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September 7, 2008, 8:10 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: redfeathers

Well, I have offered to be Felicia for him, and he told me not to. *shrug* I guess he doesn't want me to because he knows how I feel about her (he used to make comments about her a lot...plus there is more hentai of her than there is of the character Morrigan from the same game, and Morrigan is a succubus 0_o)

 

Anyway, I could see your point though. Knowing him, he would probably be willing. But you just gave me a great idea. We could roleplay these two characters at the same time...so it would be like the Scout doing Felicia.....brilliant.....

hehehe, yeah, that sounds like a good time.  I looked up felicia, I'm suprised you don't like that he likes a cat chick, don't you like big cats?   I would think her little get up would suit you well.  But, you're gonna need some nice hips and boobs to pull it off, she's got a great figure which is alot of her appeal.
 
September 7, 2008, 11:12 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: turkalurk

hehehe, yeah, that sounds like a good time.  I looked up felicia, I'm suprised you don't like that he likes a cat chick, don't you like big cats?   I would think her little get up would suit you well.  But, you're gonna need some nice hips and boobs to pull it off, she's got a great figure which is alot of her appeal.
I do like cats yes, but the deal is  she's very obviously  a  fanservice cat.

I've had several people tell me that I would pull of Felicia very well. I don't mean to honk my own horn, but I have the body for it. XD I weigh about 96 pounds, have about a 26 waistline, and have 34 DD's.

Anyway, I asked him and it unfolded in a different way than I expected. I asked him if he has ever wanted me to roleplay as Felicia for him. Actually, he said he's never really wanted me to do that for him, because he only masturbated to pictures of her when he was a lot younger, but never fantasized about her, and never wished that she was something he could have. Caught me by suprise. Then he got curious and asked me "...Why?" So I said that there was someone I wanted him to roleplay as, and would have done that for him in exchange. I had him guess who I wanted him to be, because I was pretty nervous and turning pink during the conversation.

I gave him the hint that it was from a video game that I have played recently, and that he owns it. (He had been guessing characters like Iron Man XD ) He asked "Am I a black dude?" That made me laugh, and I kind of gave it away by saying the only black characters I could think of were Barret (FF7) Sig (Jak 2 and 3) and the Demoman. The Demoman is in TF2, so he was like "Wait...is it TF2? Is it the SCOUT?"

I told him yes, and it took him a few seconds to register this. He said "Um...okay....uh...I don't know what to say..."
The next day he told me that he didn't really like the idea because it felt to him like I was thinking about being with another person, and it hurt a little, like he was left out of the equation. Then I mentioned that is exactly how I felt when I caught him looking at porn. So in that sense, the field was leveled a little. Know what I mean?

Anyway, he thought about it some more and told me later that he just felt caught off guard, and that I shouldn't worry about it. And that I should put it out of my mind, and someday he might suprise me by doing it, or he just won't do it at all. Either way, if I forget that I asked him, I'll pretty much have nothing to lose.

*whew* long-winded post...
 
September 8, 2008, 10:14 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: redfeathers

I do like cats yes, but the deal is  she's very obviously  a  fanservice cat.

I've had several people tell me that I would pull of Felicia very well. I don't mean to honk my own horn, but I have the body for it. XD I weigh about 96 pounds, have about a 26 waistline, and have 34 DD's.

Anyway, I asked him and it unfolded in a different way than I expected. I asked him if he has ever wanted me to roleplay as Felicia for him. Actually, he said he's never really wanted me to do that for him, because he only masturbated to pictures of her when he was a lot younger, but never fantasized about her, and never wished that she was something he could have. Caught me by suprise. Then he got curious and asked me "...Why?" So I said that there was someone I wanted him to roleplay as, and would have done that for him in exchange. I had him guess who I wanted him to be, because I was pretty nervous and turning pink during the conversation.

I gave him the hint that it was from a video game that I have played recently, and that he owns it. (He had been guessing characters like Iron Man XD ) He asked "Am I a black dude?" That made me laugh, and I kind of gave it away by saying the only black characters I could think of were Barret (FF7) Sig (Jak 2 and 3) and the Demoman. The Demoman is in TF2, so he was like "Wait...is it TF2? Is it the SCOUT?"

I told him yes, and it took him a few seconds to register this. He said "Um...okay....uh...I don't know what to say..."
The next day he told me that he didn't really like the idea because it felt to him like I was thinking about being with another person, and it hurt a little, like he was left out of the equation. Then I mentioned that is exactly how I felt when I caught him looking at porn. So in that sense, the field was leveled a little. Know what I mean?

Anyway, he thought about it some more and told me later that he just felt caught off guard, and that I shouldn't worry about it. And that I should put it out of my mind, and someday he might suprise me by doing it, or he just won't do it at all. Either way, if I forget that I asked him, I'll pretty much have nothing to lose.

*whew* long-winded post...

ah, so you'd like to see him appreciate beauty with substance.  I can see you not clashing well with those kinds of girls, you seem more intellectual and down to earth.  I have to admit, I didn't expect you to have a shape like that.  He's is absolutely insane for not wanting take advantage of an opportunity like that.  Well, I guess I'm more thinking along the lines of dressing in her costume, not so much just role playing as the characters. It wouldn't be as much fun without getting into costume, so maybe I can kinda see where he's coming from a bit.  I see it more so with porn, because you're not involving the other person.  When he was masterbating to porn, he really was leaving you out of the equation.  I don't see where he vanishes from the equation with the role playing thing.  He's just as much a part of it as you are, just some extra variables in the mix.  So, it sucks that you got the courage up to talk about it, and he wasn't for it, but at least you got to give him a taste of his own medicine.  That's why I'm glad I stumbled on to that porn board.  I really would have no idea that it could affect people like that.  I might not have ever got off to porn while in a relationship that I can think of, but I'm sure it could of happened if I ever hit period of no sex for an extended amount of time.  What gets me though, is it ain;t about porn because even if I wasn;t aware it was a big deal, it would only take once and that'd be the end of it, cause I"d never want to hurt someone I loved.  It shows alot about a person that they aren't willing to stop.  Good for you that your boyfriend isn't like those guys.  But, I have a feeling if he was, he wouldn't be your boyfriend for very much longer, and thats really how it should be.  Not because they view porn, but because they don't care enough to stop.

 

Wow, sorry about ramblin so much about the porn thing.  I guess I just realized that is one of the most valuable lessons I've learned on a message board.  I need to chill out on the debating religion board.  I"m getting to frustrated with cheryl and kl, I want to like them, I really do.  I disappoint myself with them, I've been thinking of practicing meditation on a regular basis.  I feel like I"ve taken a couple steps back on my spiritual journey. 

 

Anyway, that part about the black man was hilarious, reminded me of the heartbreak kid, when they had they're honeymoon sex. 

 
September 9, 2008, 12:09 am CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: turkalurk

ah, so you'd like to see him appreciate beauty with substance.  I can see you not clashing well with those kinds of girls, you seem more intellectual and down to earth.  I have to admit, I didn't expect you to have a shape like that.  He's is absolutely insane for not wanting take advantage of an opportunity like that.  Well, I guess I'm more thinking along the lines of dressing in her costume, not so much just role playing as the characters. It wouldn't be as much fun without getting into costume, so maybe I can kinda see where he's coming from a bit.  I see it more so with porn, because you're not involving the other person.  When he was masterbating to porn, he really was leaving you out of the equation.  I don't see where he vanishes from the equation with the role playing thing.  He's just as much a part of it as you are, just some extra variables in the mix.  So, it sucks that you got the courage up to talk about it, and he wasn't for it, but at least you got to give him a taste of his own medicine.  That's why I'm glad I stumbled on to that porn board.  I really would have no idea that it could affect people like that.  I might not have ever got off to porn while in a relationship that I can think of, but I'm sure it could of happened if I ever hit period of no sex for an extended amount of time.  What gets me though, is it ain;t about porn because even if I wasn;t aware it was a big deal, it would only take once and that'd be the end of it, cause I"d never want to hurt someone I loved.  It shows alot about a person that they aren't willing to stop.  Good for you that your boyfriend isn't like those guys.  But, I have a feeling if he was, he wouldn't be your boyfriend for very much longer, and thats really how it should be.  Not because they view porn, but because they don't care enough to stop.

 

Wow, sorry about ramblin so much about the porn thing.  I guess I just realized that is one of the most valuable lessons I've learned on a message board.  I need to chill out on the debating religion board.  I"m getting to frustrated with cheryl and kl, I want to like them, I really do.  I disappoint myself with them, I've been thinking of practicing meditation on a regular basis.  I feel like I"ve taken a couple steps back on my spiritual journey. 

 

Anyway, that part about the black man was hilarious, reminded me of the heartbreak kid, when they had they're honeymoon sex. 

ah, so you'd like to see him appreciate beauty with substance.  I can see you not clashing well with those kinds of girls, you seem more intellectual and down to earth. 

 

Yeah, pretty much. It really bugs me when there's some gorgeous girl flaunting around with nothing below the surface. My friend says there are a lot of girls like that around his campus. Most of them are sorority girls. He tried to date one once, didn't work out so well.

 

 I have to admit, I didn't expect you to have a shape like that.  He's is absolutely insane for not wanting take advantage of an opportunity like that.  Well, I guess I'm more thinking along the lines of dressing in her costume, not so much just role playing as the characters. It wouldn't be as much fun without getting into costume, so maybe I can kinda see where he's coming from a bit.  I see it more so with porn, because you're not involving the other person.  When he was masterbating to porn, he really was leaving you out of the equation.  I don't see where he vanishes from the equation with the role playing thing.  He's just as much a part of it as you are, just some extra variables in the mix. 

 

Indeed. I kind of wanted to dress in her costume and do something sexy for him. That's pretty much what I wanted him to do for me. Dress in the costume. Kind of liiike...him as a Scout. As if he were a Scout himself. Still him, just with a different outfit and job. Hehe.  By the way, what did you picture my shape being like? Just out of curiosity. XD

 

So, it sucks that you got the courage up to talk about it, and he wasn't for it, but at least you got to give him a taste of his own medicine.  That's why I'm glad I stumbled on to that porn board.  I really would have no idea that it could affect people like that.  I might not have ever got off to porn while in a relationship that I can think of, but I'm sure it could of happened if I ever hit period of no sex for an extended amount of time.  What gets me though, is it ain;t about porn because even if I wasn;t aware it was a big deal, it would only take once and that'd be the end of it, cause I"d never want to hurt someone I loved.  It shows alot about a person that they aren't willing to stop.  Good for you that your boyfriend isn't like those guys.  But, I have a feeling if he was, he wouldn't be your boyfriend for very much longer, and thats really how it should be.  Not because they view porn, but because they don't care enough to stop.

 

He did ask me if I felt like "justice had been served." I figured that I didn't really feel like that, but as if he wouldn't really fully understand my feelings any other way than through experience.

I don't think him looking at porn would bother me so much if he and I weren't having sex. I never really thought about it with my other boyfriends, because I didn't have sex with them. He is my first and only, because we were both virgins when we got together, so I guess I want us to explore sexual things and experiences together rather than him being sidetracked by other women with a click of a mouse. It's that he now has someone who can give him sexual satisfaction in the flesh, a real person that he can have, so he doesn't need to go searching down porn.

I only caught him just once after he told me he didn't, and I don't think he looks at it anymore. Especially now. You're right, if I kept catching him all the time, I wouldn't stick around, for that reason. That he wouldn't care.

The odd thing is, he told me he doesn't mind if I look at it. I don't, but he says that he gives me permission if I want to. 0_o. I don't because 1) Never really have. Don't need it. 2) I'd feel like the world's biggest hypocrite.

We watch it together sometimes. (I know we're weird) One time, we even watched some HBO porn with his friends at their house. The acting was so bad, and the sex was so fake, we were all cracking up the whole time. It was like watching a really bad movie with a lot of sex scenes.

 

Wow, sorry about ramblin so much about the porn thing.  I guess I just realized that is one of the most valuable lessons I've learned on a message board.  I need to chill out on the debating religion board.  I"m getting to frustrated with cheryl and kl, I want to like them, I really do.  I disappoint myself with them, I've been thinking of practicing meditation on a regular basis.  I feel like I"ve taken a couple steps back on my spiritual journey. 

 

That's okay. Big posts give me more to read and more to contemplate. I learned to kind of steer clear of that thread unless I'm giving advice or support to someone who's really been hurt bad, 'cause when I tried to post...that got blown out of proportion so fast I barely knew what hit me...I'm sure some of them still think that my boyfriend is a dangerous sex addict that will destroy me. >_<

As for the religion topic. It goes too fast for me to really know what's going on. I pop in once in a while to tell a joke or something. Cheryl is...different. KL is kind of over the top.

 

Anyway, that part about the black man was hilarious, reminded me of the heartbreak kid, when they had they're honeymoon sex. 

 

Heh, I kind of wonder how he would have reacted if I'd said yes.

 
September 11, 2008, 1:29 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: redfeathers

ah, so you'd like to see him appreciate beauty with substance. I can see you not clashing well with those kinds of girls, you seem more intellectual and down to earth.

Yeah, pretty much. It really bugs me when there's some gorgeous girl flaunting around with nothing below the surface. My friend says there are a lot of girls like that around his campus. Most of them are sorority girls. He tried to date one once, didn't work out so well.

I have to admit, I didn't expect you to have a shape like that. He's is absolutely insane for not wanting take advantage of an opportunity like that. Well, I guess I'm more thinking along the lines of dressing in her costume, not so much just role playing as the characters. It wouldn't be as much fun without getting into costume, so maybe I can kinda see where he's coming from a bit. I see it more so with porn, because you're not involving the other person. When he was masterbating to porn, he really was leaving you out of the equation. I don't see where he vanishes from the equation with the role playing thing. He's just as much a part of it as you are, just some extra variables in the mix.

Indeed. I kind of wanted to dress in her costume and do something sexy for him. That's pretty much what I wanted him to do for me. Dress in the costume. Kind of liiike...him as a Scout. As if he were a Scout himself. Still him, just with a different outfit and job. Hehe. By the way, what did you picture my shape being like? Just out of curiosity. XD

So, it sucks that you got the courage up to talk about it, and he wasn't for it, but at least you got to give him a taste of his own medicine. That's why I'm glad I stumbled on to that porn board. I really would have no idea that it could affect people like that. I might not have ever got off to porn while in a relationship that I can think of, but I'm sure it could of happened if I ever hit period of no sex for an extended amount of time. What gets me though, is it ain;t about porn because even if I wasn;t aware it was a big deal, it would only take once and that'd be the end of it, cause I'd never want to hurt someone I loved. It shows alot about a person that they aren't willing to stop. Good for you that your boyfriend isn't like those guys. But, I have a feeling if he was, he wouldn't be your boyfriend for very much longer, and thats really how it should be. Not because they view porn, but because they don't care enough to stop.

He did ask me if I felt like 'justice had been served.' I figured that I didn't really feel like that, but as if he wouldn't really fully understand my feelings any other way than through experience.

I don't think him looking at porn would bother me so much if he and I weren't having sex. I never really thought about it with my other boyfriends, because I didn't have sex with them. He is my first and only, because we were both virgins when we got together, so I guess I want us to explore sexual things and experiences together rather than him being sidetracked by other women with a click of a mouse. It's that he now has someone who can give him sexual satisfaction in the flesh, a real person that he can have, so he doesn't need to go searching down porn.

I only caught him just once after he told me he didn't, and I don't think he looks at it anymore. Especially now. You're right, if I kept catching him all the time, I wouldn't stick around, for that reason. That he wouldn't care.

The odd thing is, he told me he doesn't mind if I look at it. I don't, but he says that he gives me permission if I want to. 0_o. I don't because 1) Never really have. Don't need it. 2) I'd feel like the world's biggest hypocrite.

We watch it together sometimes. (I know we're weird) One time, we even watched some HBO porn with his friends at their house. The acting was so bad, and the sex was so fake, we were all cracking up the whole time. It was like watching a really bad movie with a lot of sex scenes.

Wow, sorry about ramblin so much about the porn thing. I guess I just realized that is one of the most valuable lessons I've learned on a message board. I need to chill out on the debating religion board. I'm getting to frustrated with cheryl and kl, I want to like them, I really do. I disappoint myself with them, I've been thinking of practicing meditation on a regular basis. I feel like I've taken a couple steps back on my spiritual journey.

That's okay. Big posts give me more to read and more to contemplate. I learned to kind of steer clear of that thread unless I'm giving advice or support to someone who's really been hurt bad, 'cause when I tried to post...that got blown out of proportion so fast I barely knew what hit me...I'm sure some of them still think that my boyfriend is a dangerous sex addict that will destroy me. >_<

As for the religion topic. It goes too fast for me to really know what's going on. I pop in once in a while to tell a joke or something. Cheryl is...different. KL is kind of over the top.

Anyway, that part about the black man was hilarious, reminded me of the heartbreak kid, when they had they're honeymoon sex.

Heh, I kind of wonder how he would have reacted if I'd said yes.

 

As far how I pictured ya, I guess I pictured a human version of the lioness you posted, with less curves and smaller jugs than you mentioned.  I did get the impression that you're probably attractive.  I also talked about how I didn't get the deal your boyfriend was making with this.  I thought you guys were furries?  And the biggest thing that strikes me as odd, is that he said its ok for you to masturbate to porn!!!!!  Where is he in the equation in THAT!!!   And, how is that justice being served?  Did he catch you masturbating to a picture of scout?  No, you ASKED him if he wanted to be INVOLVED in your sexual fantasy.  He didn't ask you, he did it behind your back. and he did it without you involved.  Big difference. 

 

Also, I dig the hbo porn.  Its good clean classy porn!  One of the things I learned with debating it, is that those girls in hard core are really prostituting themselves.  They are getting paid to have sex with a stranger! 

 

And, I'm sure he wouldn't have reacted postively to the black man thing.  I'm not sure I would either.  It would make me insecure, like you would have desires that I couldn't exactly fill, so I would fear you would leave me.  But, if I loved ya, that fear could inspire me to do what I have to do to attempt to fulfill that desire.  Still, even if I'd do it, it wouldn't effect me postively.  I'd still feel that insecurity.

 
September 11, 2008, 1:29 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: redfeathers

ah, so you'd like to see him appreciate beauty with substance.  I can see you not clashing well with those kinds of girls, you seem more intellectual and down to earth. 

 

Yeah, pretty much. It really bugs me when there's some gorgeous girl flaunting around with nothing below the surface. My friend says there are a lot of girls like that around his campus. Most of them are sorority girls. He tried to date one once, didn't work out so well.

 

 I have to admit, I didn't expect you to have a shape like that.  He's is absolutely insane for not wanting take advantage of an opportunity like that.  Well, I guess I'm more thinking along the lines of dressing in her costume, not so much just role playing as the characters. It wouldn't be as much fun without getting into costume, so maybe I can kinda see where he's coming from a bit.  I see it more so with porn, because you're not involving the other person.  When he was masterbating to porn, he really was leaving you out of the equation.  I don't see where he vanishes from the equation with the role playing thing.  He's just as much a part of it as you are, just some extra variables in the mix. 

 

Indeed. I kind of wanted to dress in her costume and do something sexy for him. That's pretty much what I wanted him to do for me. Dress in the costume. Kind of liiike...him as a Scout. As if he were a Scout himself. Still him, just with a different outfit and job. Hehe.  By the way, what did you picture my shape being like? Just out of curiosity. XD

 

So, it sucks that you got the courage up to talk about it, and he wasn't for it, but at least you got to give him a taste of his own medicine.  That's why I'm glad I stumbled on to that porn board.  I really would have no idea that it could affect people like that.  I might not have ever got off to porn while in a relationship that I can think of, but I'm sure it could of happened if I ever hit period of no sex for an extended amount of time.  What gets me though, is it ain;t about porn because even if I wasn;t aware it was a big deal, it would only take once and that'd be the end of it, cause I"d never want to hurt someone I loved.  It shows alot about a person that they aren't willing to stop.  Good for you that your boyfriend isn't like those guys.  But, I have a feeling if he was, he wouldn't be your boyfriend for very much longer, and thats really how it should be.  Not because they view porn, but because they don't care enough to stop.

 

He did ask me if I felt like "justice had been served." I figured that I didn't really feel like that, but as if he wouldn't really fully understand my feelings any other way than through experience.

I don't think him looking at porn would bother me so much if he and I weren't having sex. I never really thought about it with my other boyfriends, because I didn't have sex with them. He is my first and only, because we were both virgins when we got together, so I guess I want us to explore sexual things and experiences together rather than him being sidetracked by other women with a click of a mouse. It's that he now has someone who can give him sexual satisfaction in the flesh, a real person that he can have, so he doesn't need to go searching down porn.

I only caught him just once after he told me he didn't, and I don't think he looks at it anymore. Especially now. You're right, if I kept catching him all the time, I wouldn't stick around, for that reason. That he wouldn't care.

The odd thing is, he told me he doesn't mind if I look at it. I don't, but he says that he gives me permission if I want to. 0_o. I don't because 1) Never really have. Don't need it. 2) I'd feel like the world's biggest hypocrite.

We watch it together sometimes. (I know we're weird) One time, we even watched some HBO porn with his friends at their house. The acting was so bad, and the sex was so fake, we were all cracking up the whole time. It was like watching a really bad movie with a lot of sex scenes.

 

Wow, sorry about ramblin so much about the porn thing.  I guess I just realized that is one of the most valuable lessons I've learned on a message board.  I need to chill out on the debating religion board.  I"m getting to frustrated with cheryl and kl, I want to like them, I really do.  I disappoint myself with them, I've been thinking of practicing meditation on a regular basis.  I feel like I"ve taken a couple steps back on my spiritual journey. 

 

That's okay. Big posts give me more to read and more to contemplate. I learned to kind of steer clear of that thread unless I'm giving advice or support to someone who's really been hurt bad, 'cause when I tried to post...that got blown out of proportion so fast I barely knew what hit me...I'm sure some of them still think that my boyfriend is a dangerous sex addict that will destroy me. >_<

As for the religion topic. It goes too fast for me to really know what's going on. I pop in once in a while to tell a joke or something. Cheryl is...different. KL is kind of over the top.

 

Anyway, that part about the black man was hilarious, reminded me of the heartbreak kid, when they had they're honeymoon sex. 

 

Heh, I kind of wonder how he would have reacted if I'd said yes.

 
September 11, 2008, 3:08 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: turkalurk

 

As far how I pictured ya, I guess I pictured a human version of the lioness you posted, with less curves and smaller jugs than you mentioned.  I did get the impression that you're probably attractive.  I also talked about how I didn't get the deal your boyfriend was making with this.  I thought you guys were furries?  And the biggest thing that strikes me as odd, is that he said its ok for you to masturbate to porn!!!!!  Where is he in the equation in THAT!!!   And, how is that justice being served?  Did he catch you masturbating to a picture of scout?  No, you ASKED him if he wanted to be INVOLVED in your sexual fantasy.  He didn't ask you, he did it behind your back. and he did it without you involved.  Big difference. 

 

Also, I dig the hbo porn.  Its good clean classy porn!  One of the things I learned with debating it, is that those girls in hard core are really prostituting themselves.  They are getting paid to have sex with a stranger! 

 

And, I'm sure he wouldn't have reacted postively to the black man thing.  I'm not sure I would either.  It would make me insecure, like you would have desires that I couldn't exactly fill, so I would fear you would leave me.  But, if I loved ya, that fear could inspire me to do what I have to do to attempt to fulfill that desire.  Still, even if I'd do it, it wouldn't effect me postively.  I'd still feel that insecurity.

 As far how I pictured ya, I guess I pictured a human version of the lioness you posted, with less curves and smaller jugs than you mentioned.  I did get the impression that you're probably attractive.  I also talked about how I didn't get the deal your boyfriend was making with this.  I thought you guys were furries?  And the biggest thing that strikes me as odd, is that he said its ok for you to masturbate to porn!!!!!  Where is he in the equation in THAT!!!   And, how is that justice being served?  Did he catch you masturbating to a picture of scout?  No, you ASKED him if he wanted to be INVOLVED in your sexual fantasy.  He didn't ask you, he did it behind your back. and he did it without you involved.  Big difference. 

 

Heh, she's supposed to be a lioness version of me, there's a little exaggeration on the eye-color though. Hehe.

 

We are furries, to a limit. We like other things aside from furstuffs too, which is cool 'cause we're not confined to one thing. We don't use fursuits though.

 

I find it really odd that he gives me permission too. Go figure. I don't look at it because it would feel too hypocritical to me.

 

Also, I dig the hbo porn.  Its good clean classy porn!  One of the things I learned with debating it, is that those girls in hard core are really prostituting themselves.  They are getting paid to have sex with a stranger! 

 

We liked the HBO thing because we had nothing else to do and it was funny as hell.

 

And, I'm sure he wouldn't have reacted postively to the black man thing.  I'm not sure I would either.  It would make me insecure, like you would have desires that I couldn't exactly fill, so I would fear you would leave me.  But, if I loved ya, that fear could inspire me to do what I have to do to attempt to fulfill that desire.  Still, even if I'd do it, it wouldn't effect me postively.  I'd still feel that insecurity.

 

I agree. With like...everything you said here. It would be pretty damn hard for him to fulfill something like that.


 

 
September 11, 2008, 10:35 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: redfeathers

 As far how I pictured ya, I guess I pictured a human version of the lioness you posted, with less curves and smaller jugs than you mentioned.  I did get the impression that you're probably attractive.  I also talked about how I didn't get the deal your boyfriend was making with this.  I thought you guys were furries?  And the biggest thing that strikes me as odd, is that he said its ok for you to masturbate to porn!!!!!  Where is he in the equation in THAT!!!   And, how is that justice being served?  Did he catch you masturbating to a picture of scout?  No, you ASKED him if he wanted to be INVOLVED in your sexual fantasy.  He didn't ask you, he did it behind your back. and he did it without you involved.  Big difference. 

 

Heh, she's supposed to be a lioness version of me, there's a little exaggeration on the eye-color though. Hehe.

 

We are furries, to a limit. We like other things aside from furstuffs too, which is cool 'cause we're not confined to one thing. We don't use fursuits though.

 

I find it really odd that he gives me permission too. Go figure. I don't look at it because it would feel too hypocritical to me.

 

Also, I dig the hbo porn.  Its good clean classy porn!  One of the things I learned with debating it, is that those girls in hard core are really prostituting themselves.  They are getting paid to have sex with a stranger! 

 

We liked the HBO thing because we had nothing else to do and it was funny as hell.

 

And, I'm sure he wouldn't have reacted postively to the black man thing.  I'm not sure I would either.  It would make me insecure, like you would have desires that I couldn't exactly fill, so I would fear you would leave me.  But, if I loved ya, that fear could inspire me to do what I have to do to attempt to fulfill that desire.  Still, even if I'd do it, it wouldn't effect me postively.  I'd still feel that insecurity.

 

I agree. With like...everything you said here. It would be pretty damn hard for him to fulfill something like that.


 

Heh, she's supposed to be a lioness version of me, there's a little exaggeration on the eye-color though. Hehe.

 

We are furries, to a limit. We like other things aside from furstuffs too, which is cool 'cause we're not confined to one thing. We don't use fursuits though.

 

I find it really odd that he gives me permission too. Go figure. I don't look at it because it would feel too hypocritical to me.

 

If it ain't too personal could you elaborate more on this furstuff?  All I know about it, is based on that csi show were they all dressed up on constumes.  So, I'm not sure what ya mean when ya do that stuff without the suite.  Do you design your own characters on some online fur community? 

 
September 12, 2008, 6:56 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

Quote From: turkalurk

Heh, she's supposed to be a lioness version of me, there's a little exaggeration on the eye-color though. Hehe.

 

We are furries, to a limit. We like other things aside from furstuffs too, which is cool 'cause we're not confined to one thing. We don't use fursuits though.

 

I find it really odd that he gives me permission too. Go figure. I don't look at it because it would feel too hypocritical to me.

 

If it ain't too personal could you elaborate more on this furstuff?  All I know about it, is based on that csi show were they all dressed up on constumes.  So, I'm not sure what ya mean when ya do that stuff without the suite.  Do you design your own characters on some online fur community? 

Well, lemme clear one thing up, it is NOT based on CSI. To tell the truth, the furry community HATES that episode, because it paints a really bad picture of furries, and labels us as people who just use fursuits and have sex with eachother pretending to be animals. Forget everything you saw on CSI, because it's really messed up.

 

Furryism extends to more than just a sexual fetish as well. They are sometimes also called "anthros." A furry isn't necessarily a sexual character, but simply an animal that has human attributes and personality. Take for example, the Disney Robin Hood. All the characters in that movie are furries (or anthros).

 

People who like furries usually explore both ends of the spectrum with furry art. There is lots and lots of clean furry art out there. Take for example, goldenwolfen.com is an art site where the artist, Golden Wolfen, puts up her art. Usually it is wolves, werewolves, bears, big cats, etc. None of which are depicted sexually, and the site is safe for anyone to look at. Not to mention Deviantart is a treasure trove of people's characters.

 

Also, people can create anthro characters for Role-play games, like D&D, but there are some forums, actually most forums that don't even have anything to do with furries, have user-created rp's that involve the creation and use of anthro characters. I have several. Two werelions, a basilisk, two dragons, and even once I had a skunk and an orangutan.

 

As far as creating one's own personal furry character, called a "fursona," usually people pick an animal, probably their favorite (the most common and, I believe, OVERUSED is the wolf) and it can be their online personality. It doesn't have to be on a furry site either. Any site one pleases. Shoot, I could use my lioness here if it didn't bother anyone (her name is Pandora).

 

The sexual part can include drawing racey or pornographic pictures of certain characters. I sometimes draw my lioness and my boyfriend's character (a Horse)  for him. I have a little drawing book specific for that. Sometimes people roleplay as their characters, so it's pretty much the same as sexual roleplay in any other sense, except it's more personal to the couple using their own, self-designed creatures.

What my boyfriend and I do, is sometimes we roleplay as our respective characters. Before his horse character was created, we roleplayed as the two werelion characters, Ivy and her mate Lucas. I described to him how a male lion mates with a female (which is actually pretty kinky when humans do it the same way...'cept longer) and he enjoyed it a lot because of the position of male dominance was fun.

 

A fursuit is simply a costume of someon'es character or just a costume of the prefered animal personality. Some people custom-design costumes of their characters (I've seen some really amazingly done ones) and use them for Halloween and conventions. Yes, there are furry conventions, and those are generally gatherings for furry artists, both tame and adult, comic artists that have animal characters in their comics, costume designers, and the general furry/anthro community. Sometimes people use their costumes during sex to add to the roleplay aspect, but costumes are more often used for the things described above.

 

A person who calls themselves a "furry" usually has their own character, and enjoys furry art and costuming, not always just into that fetish. Sometimes a furry will be into both things actually, like my boyfriend and I. It's usually only the more extreme furry-porn goers that use fursuits during sex.

 

The reason we hate that CSI episode is because it depicted only the extreme side, and the fursuit side. It portrayed the idea that's what furries are. It doesn't touch on the art, it doesn't touch on the character creation/use outside of sexual activity, it didn't touch on conventions, online fursonas, rpg's, or anything else I mentioned. CSI portrays us as "weird" "out there" and some people even think that it's one step away from bestiality, and that's a huge insult. Unfortunately, that's what my boyfriend's mom thinks, and now he's scared to even show her any of his art that he has done of his characters, none of which are pornographic or adult-oriented. Basically, CSI has smeared the furry community. It makes us look bad. It created a stereotype that furries are unfortunately tagged with.

 

So that's a furry. I'm betting now that it's not what you were thinking eh? This lion (I like this one) is some furry art from Dark Natasha (whom does both tame and adult art)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The tiger warrior is also furry art, and is from Golden Wolfen.

 

 
September 13, 2008, 12:45 pm CDT

Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?

I don't think CSI was trying to portray the average furry.  Some people are just like that, they see something on t.v. and assume its the norm.  When you said you didn't dress up in costumes, I figured it would be about like you described.  That's pretty neat that you guys just so happen to be interested in something like that.  How did you guys meet?  Is it a popular thing where your from? 
 
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