Topic : Body Image & Sex Appeal

Dear Dr.Phil

My name is Daniela and i am a 25 year old female

I am in need of some major help..I have been with this guy for about 1 month now and he is wants me to be someone i am not,he wants me to shave down there and i am old fashion i live in the 1960's so my question is should i or should i not shave

What to do,like i asked all my friends and they tell me not to do it because its not me and my family and nieces tell me to shave because they do it..

and he likes woman who shave,who are into the hardcore sex and all that and i am not that person

What do i do,he wants to change me to someone that i am not..

help

D

You are wonderful as you are!

You are also in a splendid position of not being heavily invested in this man who is asking you to go against your natural inclinations for him.

there's nothing wrong with him asking, but once you express your reluctance, he should drop it and be happy with you as you are. 

If he can't drop it, then you should drop him and cast your line back out into the ocean. I hear there are plenty of fish out there!

That being said...I shall now give personal, yet practical testimony re, "shaving down there".  

My ex-husband wanted me to keep it shaved.   I did so because I figured it was no big deal, but I was ALWAYS dealing with stubble and (sorry this is so gross) bumps and it was just not a pleasant experience at all...yet...I tried to maintain the "lawn" so to speak ot keep him happy.

Now that he is no longer part of my life, I'm au natural and it's fine...good even.   There's a reason we have hair down there.    

And if this man you're dating is interested in sexual practices that aren't to your taste....well...clearly, you are incompatible. 

don't ever stay with someone who asks you to change who you are for them.

Hello all,

I'm engaged to a wonderful man but feeling a little uncomfortable because I am so thin and he's so very sexy and handsome.  I am 5'6" and weigh only 112 lbs. and the problem is I hate to eat most things.  Don't know why.  Now give me a shake of some kind and I'm a happy camper.  Because of this I'm losing weight and because my fiance' loves sex and we have sex so much that i feel he's sexing the weight off of me as well.  So because I feel so skinny, I'm not really happy showing my body during sex.  He doesn't care cuz he loves me the way I am but it doesn't help my sexual desires.  Can you help me?  I'm fairly attractive, but when I look in the mirror I don't think that I'm pretty.  Again, he's georgeous and I'd like to feel better about myself, please help.

You hate to eat most things? Is it because you don't like their taste? or are you afraid it is bad for you? What do you feel or think when you see/eat other things then a shake?

I believe that if you are confident in yourself then everyone including your partner will feel that "vibe" & see you that way them selfs.  Look at Queen Latifa, she's a bigger woman & she's confident in herself & look how sexy she is!  (I'm all for women who are more than skin & bones.)  My husband & I have talked about this before & we agree that confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear!

I also believe that the right clothing can show a woman & a man that their body that their body isn't so bad afterall . . if you dress for your size you will look & feel better to yourself & others.  I have heard before on the Discovery Chanel that in caveman days a woman with wider hips was more disired because it was thought they could bare children easier;  women with bigger breasts fed the children better & chubbier women knew how to cook!  Besides, if the person you are with really loves you, they could CARE LESS what you look like. 

Hum hi there... I'm new to this so bare with me. I'm a 21 year old boy from Portugal, who has senn a couple of Dr. Phil's programs. I'm not exactly a fan (and don't share his opinion on videogames), but my mom told me that I should post my problem here and see what people say. 

I think this is the right thread to post so here it goes... as I said I'm 21 and still a virgin. And not just sex virgin... I mean I never kissed or dated a girl ever in my life. Shocking, I know.  It's not that I haven't tried, and sometimes I think I tried too hard, I just... don't attract girls. I think it has to do with my physical appearance. I'm chubby, about 5,5, 183 lbs (used to be over 200), not very high on self-esteem, and I'm very shy. I have a lot of friends who are girls and they all say I'm an awesome friend, and a great person... but I think they would never, ever date someone like me. I see how their boyfriends look like, and they all look like what I'm not. As a result, I've become very bitter and angry, and I think girls are only just interested in looks, money and social status. I also have OCD, which makes it ahrd with girls, since I'm always obsessing if I've done something wrong and I usually think if it has, then it was my fault. And also when I addressed my problem at a board for teens and people my age I kept getting messages like "you're a loser", "tough luck fatty" and "virginity=FAIL".  I don't know what else to do... I'm not even looking for sex, I'm looking for a meaningful relationship so I can finally exepriment with love. Well, is somethng wrong with me? Am I the future "40 year old virgin"?