Topic : 06/04 In-Laws’ Dirty Secrets Exposed

I'm responding to the quote of the women who's husband won't bath their daughter.  I can't believe their is someone out their who is in the same situation as me!!! . we have a 7 & 4 year old & my husband has NEVER changed a diaper or bathed the kids for this reason. He has even gone as far as to have his sister come to the house to change a diaper if i wasn't around!. It was fustrating to me for some time, but now that they are more self sufficient it is becoming easier. Not to get the wrong idea, he is a wonderful father, but terrified of someone making a false allegation.

I know some people even think it's funny that he won't help , but it caused a big rift in our marriage for a while. I hope your stuff works out better!! I understand the fustration though!    

The grandmother was told by another family member about the alleged sexual abuse.  This other person said that she witnessed the father (rubbing his daughter's vagina) with her own eyes.  Why was this disregarded on the show?  In my opinion a father that would "thump" his two year old daughter on the mouth and then tell her not to cry is an abusive person.  Try not to cry if someone thumps you in the mouth - it hurts!  And it humiliates the child.  I thought that the video showed him handling that little girl in a rough manner when he picked her up too.  The daughter is ill-equipped to protect her own children after what her childhood was like and the whole family needs parenting classes. 

I admit the grandmother failed to protect her own daughter, but I bet anything that the grandmother also was molested as a child and she is trying to stop the pattern from repeating through the generations.  Why is it that Dr Phil did not answer the grandmother when she asked him if it was appropriate for a father to "thump" his two year old baby girl in the mouth?

That mom is just like mine. I moved away from mine as well, like 4 provinces west and I still can't stand her at times. Just like this mom on today's show, it's UNBELIEVABLE how much material I can relate to on these shows, I just can't keep quiet, especially on the subject of pedofiles and false accusations, I am against both in a very strong way, VERY STRONG. When my mother found pot in my pockets at the age of 15, she had the cops waiting for me before I could say what? but when it came to ME taking her X podofile boyfriend to court for the sick things he did to me, she was like aaahhh, and I quote "Stephanie this is your mother speaking and if you decide to go through with this, you're on your own" unquote. Just watching this stuff on Dr.Phil stirrs me up, I am happy to see all the exposure on tv with regard to this issue. It wasn't strength that drove me to take this thing to court, it was anger, RAGE! and I had to disown my mother for as long as I could (a year and a half it lasted) , she was against me confronting my attacker that SHE brought home. Where's your head when you say 'I didn't know what to do?' when someone does this to your child? Is this mother and mine in the same place? they look alike, if someone did this to my child, I've NEVER had kids, my mom doesn't deserve grandchildren from me, to just let the creep be in the same company as your child again after hearing about it ONCE, is pathetic, I don't even want to think of what I would do, Jude Judy couldn't have said it better than when she was on Larry King, I agree with her when she said that the only cure for a pedofile is death. Now with this father here force feeding his daughter, that among other things, promotes obesity, perhaps bulimia, it doesn't take an expert to figure that out, but I guess that's another show.

     I would've apologized even if it wasn't on the show. I'm not saying the SIL is perfect there are things that I don't agree with the thumping in the mouth incident  or forcing her to eat either but the test results revealed that he wasn't a molester.  If those tests can be fooled, why are they used so much, and why submit him to only one test?  If that other family member felt so strongly and witnessed him inappropriately touching his daughter, then that person should have been on stage ready to confront him with what they saw!  I know I would if I had seen anything like that.    I don't have any respect for meddling in laws although I'm not married I've had experiences with my fiance's meddling mother and some people just don't know when to draw the line.   Her daughter needs to get a backbone and live her life.  I think Dr. Phil should have a follow up show to check up on how things are going for this family.