Topic : Body Image & Sex Appeal

I am in a very commited and very open relationship.  My boyfriend of 2 years is the most handsome man in my eyes and I truly love him to pieces.  I think he is the sexiest man alive and I would never change him for the world.  He is 5'10", 185 lbs, he has a little tummy and skinny little legs but i love him just the way he is ...the fact that I am able to cuddle with him and be totally comfortable with him (physically), is so amazing to me.  He is the perfect size for me.  Every time we cuddle or make love it is amazing because we are the perfect size for one another.   

I have always looked at the guys who were 6'4'', slim but muscular build, tall, dark and handsome, sorta guys, but I was not turned on at all when we had sex.  i just liked looking at them.  Their bodies were too hard, or to muscly (nothing to hold on to).   They were too big, as I am only 5'4''.  The dimensions just didnt work for me, but I definitely like looking at them... just eye candy... nothing more than that.  

So, I kinda understand where your man is coming from when he says that he likes to look but does not want anyone but you... all of us look, we can read the menu, we just dont order... and i really dont think that he wants someone other than you if he looks at it the way I do... I definitely dont want anyone else and I am soooooooooooo happy with the man I have... and the men i look at are nothing in comparison to what i have... I would rather have someone shaped like my man instead of a big, strong and muscly guy any day of my life.... 

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Does anyone, or has anyone felt the same?  When he met me, I was fit and active, I was at my goal weight and very attractive even by MY standards, which says a lot.  But now I feel awful.  I can't even get socks on anymore, but he's still trying to convince me that I am sexy.  

Please share your feelings about this.  

Thanks  

There is so much more to a person than just a body and boobs. 

The fact that your husband told you that he likes to have a look at 'perky breasts and tiny bodies' doesn't  mean that he will jump one first chance he gets,  I honestly think that if he had other intentions or did not feel the way he does about you he would not have been so open about it. 

You are the mother of his children,  and I presume that his love, care and pride for you and them exceed far beyond some perky breasts on tv. 

I can totally understand you being insecure about this,  talk to him tell him how you feel. If he isn't into porn sites, etc., I really think that you don't have to worry that he will do something stupid. 

Talk things out with him as life is too short and precious to waste on being miserable and sad. 

Good luck! 

  I've never posted here before, I am a recently married woman that is about 35 pounds overwheight - all of which I've gained since our marriage in May.  I absolutely hate the way I look.  I don't want my husband caressing or kissing my stomach - or even to look at me naked.  sorry folks, I think my boobs are too small and my stomach and but too big.  Who would be attracted to that?  I had a hysterectomy the fall before we got married and now have a huge ugly scar.  No kids which I desperately wanted and just a fat stomach!  I was raped 3 years before we got married, had never had sex with anyone else - my virginity was taken in every way and I can never get that back  nor could I give it to my husband. 

   We rarely have sex as he is older and has a hard time having an erection.  I feel like it's my fault and he is unattracted to me.  The couple of times we have tried to have sex, we don't fit.  I am too small for him - it is very frustrating for me.  I know I push him away at times.  What can I do?  I want to want to have sex.  I want to be able to have sex.  I don't know if it's even worth trying anymore.  I am only 34 and he is 48.  jewels 

I am due to give birth soon and I can tell you my husband can't get enough. 

This is my second child the first leaving me with stretch marks up to my belly button, never once has my husband said anything about it and why?? We have a beautiful daughter and one on the way, trust me this not feeling sexy thing will seem very insucnificant when you first hold that beautiful child in your arms and fall in love so fast, we tend to forget ourselves and focuse completely on them as we should. My husband and I met at 19 and let me tell you I haven't kept the six pack, he still tells me I'm gorges and that he loves me and thats all I need. Pregnacy lasts 9mnths  and you'll be heading back to normal in no time enjoy the kicks and movement and embrace this time. I hated being pregnant with my daughter but I missed it when it was over. 

good luck 

I am a 24 and a mother of 2. My husband could not get enough of me when i was pregnant. It could be 8am 1 if the afternoon, or bed time, he didnt care. MEN FIND PREG. WOMAN SEXY!!!!!!!! many of my husbands friends say as well, they find their preg wifes sexy. what could be sexier than creating a life inside of you. Trust me, you may feel horrible and ulgy, but when your baby comes out  and its 6 months postpardum, you will miss the feel of your little one inside of you . enjoy your pregnacy and take every complament your man gives you.  

our daughter is almost 2 now and my husband still talks about sex when i was pregnant. men love it.