First and Foremost I would just like to tell Jwiz512,That what you are doing today is all that matters,it must have very difficult for you to manage to compile as much as you could of very extreme Abusive childhood into 1 meezely Paragraph,where it must have been almost impossible to get out all that you wanted to,as for me,and this is not to take it off you,but to even emphasize the fact that I understand your frustrations,and I am feeling such strong emphathy for you,my point here is that for me to tell everyone about my abusive childhood and how today I am a Survivor of being raped and molested as a child,and I know i could personally write a book or 2 on all that I had to endure growing up!The 1 Thing That I learned Not all that long ago either is That Predators and Molestors ,Like the ones we had to endure,it's through there threats of hurting us or even a closer family member if we were to talk about it,as well,as we have empowered our abusers Through Our Silence.I can't believe that we are living in the year(s) 2006-2007 and STILL Today,Abuse of all shapes and forms Continues in almost every other household,whether it be verbal abuse like some of dr.Phils Viewers who responded very Cold-Heartedly,without thinking thier thoughts out before they even spoke them not thinking or realizing that it has taken you 5 decades to just compose enough from the life you have had to endure,to say what you felt at the time to be enough to get heard,and I will pray for you that Dr.Phil is able to read this and can offer you some help.
I can't for the life of me Imagine that someone could really believe that a person has nothing better to do and is willing to expose thier True Identity to being exposed on National Televison to be heard and get whatever help,that could possibly be offered to them.I may not know your entire story and it would be extremely hard to tell here online when your limited to a certain number of words,so you are asked to keep it brief,so how can one possibly understand completely the extent of your pain if they have not walked a mile in your shoes.The same would apply to How do you know or believe that there is a higher power than ourselves ,is there A GOD,if you can see him,even though we have bibles and books that clearly state that there is a God,If a Tree Falls in the Forest does it make a sound,How do you know if you are not there to see it?These are just some examples of what I am trying to say about some of these Ignorant readers who are heartless,cold cruel,and truely did not think through what they were about to say to you,without thinking it through,or re-read what they wrote before they clicked send.here after 5 decades and such trauma you and your brothers went through as children,you should be comforted and rewarded,even if its only through self talk,and praiseing yourself for finally breaking that circle of silence thatkeeps that tight hold on our lives and to the point where its hard to Trust anyone with such Fragile Information,Look at what you had to endure in like You stated during your FIRST marriage and the loosing of your children,because of the guilt and shame you were made to feel at the hands of your husband.Also as Victims,we have a tendancy to attract other abusive people into our lives,its as if we have an invinsible sign rapped around our neck or a invinsible sticker stuck to our head that Reads I am a Victim Please come nd Abuse me more.Pay no Attention to those other Dr.Phil Viewers,who Have said Nasty things to you or called you a Liar,They should be Ashamed of themselves,they should have asked themselves Is this how Dr.phil would have talked to you,I personally think Not,as He is a Strong,Assertive yet very Compassionate man from all of his books that I have Read as well,as I watch him everyday,and thats not how he appears to me.
I believe that you have come a long way,and I'm pretty sure that this hasn't been the first attempt at reaching out for help,but I think you shouldn't quit and i would suggest that you pursue speaking to Dr.Phil,as well as show him you are also trying,by trying to find a womans clinic in your area that will help you to find the proper kind of councelling that you need,There are many free clinics,if you do like the other viewer suggested by contacting social services and tell them you need to speak with a Physcologist or even a Phyciatrist,to begin the process of healing.I think that its very sad that in todays society and it really doesnt matter where you live,but that Abuse is still something that we are brought up to not talk about,and its responses like the few you were left where If I had any control,over this web site,Those specific individuals and you know who you are,I wont mention your nicknames,as its not up to me,to determine if what you said to this lady who after many of years finally tried to come out and speak up,and you may have even sent this Victim many many steps backwards instead of encouraging her to continue to go forward and do the right things,it wont be easy,but just know that every step you take,you will have people like myself to turn to and talk with whenever nessasary.I strongly Feel That the producers of this web site should really look into what you had to say and the replies you recieved and the certain few should be banished from here.I believe in freedom of speech but I also believe there are limitations to what should be said.Many people from all parts of the world come here for help,not to be critisized,judged,or condemed for why they are here asking for help,tht in itself takes lot of courge and I commend you for all you efforts and I will pray that Dr.Phil reads your post himself,and that he is able to guide you in the right paths.
So,PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP-it Took so much for you to come forward.I also Believe That Money as sad as it is determines who will listen and who won't,and I am referring to the legal aspect of what you mentioned in regards to your brother.I only know that he has been in prison for 37 years,and you feel guilty for this,that if maybe you hd come out sooner with this that he may have either been released or have recieved a leaner sentence,but I don't know the Crime he committed,or if he deserves to be where he is or not! However,if the information about the abuse you endured as children would atleast get him an appeal based on some new evidence,thatwill atleast help him with a physcological assesment,and maybe even an overturn of the original sentence.I can't tell you anything is 100% but,if you feel this strongly that if you were to come forward that it may help,than continue to believe in the positive aspects of this,and continue with your journey,Think Positively from here on out ,Know that you were a victim here,and as you recover,and begin to understand that you have no reason to feel guilty about something you had absolutely No control in,and those whether it was Immediate Family or Not,They should still be held accountable,and their is power in Numbers,so try to get your other siblings to come forward with what took place when you were children an how it impacted your lives,the choises you made,and the overall Impact it has taken on each of your lives,I have listened to your story and I believe in you,I know how hard this is for you,and I know others will continue to listen also.what I do Understand that because it was your own Family that has hurt you so badly,but to you and me and many other victims of abuse,we are made to feel guilty that somehow if i was a better child,if I just did what I was told,if I was prettier,or stronger they wouldn't have done this to us,But the bottom line is that they are and will still be your family,but you need to let all that stinking thinking go once and for all,and finally move forward,I wont lie I am still struggling everyday,however,I am not able to FORGET but I FORGAVE them so that I could become a better person,a better wife, a better Mother to my children,and If I could do it,You Can to,Let the old ways go once and for all,be strong,dont take no for an answer,be assertive and begin to live in Today,Not Yesterday,and Not Tomorrow,Say the serenity prayer every morning when you open your eyes,and Thank your higher powerGod,if thats who it is,for helping you get through another day.Unfortunately i want to keep writing to you,I strongly feel you need to feel heard,but you can reply to what i said or if you just need someone to talk with in the meantime Ok,I will B here for you both spiritually and emotionally!my fingertips are freezing,I am diabetic and pregnant ,I know this what they call a high risk and stress isnt the best,but I am doing everything I should be,I know my Limits,even though I may push them at times,Keep me updated if you can,Sincerely your New Distant Friend,from Ontario Canada here,God be with you.I will try to be here for you whenever you need someone. Please EXCUSE any Misspellings I have made as again I am diabetic and my hands are very cold and i need to raise my Blood-sugars.Take care in the meantime
(Original Air Date: 11/17/06) It's often said that parents find true happiness when their child finds true love. But what happens when a mother suspects that her child may be sleeping with the enemy? Gerri fears that her son-in-law, Alan, is such a danger to her daughter, Melissa, and her grandchildren, that he may kill them. She claims Alan is molesting his 3-year-old daughter, and that Melissa is in denial. Gerri says she had no choice but to call Family Services. Alan and Melissa are outraged by the accusations and say Gerri is out to destroy their marriage. Alan maintains his innocence, and Melissa stands by his side. Could Gerri's guilt as a parent be causing her to make these serious allegations? Alan takes a grueling three-hour lie detector test to prove his innocence. Who will be the one apologizing when Dr. Phil reveals the results? Is Alan a monster or the victim of a malicious mother-in-law? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
lol i do hope your not going to give us another cliff hanger,
