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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:16:34 pm
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Do you have sexual needs or desires that you're afraid to express? Share your story.

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January 9, 2006, 11:13 am CST

Afraid to Ask for What You Want?

I want to have Anal sex with my  Girlfriend, how should I ask her?
 
January 11, 2006, 3:12 pm CST

Afraid to Ask for What You Want?

Quote From: handofgod

I want to have Anal sex with my  Girlfriend, how should I ask her?

Now, considering this is what you actually want, and not some kind of joke, then you should just ask her.  I'm afraid there really isn't a more romantic way of asking.   There is nothing more to it.  If she says yes, then good for you, if she says no, then move on and don't ask her again for a good while.  Do not pressure her into it because she might not ever want to do it.  All you can do is ask. 

 
January 11, 2006, 4:01 pm CST

Afraid to Ask for What You Want?

Quote From: mvoisinet1

hi kitten i think that premaritial sex is totally wrong.god instituted sex for marriage and thats where it belongs.condoms are good protection from aids and the hiv virus but i think that a person should abstain from all sexual activity until they are properly married in the eyes of the church and the eyes of god.1 corinthians 6:13 further quotes:meats for the belly and the belly for meats.god shall destroy both it and them.now the body is not for fornication but for the lord and the lord for the body.as far as birth control is concerned birth control of any kind shouldnt be used.its up to god wheather the child should be born or not.and its up to go to determine wheather the child should live or die.
I think birth control should always be used.  Simple as that( if you do not want to get pregnant)  People are going to have sex, it is a natural thing, and they need to be protected against disease and an unwanted pregancy.  We make a decision whether or not to have sex, and we need to make the appropriate choice on what to use.  We have control on what we do and don't do.
 
January 13, 2006, 1:10 pm CST

Hubby not satisfying me

I have been married 11 years with 2 kids now.  My husband was a virgin when we married, and we've had a normal sex life until now.  He does not give me oral sex but sure likes to receive it.  He is not big on foreplay either.  I have asked for him to pleasure me the way I'd like to be but it doesn't happen.  Over the last couple of months, he has been logging onto an internet porn site and I've found this information in the computer history.  He would not dare let me know he is doing this as he is pretty religious man.  Some things he's seen on this porn website, he's incorporated into our love making which has spiced up the normal positions we'd use (me or him on top only).  We don't use sex toys, but I want to start doing so to make sex more fun.  I'm not sure how to let him know I want to use these toys to bring more heat to the bedroom.  I know he has seen some of these toys on the porn site he's viewed but there again, he does not even know that I'm aware of him even being on that website.  I am 30 and have a great sex drive which needs to be fulfilled by my husband.  Please offer insight and advice. Thank you
 
January 13, 2006, 3:30 pm CST

oral sex

I have this problem with oral sex. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half and are heading toward marriage. I have performed oral sex on him, though I sweared I would never, and I really did not like it! Now he expects me to perform oral sex all the time when we are married, but I really do not want to! He has told me that he does not feel like I love him enough to give him oral sex! I love him more than anything, but I cannot stand giving oral sex. I really need someones help! 

  

  

Please help!.... Anyone 

 
January 14, 2006, 12:04 pm CST

NO WAY!

I have no problem asking for what I want. 

  

I don't know how the hell this happened, but I have loved women's feet SINCE I WAS FIVE.  I had no problem asking the girl next door in letting me look at her bare feet.  I was seven and she was six.  I don't care what people think about it. 

  

If a woman has a problem with it, I rehotically ask, "Would you rather I be intrested in YOUR RACK?" 

  

It's then that they think about it and decide that I'm not really so strange, after all. 

  

All  a woman has to do is turn me on with her bare feet and she'll be rewarded-and no heels during sex.  I hate that. 

 
January 14, 2006, 12:04 pm CST

NO WAY!

I have no problem asking for what I want. 

  

I don't know how the hell this happened, but I have loved women's feet SINCE I WAS FIVE.  I had no problem asking the girl next door in letting me look at her bare feet.  I was seven and she was six.  I don't care what people think about it. 

  

If a woman has a problem with it, I rehortically ask, "Would you rather I be intrested in YOUR RACK?" 

  

It's then that they think about it and decide that I'm not really so strange, after all. 

  

All  a woman has to do is turn me on with her bare feet and she'll be rewarded-and no heels during sex.  I hate that. 

 
January 15, 2006, 2:21 pm CST

Afraid to Ask for What You Want?

me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 yrs and i am inlove with him and i believe he is in love with me.. we have a 1 yr old son together.  but this mught sound strangs but i just want some input.  My boyfriend and my sex life is great except when he asks me to get on top.  i havent been with many people so when it comes to that i get nervous plus he is 28 ans i am 21 and i know he is way more experienced then me.  like he wants me to do the reverse cowgirl and other things but i have a fear that im not going to do it right and hes going to laugh or be turned off..   if u have any advice for me please let me know 

  

 
January 15, 2006, 2:25 pm CST

Afraid to Ask for What You Want?

Quote From: cismaru

I have this problem with oral sex. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half and are heading toward marriage. I have performed oral sex on him, though I sweared I would never, and I really did not like it! Now he expects me to perform oral sex all the time when we are married, but I really do not want to! He has told me that he does not feel like I love him enough to give him oral sex! I love him more than anything, but I cannot stand giving oral sex. I really need someones help! 

  

  

Please help!.... Anyone 

is it that u just dont like giving oral sex or u dont like being asked?  i like oral sex and always liked giving it but i know that at frist i didnt.  i got into it when i started pleasing myself at the same time.  Dont look at it like ur just pleasing him... get into it and try to enjoy... im sure u like having oral sex performed on u right?  and if he didnt u would wonder why he didnt want to... probably the same goes for him... u dont have to do it all the time just do it every once in a while.  just to give him that pleasure. 
 
January 15, 2006, 4:10 pm CST

Afraid to Ask for What You Want?

Quote From: kendellsma

me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 yrs and i am inlove with him and i believe he is in love with me.. we have a 1 yr old son together.  but this mught sound strangs but i just want some input.  My boyfriend and my sex life is great except when he asks me to get on top.  i havent been with many people so when it comes to that i get nervous plus he is 28 ans i am 21 and i know he is way more experienced then me.  like he wants me to do the reverse cowgirl and other things but i have a fear that im not going to do it right and hes going to laugh or be turned off..   if u have any advice for me please let me know 

  

My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years now and have been married for four.  He is the only one that I have ever had sex with so I understand where you might feel a little uncomfortable with taking control.  But believe me, your man is happy that he is with you and no one else and I'm sure he wouldn't laugh at you.  I actually like being on top because I am in control, and it feels better I think.  I'm not even sure if there is a "right" way to have sex, just do what makes you feel comfortable.  It is going to take some getting used to, but hey, that's fun also.  Just relaxe and go with the flow.  Do you do many different positions?  If you do then try off with one of those and then switch to being on top, that way you are already relaxed and into it.  Hope this helps.
 
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