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Created on : Friday, November 10, 2006, 09:23:21 am

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(Original Air Date: 11/17/06) It's often said that parents find true happiness when their child finds true love. But what happens when a mother suspects that her child may be sleeping with the enemy? Gerri fears that her son-in-law, Alan, is such a danger to her daughter, Melissa, and her grandchildren, that he may kill them. She claims Alan is molesting his 3-year-old daughter, and that Melissa is in denial. Gerri says she had no choice but to call Family Services. Alan and Melissa are outraged by the accusations and say Gerri is out to destroy their marriage. Alan maintains his innocence, and Melissa stands by his side. Could Gerri's guilt as a parent be causing her to make these serious allegations? Alan takes a grueling three-hour lie detector test to prove his innocence. Who will be the one apologizing when Dr. Phil reveals the results? Is Alan a monster or the victim of a malicious mother-in-law? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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pidyjo

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November 17, 2006, 2:03 pm PST

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I feel that that Mother was just too controlling. Plus she is feeling guilty. I am a 52 year old Mother and my kids make bad choses, but I would never accused ANYONE of that with the little proof that she had. That is a very serious accusation. I cannot stand my oldest son's girlfriend, but I would never think to accuse her falsely. I believe that the person making up stories needs to serve time in jail so that they learn how serious it is. If people knew that they were going to pay for lies, they would think twice.

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spicegirl07

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November 17, 2006, 2:09 pm PST

The mother inlaw could not even say she was sorry

All I really have to say about today's show is I commend Dr Phil for seeing exactly what I saw once the polygraph tests results were read. I could not believe this mother in law was such a selfish and hateful person not to say she was soooo sorry for what she had said about this man she was accusing of molestation of his daughter. I understand that there are many people who really have been molested or are molesters, however, once a person is proven not guilty the accuser should be gracious enough to say they are sorry for the anguish they put the accused through. This proves that our system in America really does not work right, does it????

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samisnick

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November 17, 2006, 2:41 pm PST

Question

I missed the part of the show that showed the results of the lie detector test - I am so curious how it came out and what Dr. Phil said. Thanks

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weeziesmom

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November 17, 2006, 2:43 pm PST

Talk about MOMMY DEAREST!!!!!

I am so upset right now!!!! Gerri had the absolute nerve to come on the Dr. Phil show and accuse her daughter's husband of the things he did when she ALLOWED her own daughter to be molested more than once!!!! And did NOTHING AT ALL ABOUT IT who did she call then???? No one. If you ask me she is just mad because her daughter moved away and has a happy life without her in it and she can not control it anymore!!!!!! Well good for you Melissa!!!! You go girl and if I were you Melissa I would stay away from that no good mother of yours..............stay far far away!!!!! Some mother to allow the man who molested you to go unpunished then to be around you again to do it again. And poor Melissa's husband to be accused of what he has been accused of, that is something that will hang over his head, hopefully (and here in DE the show isn't even over yet) but hopefully when he is cleared he can sue Gerri for SLANDER, THAT IS HOW WE DO IT IN DELAWARE!!!!! ) Melissa you can't choose your mother, but you CAN be a good mom to your children and you CAN be a good wife to your husband. So you do that God Bless you, and Gerri, shame on you, you CREEEEEEP!!!!

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autumn47

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November 17, 2006, 2:46 pm PST

Gerri, you need help

After only 10 minutes into the show, it is so obvious that Gerri is an extremely unhappy, manipulative woman. After 10 more minutes, I had to walk away from the tv as I just couldn't stand watching her. She is happy being unhappy. She should be thrilled with her daughter, son-in-law, and your granddaughter - what a beautiful family. But obviously she is telling lies, and she is making their lives miserable - I feel so sorry for them. Gerri, look at Allan....and see the wonderful guy he really is. His warmth and personality come through and I never believed for a minute he would do anything harmful to his wife or daughter. Perhaps Allan is the wonderful husband you never had?

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weeziesmom

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November 17, 2006, 2:47 pm PST

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I would think that forcing a child to eat until she gags is child abuse. A child will eat when they are hungry and will not overeat unless they are forced. He may not be sexually abusing her, but it sounds like she is being abused in different ways. It is too bad they moved away because at least the grandma could keep an eye on her granddaughter to see how things are going. Why did they move away anyway? For a job or just to move?

I am a grandmother and I can see he is a very controlling person and I would be interested in the future of this child.

It sounds like she is being punished for nothing, like not eating when she is not hungry and what about being wrapped up in a blanket so tight she could not move.

I pray for this little girl and I hope Dr. Phil is sure about the outcome of this story.

Please, Dr. Phil, keep an update on this one. There is a fine line between discipline and abuse. Thank you.

Forcing a child to eat to the point of gagging IS child abuse, but like as was PROVEN on the show that MUTTER in law is a big FAT liar......and I hope the son in law sues her for slander. She is just pissed of because the moved away from her grips. She is a creep. There is NO WAY they were abusing those children at ALL sorry to disagree with ya!!

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jb271911

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November 17, 2006, 2:49 pm PST

Follow-ups?

Is this a follow-up of a show with these people on before?? My mother says it is a follow-up and that she saw these people before.

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purplepenny

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November 17, 2006, 2:51 pm PST

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It is situation like this exactly why I HATE the idea of "grandparents rights"....Grandparents should NEVER have any rights simply because they are grandparents. NEVER.

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hestiabhn

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November 17, 2006, 3:03 pm PST

I don't believe the test

I don't believe the polygraph test. I think everyone was wrong except the mother-in-law. She is not perfect.; it is awful that she didn't protect her daughter--but understandable given the times and her own background. And I can understand that she is trying to protect her grandchild now, to make up for past mistakes.

If some witness saw the father touching his daughter's private parts while tickling her (tickling alone can be a domination technique--and can be very abusive) then there is a definite red light Dr. Phil is ignoring.

He is also ignoring the fact that sex abuse is intergenerational. It sets up a psychological mind set that is passed on down through the family generationally. It keeps repeating until a few generations have been treated for it. The females just keep attracting males to re-enact the orginal abuse.

The husband fits the type described in the book, 'The Verbally Abusive Relationship.' Verbally abusive people are into domination. I don't trust him as far as I can throw him. I DO trust my gut and the mother-in-law's gut. But no one will know for sure until everyone has crossed over (died) and then it will be too late. We all know the truth there.

So now the father has carte blanche for molesting not only the daughter--but the new baby as well.

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jenlk1

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November 17, 2006, 3:03 pm PST

moving forward

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Do think hard about letting your mother-in-law see the children Alan as she could keep on poisoning the kids and getting them to say you are inappropiate in the future even though your not. She has caused so much trouble in your lives and dragging your lives on tv and to social services; I would just say..."You know what? We have thought hard about this and as for now, your grandmothering days are on hold until you get some mental health help". Good luck to you both on the great news of your pregnancy Melissa. Best wishes Deanne

I agree completely. There are some people in our lives that just continue to add poison. I have tried to be the better person and often when it comes to certain family members (not all) it just keeps coming back at me. It is my experience that you at some point have to say enough is enough and move forward. Good for you picking your husband and life long partner first. Don't ever loose site of that. Toxin have no place in our lives.

Jen

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