Topic : 06/04 In-Laws’ Dirty Secrets Exposed

I seen the exact words which did notnclude he did not actually do it.  It is a fact that children tell after the perpatrator makes them angry, the do seek vengence.  Not that it did happen, I just worry that it was not clear if it did or did not happen.

Your words only:  I know a way to get even with Mr. ___. I will say he touched me where he shouldn't."

I cannot study a situation that does nto include the whole story.  Both sides. 

Sex offenders are in every field of life, none left out.

False accusations does happen far too often, usually by adults though not children.

I still pray this child was not abused.  I did nto see that statement as giving an absolute, especially from a boy, that it did not, just that it may or may not have.  Whatever lfie the child lives because of his parents does not change that, in fact makes him more vulnerable.

I do not assume, but someone did.

I definetly go through phases.  This is real and like I said I am still in shock that this happened to  MY family and it was MYdaughter and my husband who did this to her.  I guess I really want to talk to someone who has been through this to let me know that I am no crazy for all my mixed emotions.  I want someone to tell me there story how they stopped loving someone.  I have told him many of times dont expect me to loose my kids over you and dont ever put in a postion to choose cuz you would loose.  I guess I just miss him so much and cant believe he did this.  I read all the letters and know they are true.  I Thank God the abuse has stopped and never went all the way.  I guess there are 2 paths to take one is to say I forgive you.  Yes you can see your son but we are though and you will never have a relationship w/the girls.  The other path is forgiveness and see this as one of those hard hard things Christians have to go through as a tesimony to your faith and marriage that this will make our family grow strong and survive.  I see signs from God every day and really dont know what path he is leading me to.  Believe me I have heard everything everyone has said and then some.  I know my path will not even be a question when the time comes that he is out.  God did protect me and my family from the worst and he is with us every day.  I have just felt weak lately and just really miss him.  This isnt one of those cases to say what has he done this time it came from nowhere with no warning.  Said good bye and 10mins later a detective pulled up to tell me is being arrested in 5 minutes.  My daughter and I are extreamy close.  She has given me space to morn for him and I support her and her therapy.  My kids dont know how much I miss him well they probely do but I dont discuss these thoughts w/them its not like I am telling them that Dad is coming home they know he is gone.  I have taken the 4 yr old to see him 3 xs.  I really dont want and wont take that away from either of them they love each other unconditionaly.  The girls dont and I respect that .

I am making an appt w/the victims councelor at the prision.  I have been through alot of counceling and do really need one that specialize in these cases which I seem so alone and it is a rare case.