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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:17:04 pm
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How you feel about your own body translates into how sexy you feel and how your partner perceives you. What do you do to feel sexy?
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December 20, 2005, 10:04 pm PST

what tha?!!

ok i'm a 24 year old mother of 4. 3 my birth children. my husband and i have been married almost 4 years. i am very insecure of my looks. my husband says i'm the most beautiful woman in the world and that no other woman's body was made especially for him as mine was. anyway my husband finally admitted to me a couple DAYS ago that he actually enjoys looking at breast shots on tv and movies. he likes to look at small perky breasts and tiny bodies. he says he's not SEXUALLY attracted to them b/c he likes to make love to MY body type. so someone please explain to me why a man who can't stand the thought of having sex with the perfect type women just " beefy " ones but likes to Look at perfect women but won't gawk at his own wife? what's the point? even though he would never go any further with someone else just the knowledge that my husband enjoys looking at another woman still hurts just as much as if he did more than look.
 
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December 20, 2005, 10:05 pm PST

what tha?!!

ok i'm a 24 year old mother of 4. 3 my birth children. my husband and i have been married almost 4 years. i am very insecure of my looks. my husband says i'm the most beautiful woman in the world and that no other woman's body was made especially for him as mine was. anyway my husband finally admitted to me a couple DAYS ago that he actually enjoys looking at breast shots on tv and movies. he likes to look at small perky breasts and tiny bodies. he says he's not SEXUALLY attracted to them b/c he likes to make love to MY body type. so someone please explain to me why a man who can't stand the thought of having sex with the perfect type women just " beefy " ones but likes to Look at perfect women but won't gawk at his own wife? what's the point? even though he would never go any further with someone else just the knowledge that my husband enjoys looking at another woman still hurts just as much as if he did more than look.
 
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December 25, 2005, 12:57 am PST

Body Image & Sex Appeal

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ok i'm a 24 year old mother of 4. 3 my birth children. my husband and i have been married almost 4 years. i am very insecure of my looks. my husband says i'm the most beautiful woman in the world and that no other woman's body was made especially for him as mine was. anyway my husband finally admitted to me a couple DAYS ago that he actually enjoys looking at breast shots on tv and movies. he likes to look at small perky breasts and tiny bodies. he says he's not SEXUALLY attracted to them b/c he likes to make love to MY body type. so someone please explain to me why a man who can't stand the thought of having sex with the perfect type women just " beefy " ones but likes to Look at perfect women but won't gawk at his own wife? what's the point? even though he would never go any further with someone else just the knowledge that my husband enjoys looking at another woman still hurts just as much as if he did more than look.

i think what really matters is if he loves you or not. i mean that in itself is really all you need. so what if he looks at some chick's rack. everyone looks. it's like biological. but if he loves you then all is won. 
 
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December 25, 2005, 9:03 pm PST

thanks

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i think what really matters is if he loves you or not. i mean that in itself is really all you need. so what if he looks at some chick's rack. everyone looks. it's like biological. but if he loves you then all is won. 

thank you very much for that. i knew that and all anyway but i guess i let my insecurities about myself doubt him instead of trusting in his love and listen to his whole story before i blew up. after i posted my story we talked more about it and he told me that the women on tv and movies are the only ones that entice him to look and he really doesn't know why but women in person just don't tickle his fancy only i do because he says i'm as close to perfect as a tv or movie girl without having surgery to look that way. so all is good. those kind of women are unattainable anyway, right?
 
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January 2, 2006, 9:46 am PST

I am the same way

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ok i'm a 24 year old mother of 4. 3 my birth children. my husband and i have been married almost 4 years. i am very insecure of my looks. my husband says i'm the most beautiful woman in the world and that no other woman's body was made especially for him as mine was. anyway my husband finally admitted to me a couple DAYS ago that he actually enjoys looking at breast shots on tv and movies. he likes to look at small perky breasts and tiny bodies. he says he's not SEXUALLY attracted to them b/c he likes to make love to MY body type. so someone please explain to me why a man who can't stand the thought of having sex with the perfect type women just " beefy " ones but likes to Look at perfect women but won't gawk at his own wife? what's the point? even though he would never go any further with someone else just the knowledge that my husband enjoys looking at another woman still hurts just as much as if he did more than look.

I am in a very commited and very open relationship.  My boyfriend of 2 years is the most handsome man in my eyes and I truly love him to pieces.  I think he is the sexiest man alive and I would never change him for the world.  He is 5'10", 185 lbs, he has a little tummy and skinny little legs but i love him just the way he is ...the fact that I am able to cuddle with him and be totally comfortable with him (physically), is so amazing to me.  He is the perfect size for me.  Every time we cuddle or make love it is amazing because we are the perfect size for one another.   

  

I have always looked at the guys who were 6'4'', slim but muscular build, tall, dark and handsome, sorta guys, but I was not turned on at all when we had sex.  i just liked looking at them.  Their bodies were too hard, or to muscly (nothing to hold on to).   They were too big, as I am only 5'4''.  The dimensions just didnt work for me, but I definitely like looking at them... just eye candy... nothing more than that.  

  

So, I kinda understand where your man is coming from when he says that he likes to look but does not want anyone but you... all of us look, we can read the menu, we just dont order... and i really dont think that he wants someone other than you if he looks at it the way I do... I definitely dont want anyone else and I am soooooooooooo happy with the man I have... and the men i look at are nothing in comparison to what i have... I would rather have someone shaped like my man instead of a big, strong and muscly guy any day of my life.... 

  

  

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January 2, 2006, 11:24 pm PST

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 I'm amazed at how much we still fall for the hype about body image. As a male, 55, I can't believe that men and women push themselves so hard to get that right body when it really doesn't matter. Or maybe it's just me.

Anyway, any decent man will not worry about the body image. I mean, what's this thing about large breasts? Do you really believe that breast enhancement will make  you sexier? Perish the thought and any man who tries to convince you that your breasts are what makes you sexy. To me, it's not about large breasts, slim waist or the skinny you.

I would hope that you're comfortable within yourself, within the person you've become all these years. Isn't that more important then the image you're trying to gain or maintain. As for younger, sexier women. I'm sorry, but to me, women get sexier as they get older. I'm 55 now and wouldn't consider a woman in her 30s or 40s. Why? There's something so appealing about woman who is my age or older.

We have so much in common based on life history, life experiences. And I believe that a woman who has had children blossoms into a beautiful person. Honestly, it's not the size of your breasts or waist that determines you as a person. It's the inner self, the vibrant person you are, the interests you've gathered in those years of living.

None of that can be conveyed  in body image...

Live well..


You are one amazing man! I was just browsing the site and read your post.........it made me cry! I have been so stressed........could write a book on what I'm stressed over...........and body image is certainly one of them! I'm in my late 30's, have 5 children and my dh has never really complained about my body but I'm embarassed about my weight to a point where I feel sorry for him because he is with me. Thank you for the reality check! Wish the world had more men like you!!
 
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January 3, 2006, 10:38 am PST

How Do I Find Myself Sexy?

I am wondering if there are any pregnant women out there, who feel really ugly, because of the MASSIVE LOAD they are carrying in the front, honestly, I haven't even seen my parts in months and forgot what they look like, and I have a hard time believing that my fiance stil finds me sexy. 

Does anyone, or has anyone felt the same?  When he met me, I was fit and active, I was at my goal weight and very attractive even by MY standards, which says a lot.  But now I feel awful.  I can't even get socks on anymore, but he's still trying to convince me that I am sexy.  

Please share your feelings about this.  

Thanks  
 
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January 3, 2006, 7:50 pm PST

man's a jark

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 What kind of jerk are you married to. If he was married to me I would have kicked him so hard that his balls went up to his throat.
Be proud of yourself dont let the moron make you feel bad. Let your kids make you feel good and happy.

A man from Sweden

Honey, I think that he's sharing more then conversation  with the gal pal.........and the question I would ask her ...........who the hell do you think you are talking that kinda of stuff with my husband.......get your own damn man......leave mine alone and he can talk to me about my ass instead of you...................and if he continues to talk with gal pal............kick him to  the curve...............
 
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January 4, 2006, 8:30 am PST

Givers of life

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I am wondering if there are any pregnant women out there, who feel really ugly, because of the MASSIVE LOAD they are carrying in the front, honestly, I haven't even seen my parts in months and forgot what they look like, and I have a hard time believing that my fiance stil finds me sexy. 

Does anyone, or has anyone felt the same?  When he met me, I was fit and active, I was at my goal weight and very attractive even by MY standards, which says a lot.  But now I feel awful.  I can't even get socks on anymore, but he's still trying to convince me that I am sexy.  

Please share your feelings about this.  

Thanks  

I'm not pregnant, but I was only about five months ago and now I have a beautiful baby girl named Willow.  Yes, pregnancy can be hard and you do not feel sexy all of the time.  Before I got pregnant I was 110 pounds and I am not that anymore!  lol  But I am at a healthy weight now because believe me, having two children to run around with will help in weight loss.  But I honestly never felt like I was not sexy while I was pregnant.  Infact, I never felt more beautiful.  We women are the givers of life, everyone born has come from inside a woman.  Woman are the sole providers during pregnancy, in which, men can not carry the baby or feed the baby, and so we nurture the baby from the very beginning.  There is life inside of you and what can be more beautiful than that?   I feel that there is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant body and my husband agrees.  So believe your husband when he tells you that you are sexy, because I bet he is being honest.  You are carrying his child and he thinks that is sexy.  And if you are concerned about losing weight after birth, you can lose it.  You said you were very active so it is something you are used to and that makes it easier to lose weight.  Hope this helps and remember, you are carrying life and that is beautiful!  
 
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January 5, 2006, 2:32 pm PST

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ok i'm a 24 year old mother of 4. 3 my birth children. my husband and i have been married almost 4 years. i am very insecure of my looks. my husband says i'm the most beautiful woman in the world and that no other woman's body was made especially for him as mine was. anyway my husband finally admitted to me a couple DAYS ago that he actually enjoys looking at breast shots on tv and movies. he likes to look at small perky breasts and tiny bodies. he says he's not SEXUALLY attracted to them b/c he likes to make love to MY body type. so someone please explain to me why a man who can't stand the thought of having sex with the perfect type women just " beefy " ones but likes to Look at perfect women but won't gawk at his own wife? what's the point? even though he would never go any further with someone else just the knowledge that my husband enjoys looking at another woman still hurts just as much as if he did more than look.

There is so much more to a person than just a body and boobs. 

  

The fact that your husband told you that he likes to have a look at 'perky breasts and tiny bodies' doesn't  mean that he will jump one first chance he gets,  I honestly think that if he had other intentions or did not feel the way he does about you he would not have been so open about it. 

  

You are the mother of his children,  and I presume that his love, care and pride for you and them exceed far beyond some perky breasts on tv. 

  

I can totally understand you being insecure about this,  talk to him tell him how you feel. If he isn't into porn sites, etc., I really think that you don't have to worry that he will do something stupid. 

  

Talk things out with him as life is too short and precious to waste on being miserable and sad. 

  

Good luck! 
 
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