Well, I think that loving with your eyes is part of loving with your heart. Just as much as your nose, sense of touch, hearing and taste are. Your senses determine together if you like someone or not. Maybe in the first instance you will look at a partner and see a confident person, see a face with certain key-elements wich display youth and health.
Then you'll approach them and you will talk to them hearing a vioce you feel comfotable with, a voice which interests you. The eyes see a person that is displaying interest in you. A smile on a face.
You will smell their body odor, subcounsiously getting information about there imune system and consiously getting a smell which give you a pleasent feeling.
You touch the person liking how the feel they touch you indicating they are really interrested.
You kiss, approaching their face you can see the details of theirs. the lips touch you close your eyes so that you can feel taste smell and hear the other person even better.
You see loving is done with your senses, including the eyes. that doesn't mean that you need to be skinny as a woman. Not every man likes the same kind of woman. It is much more about confidence. You need to display your interrest in the other person, 70% of communication is done without speaking you know.
www.sirc.org has an extensive guide to flirting if you are interrested.
