Topic : 06/04 In-Laws’ Dirty Secrets Exposed

Good God girl.... get yourself to a good counselor that you can relate to..  There is too much in your life to handle this alone..." You can't change what you don't acknowledge".. and to help anyone else... you must think of yourself first.......They have Clinics in most large cities that take people on a sliding scale as to what you can afford but for God's sake, reach out to someone professional and the only thing we really have in life is ourselves... we add people but the main one is YOU... Call someone right now and make an appointment.....I wish you well.

I firmly believe once our children are adults, we need to butt out.  We can love and give advice when we are asked.  But we are not to condemn their choices and we are not to raise their children.  If this woman truly believes her son in law is molesting the grandbaby, she better have good reason (proof) or she is just a busy body.  I can't wait to watch this show!!

Such a terrible story. 

 

This is your first step and I am sure it will be easier for you to talk about it.  Gosh.  Sorry for your grandmother, too bad if she cannot handle the truth.  If she dies in court, rest in peace! 

 

You must go to court.  You owe this to yourself, to your brother, and other brothers, and your family owe you all big time!  They must go to jail.  Simple as this.  You have hurt so much and for so long that it's not fair to anybody.  Those men are most likely raping other people, and they don't deserve to be free. 

 

You didn't have (and don't have) to put up with the husband.  Divorce him.  Don't even think about it. 

 

Good luck and I will definitely keep you in my prayers. 

 

I hope Dr. Phil will do something about this, everybody deserves a second chance in life. 

Such a terrible story. 

 

This is your first step and I am sure it will be easier for you to talk about it.  Gosh.  Sorry for your grandmother, too bad if she cannot handle the truth.  If she dies in court, rest in peace! 

 

You must go to court.  You owe this to yourself, to your brother, and other brothers, and your family owe you all big time!  They must go to jail.  Simple as this.  You have hurt so much and for so long that it's not fair to anybody.  Those men are most likely raping other people, and they don't deserve to be free. 

 

You didn't have (and don't have) to put up with the husband.  Divorce him.  Don't even think about it. 

 

Good luck and I will definitely keep you in my prayers. 

 

I hope Dr. Phil will do something about this, everybody deserves a second chance in life. 

Hi there!  Sounds like you're feeling pretty alone and overwhemed to say the least!  I don't know what is available in the US, but here in New Zealand, there are women's centres where you can talk to someone for free to get advice on all kinds of issues.  Some of these issues are on dealing with rape, self-esteem, how to get legal help and so on.  If you are able to find someone who can give you the support and direction you need, you will find that a lot of the despair you feel is lifted.  Having someone to share a burden and give direction makes a difference.  You are carrying the reponsibility of your mum's feelings (and health), but it is wearing you out.  You also sound like you feel guilty about things you are not actually responsible for.  Sometimes you have to do the right thing (which is speak out!), because if you don't you will always regret it.  Look at how this is making you feel now, knowing that your brother has been in prison for so long, but not saying anything for fear of your mum.  Get help and don't give up!  You have only one life, so make it your best!  Good luck!

 With so little to go on it is hard to say.  Social services should have the little girl given a complete physical exam by a pediatritian to see whether she has been molested.  What did the lie detector report come up with?  Why does the mother-in-law have these ideas of what is happening to her grandchild?  Are there others that have the same suspisions in the community?

Let me tell you, the First step was the hardest step so far that you have taken.     You Spoke out.! My Heart feels for you. you need to see a Phycotherapist. when you tell him all of this BY LAW! he has to REPORT THIS. why is your one brother in Prison? Did you tell your father? Neighbor? friends? Some Trusting Family Members? If your mother is involved who cares if she dies in court? she is as GUILTY as those who did these unspeakable acts to you.            # 1. Please know this is not your fault!

The Bible Says Whoa unto those who hurt Little Children.  

  Didn't you and your husband speak about things BEFORE you got married? Pointing a Gun at you? you should have gotten the Hell Out of Dodge!! 

 Of course, if they find she wasn't molested... then she'll have gone thru that exam for nothing in which case I'd be all over that mother- in- law for all the trauma and trouble she's caused