Topic : 06/04 In-Laws’ Dirty Secrets Exposed

you know, this is ridiculous. My mother did the very same thing to me. She accused my boys of molesting my daughter. Oh my God!! 2 weeks after she pulled some psycho phone call on me, she called 911 saying she had a hurt leg. Then when the ambulance got there, she wouldn't answer the door. All she said was "in the name of Jesus get away from the door..... well, it ended up she was in the psychiatric ward for 2 weeks. She is a little better but not much and I don't trust her. She was diagnosed with paranoia and schizophrenia. I think she went down hill after my father divorced her. She was also raised by an alcoholic father and I think she was molested herself. I'm just trying to put the pieces together and figure out why she would ever do such a thing. I've seen alot of older women go down hill over some trauma in their life. It upsets me. I know what this couple is going through and I sympathize with them. I don't know what the answer is for these type of mom's.  My relationship with my mom is distant but I do call her and check on her. Just realize there are Mom's out there that need help.   The mother may think she is exactly right in her own mind doing what she did and she needs a different way of thinking. My mother twists things around all the time and looks for an opportunity to start her mischieviousness. All of us sisters have figured her out by now.

She does nothing when her daughter says she was molested.

Later on, she allows her daughter to be alone with the same man.

Today, she's making accusations against an innocent man with absolutely no evidence.

You know who seems like they might "snap and murder someone"?   Gerri.

This was a three hour polygraph test....he passed. Going on what the mother in law herself said, she's a malicious vile woman, imo. Her use of 'buzz words' and phrases makes me think she's watched a LOT of TV shows or read a lot of books on this subject. I think she's a bit psychotic--her affect is so flat and she's so callous. She certainly never said she was sorry for putting that guy through hell. ESPECIALLY when it was second hand information.

Thank you she's not MY mother or my mother in law. Good Lord.

 

K

Oh, YOU KNOW IT! I just said the same thing! She seems psychotic, doesn't she? or heavily medicated. One of the two!!

There is just a crazy look in Gerri's eye! She seems psychotic and determined, like Alan said, to control here daughter. I think that Gerri is mentally ill and needs to seek help. I know that polygraph tests aren't admissable in court in my state, but it's enough for me. If Melissa didn't feel that she was endangering her children by staying with her husband, Mom should let it go!

I am ashamed of the responses you have received.  No one has the right to judge you based on this small amount of information.  It shows their ignorance that they can't even see that if you were trying to get on the program, there is direct access to send that to the show.  I wish you the best.  Hang in there and try to remember people love to prejudge others.

 

What a Wicked Witch.

 

I'm glad Dr. Phil pointed out the error of her ways and why she hadn't said anything to him.  She said something to her daughter, "I'm sorry you aren't in a situation of ..." which is so far to being a left-handed compliment -- to the point of making any reference to her SIL with her daughter she's gone more than three sides around the barn.

 

"Dad" was exceptional in the way he conducted himself, both before and after the lie detector test and didn't jump around and have a victory dance after the results were read.. He wasn't emphatic, as it would have looked suspicious like another "Dad" we saw recently.

 

What the MIL might find herself in is a situation where even her daughter will not look at her for visits. She's already been told is if her daughter has to make a choice, he's first, as it should be.  Grandma or not, I don't know I'd be so forgiving and invite her to stay at a local hotel (at their expense) so she wouldn't be "overrun" with all of the family activities.  I'm guessing he's bigger than I am about that and he'd allow her there but not provoke her.

 

On a good note, we're headed out to celebrate my wife's birthday (it's tomorrow) and we'll be celebrating our 20th anniversary Dec. 10th.  Not bad for only dating six weeks. (I knew I was out of her league and I'd be moving up. There was *no* way I was going to miss a chance. I didn't even have to beg.  My FIL and I were talking a few months ago and we were talking about "family stuff" (my wife is an only child of an only child, so I'm the son they didn't have) and somehow the question was "what will be the last thing I say to either of them on their deathbed?"  "Don't worry, he|she will always be taken care of, not matter what the circumstances are". I dread the day.  But as I said when I hosted their 50th anniversary last year, "some guys end up with a MIL, others a mother, but I've got another Mom (with my other Mom's hearty approval".  (side note:  I wasn't sure what I was going to say when I was waiting for everyone in until I pulled out my calculator and mashed some numbers.  "Today's society places a premium on certain things. When Mom & Dad got married, millionaires were a premium. Today, it's billionaires.  Poets liken people in love as sharing their hearts (and heartbeats). Tonight, we're celebrating two billionaires in our midst.  From my calculations, they've shared their hears for 1 billion, ....Dad, I was unleashed and inflicted  on the world from an abusive household.  I know it's been tough for you at times, but you still remain my model for what a man and a husband are supposed to be. Perhaps without realizing it, you've given me a lot of therapy and I can't imagine a better gift, other than your daughter. Happy Father's Day, Dad." (it was the day before Father's Day).  I had to sit down because I was starting to cry and I'd have to stop talking. I'm a bit steamy typing it right now.

 

Anyway, when it comes to in-laws, it's a two-way street, like all relationships. 

 

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p.s.

 

If someone wants to make use of the material above, be my guest. It's a gift to anyone who can refine it. I was only thinking a couple of words at a time as I spoke. Time & effort should improve it.

 

 

 I really think Gerri should have been asked to take a polygraph test to determine if she was truely concerned for her grandchild....or if she were just a meddling mom-in-law who cannot stand her daughter being happily married and making false accusations for control / attention.

Watching her on the show really made me doubt her sincerity