldn't be happier! Also, some people are more into sex than others, some people not at all! You need to find someone who suits your sexual needs and you cannot be afraid of verbalising your desires- it's the only way to get what you want! More importantly though, most women don't know what buttons to push themselves, you need to explore yourself sexually- get a vibrator!
 
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June 26, 2007, 8:37 pm PDT

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oh yeh I forgot- most men can't be bothered pleasing a woman in bed, "it takes too long". That's what one guy actually said to me! They just wanna get themselves off, and then they're done. And they wonder why we turn to other women...ha ha!! p.s i'm not a lesbian, but it seems to be a trend amongst women lately cos men can't satisfy them!
 
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June 27, 2007, 12:40 pm PDT

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oh yeh I forgot- most men can't be bothered pleasing a woman in bed, "it takes too long". That's what one guy actually said to me! They just wanna get themselves off, and then they're done. And they wonder why we turn to other women...ha ha!! p.s i'm not a lesbian, but it seems to be a trend amongst women lately cos men can't satisfy them!

Not all guys are that way. I can attest to that. But you're right in that most of them are too lazy to sexually please their partner. This is mostly due to their immaturity but can also stem from their selfishness or low self-confidence.

 

As far as women turning to other women for sexual satisfaction, that is completely understandable given how some of these guys treat their girlfriends. I also believe that women can sexually satisfy other women better than men can. Most men don't explore enough nor do they take the time and effort to figure out the most delicious way to bring their woman to orgasm.

 

 
 
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June 27, 2007, 12:50 pm PDT

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The problem with women is they are terrified of being alone..you are staying in a relationship that is going nowhere because you don't want to be alone, when in fact it's probably the best thing for you. I stayed in an abusive relationship for a while cos I just couldn't imagine living without him, and then I finally left and I couldn't be happier! Also, some people are more into sex than others, some people not at all! You need to find someone who suits your sexual needs and you cannot be afraid of verbalising your desires- it's the only way to get what you want! More importantly though, most women don't know what buttons to push themselves, you need to explore yourself sexually- get a vibrator!
I am not terrified of being alone.  I never have been. If my husband died I would be sad, because I adore him and love him, but I wouldn't feel lost and I wouldn't try to find someone new. I think that is an unfair stereotype.
 
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June 27, 2007, 12:51 pm PDT

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Not all guys are that way. I can attest to that. But you're right in that most of them are too lazy to sexually please their partner. This is mostly due to their immaturity but can also stem from their selfishness or low self-confidence.

 

As far as women turning to other women for sexual satisfaction, that is completely understandable given how some of these guys treat their girlfriends. I also believe that women can sexually satisfy other women better than men can. Most men don't explore enough nor do they take the time and effort to figure out the most delicious way to bring their woman to orgasm.

 

 

Would you mind if I e-mailed you?  I am interested in hearing more of your thoughts without being in such a public forum.  Thanks,

 

Greg
 
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